Seeking Love Through Matchmaking For Marriage Relationship Iii

Seeking Love Through Matchmaking For Marriage Relationship (iii)

Matching tools adopted by matchmakers

We could see what most if not all the matchmakers are basically applying in matching people is the nowadays "scientific" tools.

Following are extracts from some matchmaker sites showing the tools and attributes that are most commonly adopted for matching people seriously seeking love and marriage relationships:

"... is the only relationship site on the web that creates compatible matches based on 29 dimensions scientifically proven to predict happier, healthier relationships. To help you better understand these 29 dimensions, we've grouped them into Core Traits and Vital Attributes. Core Traits are defining aspects of who you are that remain largely unchanged throughout your adult life.
Vital Attributes are based on learning and experience, and are more likely to change based on life events and decisions you make as an adult..."
"...matches you based on compatibility in the most important areas of life -- like values, intellect, sense of humor, and 25 other dimensions..."

"...is proven to be more effective than any relationship tool on the Web. By identifying your traits, we determine your romantic compatibility type and suggest ideal matches for you. And unlike the eHarmony experience, you're free to accept those matches or do your own search based on any criteria you choose..."

"...matchmaking system is based on 30 compatibility factors based on research and long time experience in successful introductions..."

"...matched with individuals that are balanced and counter balanced with your Key Core Compatibility Analysis as well as your physical criteria, personality requirements, hobbies, interests..."
"...who don't have time to meet the 'right' person, nor do they have time to waste with the wrong person. Our Members come to us to find someone that matches their lifestyles, attitudes, values and goals as well as someone matching their physical requirements...
...Life is short - but if you are with the wrong person it is long, very long."
"...matches based upon your desires, goals, motivations and our instincts..."

"...'You', Will be Matched -- With People of
Similar Backgrounds, Similar Interests, Similar Values, and Similar Expectations..."

"...who best match your...Values...Lifestyles...Interests...& Goals..."

"...Do you guarantee a 'match'?
No one can predict how a relationship will evolve. Our objective is to connect you with an individual who meets the specific criteria you provide regarding what you are looking for in a lifetime partner (not just someone to 'date'). After the two of you make the first connection, it is up to the two of you to proceed in a manner that is mutually appropriate..."

"...Our culture, interests, political views, career, education, class, religion and income level all indicate compatibility. We match our members with people who share ideas and lifestyle..."
"...Other important factors on which we base our proposals are self-esteem, self-confidence, sex drive, appearance, habits such as smoking/drinking and life style..."

"...a profile based on personal background, relationship history, family values and interests -- as well as personality type. A unique Psychographic Matching Process reaches into the basic character and personality traits..."

The phenomenon is overwhelming that almost all people in the matchmaking service industry truly believe compatibility is the golden rule for success...in love and marriage relationships.

BONUS : Seven Marriage Spice Ups

Ask the Marriage Maven: Seven Marriage Spice Ups

Q. My marriage is getting pretty dull. My husband and I are going through a low point where everything seems to be pretty boring. What are some things that we can do to spice up our marriage?

D.M.

A. First of all know that every marriage goes through it's high and low points. You guys are just in a natural part of the cycle. With that said, here are a few suggestions to make your marriage a little more interesting.

1) Stop complaining about the state of your union. Create an action plan for change and write it down. It’s okay if you’re the only one willing to spice things up at first. In time you’ll find that your spouse will be receptive to the changes you’ve made, especially if you don’t point out your changes or nag your spouse about changing.

2) I can’t say it enough, turn off the T.V. at least 30-45 minutes a day and spend time with each other. No distractions.

3) Date each other as if you weren’t married. Dress up, wear make up, cologne/perfume. Recreate your early years. Meet each other on site and pretend as though you’re meeting for the first time—or have your partner pick you up from work or home. The whole idea is to go all out.

4) Do nice things for each other. Completing chores around the house that your spouse hates doing is a great place to start.

5) Make a point to have a “second” honeymoon at least once a year. Any time from three days to two weeks is good. Even if you can’t get away, you can make a paradise at home. Make work take a back seat, and get someone to watch the kids (and even your pets). The point is to spend your focus on each other for a few days.

6) Live each day as though it were your last. Make sure you say the things you want to say to your spouse today and do the things you want to do for your spouse today. Don’t hold back a good word or a good deed when you know it can do a wonder for your relationship.

7) Take care of yourself. This tip is probably the most important. Make sure that your spiritual, emotional, psychological and physical batteries are charged. If you need to spend some time doing a hobby, visiting with some friends, or pampering yourself, do it! So long as your “me” time is in moderation, you’ll feel a lot healthier, and your relationship will reflect it.