Loneliness As A Key Factor In Dating Scams

Loneliness As A Key Factor In Dating Scams

In the course of my interactions while researching the romance scams, a 45 year old grandmother, told me of her dating troubles and how she was scammed of well over $3000. Her husband passed on a few years ago, and she had been living in a big house all alone.

According to her, she was very lonely and needed someone to talk to heart to heart. She said that even in the midst of friends, family and other relatives, she felt a deep void in her life, and she needed her own man to share her life with.

Given her status as a widow, she felt that the online dating scene would give her some measure of anonymity, while at the same time serving the purpose of bringing her in touch with the right man that she wanted.

That was why she signed up with an online dating service. Three months later, she had lost some thousands of dollars to a scammer.

But even with the fact that she was scammed, she has still been actively looking for a mate. According to her, she is lonely, and she would do anything to solve that problem.
As such, she has continued with her search for a partner online.

Now, hers was not the only case I came across .I know of quite some women, who got into the online dating scene because of loneliness. For most of them, they preferred to date any available person, provided he could giver them the attention they so craved, than live alone by themselves.

For example, a lady, who is 44 years old, and with 3 kids, is insisting on dating a guy who is half her age, all in the name of curing her loneliness. She has persistently refused to yield to appeals to reconsider her stance. To her, she is no longer lonely, and that is all that matters.

Many women are in similar shoes, although the situations and persons involved may vary. All the same, it appears that loneliness is a key factor that is driving many thousands of people into the online dating scene.

And this loneliness factor is one of the emotional needs of people looking for dates online, that scammers prey upon to operate successfully. They do all that they can to give maximum attention to their targets, and go the extra mile to attend to them. They send flowers, clothes, chocolates and other gift items on ordinary days, and on special days too.

As a lady put it to me, given that most of her family and friends hardly remembered her even on her birthday to send gifts or call her, getting such overwhelming attention from a man she met online in this manner, even if he was largely unknown to her, meant a lot to her. It made her feel much needed and wanted again, after her recent divorce.

The problem of loneliness has caused many men and women in the United States and other Western Countries to lose millions of dollars monthly to dating scams. And the scams are still going on up till this moment.

The best way to deal with the scams is to educate yourself about it so that you can prevent it from happening to you or your loved ones.

If you are still faced with the problem of loneliness and you wish to get a partner through Internet dating, then you need to know how to solve that problem, and how to meet the right persons online.

BONUS : Looking For Love

What does it mean to be looking for love? What kind of love are you looking for and from whom. What I mean is that there are all kinds of love. The love you feel for your significant other, the unconditional love you get from your kids, the love you feel for a certain kind of food (chocolate?), or even the love that comes from having a pet.

Let's face it, looking for love can mean all sorts of things to different people. But if your looking for the love of another person to share your life with, then what do you do?

You can go out with friends and hit the bars, but bars are notoriously bad places to meet the love of your life. Sure, you may meet someone and hit it off, but as most of us know picking up someone in a bar and living in a state of happy bliss the rest of your life with them is very realistic. Now if your looking for someone to just have some fun with maybe the bar route is a good idea.

One of my favorites is the blind date. These are usually set up for you by friends, co-workers, family members, etc. The problem here is what they may think is a good match is probably not what you are looking for. Nobody really knows what you are looking for other than you. Sure, they say you will like this person, or you two will get along just fine, but until you meet them you just don't know, and that can be kind of scary.

Of course there is the old tried and true just meet someone doing something you like because at least then you share that in common. This isn't necissarily true if you meet them at the grocery store because we all need to eat. If you're both reaching for the same frozen pizza you could say you have that in common, but is that something to base a relationship off of.

If your looking for love and I mean really looking then you need to find someone that you can share your every want and need and thought and desire with. Someone compatable with who you are as a person. In the past this was largely a hit and miss proposition, but with the advent of online dating services it has become much easier to find that special someone.

If you think about it an online date starts out as a blind date but you actually get to know the person before you ever meet them. You are also matched up with people who fit the description of the type of person you would be most compatable with, which takes the stress out of meeting someone who shares more than one thing in common with you. You know, just because you meet someone at the gym doesn't mean that they share your same interests other than being in shape.

The online dating world provides a simple way for those who are looking for love to find it. No more trying to meet someone on your own or through friends and co-workers. No more blind dates with someone your best friend thinks you'll hit it off with. A dating service is about the closest you can get to finding the real love of your life without ever leaving the comfort of your own home. Or does being set up with Gus from your mom's office sound like a better proposition.