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How To Overcome Online Dating Problems
It is exciting to meet someone you met at an online dating service. However, you must practice cautionary measures so as to avoid having problems when you meet him or her.
The following are some guidelines to have a hitch- and worry-free dating.
1. When meeting, do make up arrangements first. Since you barely know the person, do not let him or her meet you from your home.
2. Meet in public places. If it is okay with your date, you could ask another pair or some friends to go with you. If he or she is genuine in his or her interests, this shouldnt be a problem.
3. If you are having a lunch or dinner in a café or restaurant, you should shoulder half of the bill. By paying half of the bill, you are free from obligations that you have to meet the person again.
4. If you have your own mode of transportation, like a car, you should use it. Do not rely on a dates car so that you wont feel that you have to ride with him or her if the date turns awry.
5. Try to avoid alcoholic drinks while having the date.
6. If you are planning to meet your date the second time around, arrange for one and evaluate if he or she deserves to know your personal home address. Never give your address when meeting the person the first time.
7. Do not go to secluded and dimly-lit areas at night. Try staying in crowded places as possible.
8. Try listening to your intuition. If something doesnt feel right, then it would be better that you assess it. If something is really troubling you or is not right, maybe it would be best that you thank your date and leave as soon as possible.
9. Tell a friend your dates contact details and plans for the date. It might be wise for him or her to check you from time to time. You could also ask some friends to meet you and check up after your date with the person.
11. Remember: Do not ever give your personal contact information to a person you barely know. He or she should understand if you are not giving him or her your personal contact information, at least on your first date.
12. Be alert at all times.
Like traditional dating, online dating has some risks, including safety concerns. To avoid having problems in your online dating, just remember the tips above.
BONUS : How To Overcome Your Dating Anxiety
First of all know that dating anxiety is a common thing. Both men and women tend to suffer from this condition, especially if it is during the first date, or worse during a blind date!
Not knowing what to expect creates an environment of uncertainty. This is the time when individuals bask in self-doubt. They allow themselves to ponder questions that lead to anxiety such as: whether or not their dates are going to like them. They also wonder if they picked the perfect place, or just the right outfit for the occasion.
When individuals experience anxiety, every little thing, even trivial concerns are magnified a hundred times. This is why people who are experiencing this condition tend to worry about things that normally they would not worry about.
But strangely enough, it is these exact same elements that come with dating that some other people find exciting. They just love the rush that goes with greeting their date for the very first time.
Some like the anticipation of what is in store for the evening. They wonder if the night would actually end with a kiss, and secretly they try device a plan that would work towards meeting this end!
Unfortunately there are some people who are prone to developing anxiety attacks when it comes to dating! Luckily, there are some things that individuals can do to counteract this evil.
Here's a list of some of the things that you can do to keep dating anxiety in control:
1. Fess up. If your face is turning blue, and your hands are breaking into pools of sweat, it is pretty obvious that something is wrong. Why not explain to your date that you have a tendency to become nervous when it comes to dating.
Look at it this way, if you are with someone special, a person who truly cares about you, they will immediately come to your aid with words of comfort. Not only will they appreciate your honestly, but they will be supportive and make an effort to put you at ease.
2. Don't forget to breath! Sounds simple enough, but when a person is stricken with panic attacks their heartbeat becomes accelerated and sometimes even erratic. This is why some find it difficult to breath. The best thing to do in this situation is to take long, deep breaths. This will help calm you down, until you catch your breath.
If you are in a stuffy room, or a crowded place, it would be best to excuse yourself for a few minutes so you can get out and get some fresh air. Later if you wish, you can explain what happened to your date.
2. Don't blame yourself. Sometimes things don't run so smoothly despite our best effort to make things go as planned. Some unexpected thing always seem to come up!
If this unexpected thing happened to be that you did not succeed in getting a handle on your anxiety during the date, therefore resulting in a bad date, don't kill yourself with self loathing. Give yourself a break! Bad days happen to everyone, anxiety or no anxiety!
Besides if the person that you are going out with has true feelings for you, that person will be supportive. Just shrug it off, it is not a big deal!
4. Think positive thoughts. When a person starts to become riddled with self-doubt and apprehensions, this is the time when anxiety comes in.
Instead of beating yourself up mentally over your lack of self confidence and uncertainty, give yourself a pep talk. Tell yourself to relax, and enjoy the moment.
Remember that people's attitude shape their perception of their environment. So instead of focusing on your insecurities, focus on having a good time. A little bit of attitude tweaking goes a long way in helping keep anxiety under control.
5. Don't be too hard on yourself. Don't set a goal to be the perfect date! This will definitely lead you to an anxiety attack! Don't worry about saying the right things all the time. Everyone commits mistakes and foibles. The difference is most people don't dwell on it! This is why these people don't get anxiety attacks. They can just enjoy themselves.
Going on a date is never easy, whether you are a veteran of many heartbreaks or just new to the game. The important thing for individuals to remember is to not put too much pressure on themselves, but to have a good time!
First of all know that dating anxiety is a common thing. Both men and women tend to suffer from this condition, especially if it is during the first date, or worse during a blind date!
Not knowing what to expect creates an environment of uncertainty. This is the time when individuals bask in self-doubt. They allow themselves to ponder questions that lead to anxiety such as: whether or not their dates are going to like them. They also wonder if they picked the perfect place, or just the right outfit for the occasion.
When individuals experience anxiety, every little thing, even trivial concerns are magnified a hundred times. This is why people who are experiencing this condition tend to worry about things that normally they would not worry about.
But strangely enough, it is these exact same elements that come with dating that some other people find exciting. They just love the rush that goes with greeting their date for the very first time.
Some like the anticipation of what is in store for the evening. They wonder if the night would actually end with a kiss, and secretly they try device a plan that would work towards meeting this end!
Unfortunately there are some people who are prone to developing anxiety attacks when it comes to dating! Luckily, there are some things that individuals can do to counteract this evil.
Here's a list of some of the things that you can do to keep dating anxiety in control:
1. Fess up. If your face is turning blue, and your hands are breaking into pools of sweat, it is pretty obvious that something is wrong. Why not explain to your date that you have a tendency to become nervous when it comes to dating.
Look at it this way, if you are with someone special, a person who truly cares about you, they will immediately come to your aid with words of comfort. Not only will they appreciate your honestly, but they will be supportive and make an effort to put you at ease.
2. Don't forget to breath! Sounds simple enough, but when a person is stricken with panic attacks their heartbeat becomes accelerated and sometimes even erratic. This is why some find it difficult to breath. The best thing to do in this situation is to take long, deep breaths. This will help calm you down, until you catch your breath.
If you are in a stuffy room, or a crowded place, it would be best to excuse yourself for a few minutes so you can get out and get some fresh air. Later if you wish, you can explain what happened to your date.
2. Don't blame yourself. Sometimes things don't run so smoothly despite our best effort to make things go as planned. Some unexpected thing always seem to come up!
If this unexpected thing happened to be that you did not succeed in getting a handle on your anxiety during the date, therefore resulting in a bad date, don't kill yourself with self loathing. Give yourself a break! Bad days happen to everyone, anxiety or no anxiety!
Besides if the person that you are going out with has true feelings for you, that person will be supportive. Just shrug it off, it is not a big deal!
4. Think positive thoughts. When a person starts to become riddled with self-doubt and apprehensions, this is the time when anxiety comes in.
Instead of beating yourself up mentally over your lack of self confidence and uncertainty, give yourself a pep talk. Tell yourself to relax, and enjoy the moment.
Remember that people's attitude shape their perception of their environment. So instead of focusing on your insecurities, focus on having a good time. A little bit of attitude tweaking goes a long way in helping keep anxiety under control.
5. Don't be too hard on yourself. Don't set a goal to be the perfect date! This will definitely lead you to an anxiety attack! Don't worry about saying the right things all the time. Everyone commits mistakes and foibles. The difference is most people don't dwell on it! This is why these people don't get anxiety attacks. They can just enjoy themselves.
Going on a date is never easy, whether you are a veteran of many heartbreaks or just new to the game. The important thing for individuals to remember is to not put too much pressure on themselves, but to have a good time!
