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Why Women Test Men They Are Dating
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Dear friend,
No doubt dating online or off, you have been and are been tested by women.
Why? Well thats a long winded answer, and I gave up physco analyzing women a long time ago. Even women will admit they cant understand themselves! So what chance do us humble males have?
Zip! None! Zilch!
So best to just ACCEPT that they do and will test us. Be aware of it when it happens and deal with it in a way that gains us the authority and understanding in the relationship. Below are some examples of how women test us.
Why the testing?
1. They test us to see how strong emotionally we are.
2. They test us to see how smart we are.
3. They test us because they crave drama in their lives.
4. Some test because they enjoy making us uncomfortable.
5. They test us because they can. :-)
The following examples are tests from the type of women you do not want to get involved with. So be aware of, and try to avoid these types of women.
Lets look at the tests.
1) The old 'outrageously flirting with another man in front of you' test.
2) The old 'yelling at you for checking out another girl to see what you do test.
3) The horrible and dreaded 'canceling a date at the last moment for no reason' test.
4) The worst one of all, 'getting you really turned on while making out and then saying no to see if you really respect me' test.
(I really dont like this one.)
There are many, many more tests but this is enough for the purpose of this article. Now lets look at ways to RESPOND to these nasty little tests as opposed to REACTING.
1) The old 'outrageously flirting with another man in front of you' test.
a. This one was really tough to take with a woman I was in love with for a long time. I thought she would grow out of it. But she didnt. What I learnt to do however was to ignore her when it happened and enjoy my evening by chatting to other women or friends of hers. The best thing you can do is to NOT make a mention of it or big deal of it. If possible strike up a conversation with either her good looking friends or other women at the venue you are in. This will cool her off and if it doesnt, you may have an unsuitable partner who will flirt every time you go out. You can only change yourself and your emotions so its unlikely she will change this habit. If she flirts, ignore it and enjoy your night. If she is always a flirt, you need to move on from her, she is trouble.
2) The old 'yelling at you for checking out another girls arse to see what you do test.
a. To start with, try to avoid checking out other girls in her presence. This gives you integrity and a style above others. If she does lose it without reason for doing so, she is likely insecure and looking for drama. Dont yell back at her and calmly tell her to settle down. Smiling, tell her you are going to spank her when you get home if she doesnt behave. This should defuse it, by getting a laugh and she may just want you to spank her! :-)
3) The horrible and dreaded 'canceling a date at the last moment for no reason' test.
a. This is really disappointing isnt it? You are about to walk out the door and she sends a sms
Canceling. The most effective way to avoid this is to mention that one of the worst things women can do is to not show up and cancel dates. If you state this when you arrange for a meeting, it does help
prevent it from happening. We are all busy and need to plan ahead to be effective. However be careful not to write her off as she may have a legit reason for it happening. If it happens twice in a row, shes gone dont put up with it!
4) The worst one of all, 'getting you really turned on while making out but then saying no to see if you really respect me' test.
The toughest one of all. Best to back off a little and be calm about it. Dont sulk or push it. Just relax and have a bit of fun somehow. If you are cool about it and she can see that you arent stressed, shell likely relax and you have passed the test. Then just gently start making out again.
Chances are you have proven that you respect her by remaining calm and playful.
There you have it. You will be tested, thats life,
How we respond to it is the key
All the best,
Mick Jones
http://www.howtomeetwomenontheinternet.com
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BONUS : Why Am I Still In Love While My Ex Is Not
Sometimes you will find yourself in a situation where you can say "While I am still in love, my ex does not feel the same way", and that is surely a horrible situation to find yourself in. How do you go about rekindling love when your ex no longer seems to be interested in making things work? When you approach a situation where you are saying to yourself,
"I am still in love, my ex wants nothing to do with me", it may be time for you to sit down and take something of an inventory of your relationship, not only in its current state but the last state experienced before the breakup actually occurred. Is there anything that you have the power to change or undo in order to restore better feelings between you and your ex? Now is the ideal time to figure this out for your own self.
"What do I do if while I am still in love, my ex does not want anything to do with me?"
The first thing that you need to do is to figure out why your ex is avoiding you. If tensions are still too high following the breakup, then the clear solution is to back off and give him or her some time to chill. If your ex is avoiding you for a specific reason then it may be more advantageous to figure out why. If you cannot ask your ex specifically, you may want to ask any mutual friends that you have to see if you can score some insights about the current tension and what it is that will restore your ex's faith in you again.
Here is some practical advice:
When I realized that I was still in love, my ex still did not seem all too keen on rekindling things with me. I figured I had two different routes that I could take: I could give up on the fact that I was still in love, my ex coming out as the winner in the situation, or I could find some way to truly rekindle things, knowing that it would take work but would have much better potential results. So here's what I did:
* First, without letting on that I was still in love, my ex and I sat down and had a conversation about what "broke down" in the relationship to create the break up in the first place.
* Then I separated myself from my ex for a while so tempers could be calmed and so I could formulate a plan for rekindling things.
* When I felt braver, I re-approached my ex and we started talking about rekindling things again. I was surer of myself and was more obvious about the fact that I was still in love, my ex responded well to my confidence and we ended up rekindling things.
Sometimes you will find yourself in a situation where you can say "While I am still in love, my ex does not feel the same way", and that is surely a horrible situation to find yourself in. How do you go about rekindling love when your ex no longer seems to be interested in making things work? When you approach a situation where you are saying to yourself,
"I am still in love, my ex wants nothing to do with me", it may be time for you to sit down and take something of an inventory of your relationship, not only in its current state but the last state experienced before the breakup actually occurred. Is there anything that you have the power to change or undo in order to restore better feelings between you and your ex? Now is the ideal time to figure this out for your own self.
"What do I do if while I am still in love, my ex does not want anything to do with me?"
The first thing that you need to do is to figure out why your ex is avoiding you. If tensions are still too high following the breakup, then the clear solution is to back off and give him or her some time to chill. If your ex is avoiding you for a specific reason then it may be more advantageous to figure out why. If you cannot ask your ex specifically, you may want to ask any mutual friends that you have to see if you can score some insights about the current tension and what it is that will restore your ex's faith in you again.
Here is some practical advice:
When I realized that I was still in love, my ex still did not seem all too keen on rekindling things with me. I figured I had two different routes that I could take: I could give up on the fact that I was still in love, my ex coming out as the winner in the situation, or I could find some way to truly rekindle things, knowing that it would take work but would have much better potential results. So here's what I did:
* First, without letting on that I was still in love, my ex and I sat down and had a conversation about what "broke down" in the relationship to create the break up in the first place.
* Then I separated myself from my ex for a while so tempers could be calmed and so I could formulate a plan for rekindling things.
* When I felt braver, I re-approached my ex and we started talking about rekindling things again. I was surer of myself and was more obvious about the fact that I was still in love, my ex responded well to my confidence and we ended up rekindling things.
