Who Should Pay For Our Date

Who Should Pay For Our Date?

A woman may answer this question by saying, I don’t think so, me pay! That’s what men are for, I’’m not paying for our date she might also say. Especially, if she’’s old school, wherein she was brought up to believe that men should be responsible for taking care of their women.

Some men would agree with women who believe that a man should take care of his woman. In fact, some men may even feel insulted if a woman even thought about paying for their date! However, not everyone would agree with this now days.

Some people believe that when you go on a date to a restaurant, movie or wherever, you should split the bill with your date. Others believe that you should pay your own bill when you’’re on date. In fact, some folks believe that if you pay your own bill, that neither one of you should expect the other person to owe you anything.

It is amazing that the subject of who should pay for a date, can cause a person to become apprehensive, nervous and have anxiety. Just the idea that they have to think about who will pay for the date can keep them from dating . This is because they do not want to discuss this subject and would just rather skip the date all together than deal with this issue.

Well, you say to yourself, I want to go on a date so I still need to know who should pay for our date? Since you still want an answer to this question, here are five tips to help you figure out how you should handle this situation with your date if this issue should come up:

1)Consider splitting the bill! Remember, you may have just started dating and you really don’t know each other that well. Neither person, owes the other anything. Think of it as though, you’’re out with some of your friends or coworkers. Don’’t you normally split the bill when it comes? You probably do! So consider doing the same thing on your date.

2)Think about paying the entire bill and consider suggesting that your date pick up the tab for the next date! This gives you a good reason among other things to go on another date.

3)Make it fun! Toss a coin to see who gets to pay the bill. The winner of the coin toss does not have to pay the bill.

4)Consider inviting your date to your home for a meal or to watch movies. You won’t have a bill to think about splitting and this will make your date priceless!

5)Go on a date that does not require you to split the bill. Consider going to the beach, park or do some leisure walking together. This makes for a nice date with no bill attached! You can enjoy each others company, without worrying about who will pay for the bill at the end of the date.

Enjoy your date! That’’s the whole idea isn’t it? Don’’t make the question of who should pay for our date, a problem or issue for you when you date. Just go with what you feel is comfortable at the time of your date. Be spontaneous, just let the date flow, and you’ll see that your date will probably work out just fine.

BONUS : Why Are Single Christians Turning To The World?

Non-Christians are going to wonder why I seem to be putting you down in this article but the truth is that I’m writing this for committed Christians not those who have nothing to do with God or the Church.

So we are going to ask the question “why are single Christians increasingly turning to non-Christians to seek relationships?” We are also going to deal with what the consequences are for the Christians themselves and also for the wider Church. Finally we are going to ask what can be done about it from an individual perspective and also what we can do for each other.

If you have been a single Christian for any length of time you will know how hard it is (at times) to find suitable marriage partners. There are a multitude of reasons for this, not least the fact that there are more women than men in the Church (on balance). This is an unhealthy balance that leads to a feminisation of all things Christian when looked at from a male point of view.

Many men consider Christianity to not be the most masculine of religions and the Church has its fair share of men dressed in long robes and not enough masculine role models. This does not encourage them to come through the doors in the first place. Men are attracted to physicality which is why martial arts are so popular. Make Church life for Christian men more masculine and active and you will attract more men into the Church.

So with not enough men coming into the Church and also the more masculine men being put off the Church the choice for your average single Christian woman is narrowed considerably. So what is she to do? Prayer is a good start but without action it is faith “without works” and faith “without works” doesn’t work! So what next? This is where the natural tendency is to get discouraged and start looking outside the Church. This is the chief reason why single Christians are going out into the non-Christian world looking for relationships. The result is that they are getting pregnant and marrying un-suitable people who don’t share their faith or values. Long-term this is the cause of many people leaving the Church.

So what can be done about this? In my current role I am constantly asked about how to meet new single Christians. My first response is usually to recommend that they start where they are in their Church and try to get to know everyone they don’t yet know. After this there is the wider body of local Churches which may be visited from time to time. Start to network with other people from these Churches who are in the same situation. Organise events, ring each other up and encourage one another.

Finally, the Internet has enabled many to meet suitable people who they would not have met otherwise. Don’t dismiss it. With faith and persistence it really can work. Don’t give up too easily. Many people expect instant results with the Internet and this is un-realistic. Take your time and get friends to support your activities prayerfully.