What Attracts Women 101

What Attracts Women 101

It has been a well accepted fact that men are basically clueless to whatever it is that attracts women. In fact, some reports contend that women are so hard to comprehend that even if men master how to decode their body language, still, they just could not understand women, in one way or another.

According to some studies, 3 out of 10 men are can attest that they really understand women.

The remaining 7, you ask? They are out in the haystack finding needles. This means that almost 70% of the men population in the U.S. contends that whatever they do, they still could not figure out how to understand women.

For this reason, men are having a hard time to figure out what attract women sexually and romantically in a relationship. 6 out of ten men attest that women are so unpredictable that what they thought women are attracted to, they suddenly realize in the end that it is not the right things after all.

So for those who are still confused, dazed, and perplexed on what attracts women, here is a list that could serve as your guide if you want to know how to catch your girl’s attention:

1. Women are not attracted to “nice guys”

There are instances wherein some guys thought that in order to attract women, they must be good looking, smells really good, dress really good, and projects a goody-two-shoes image.

What these guys do not know is that, in reality, women are more attracted to men who project “bad-boy” image rather than those who are nice. This is because most women find nice guys relatively boring and uninteresting as compared to those who are funny and confident about themselves.

Surveys show that 30% of women value personality most. Though, this does not necessarily mean that women prefer nice personalities. What women would rather have are men who have lovable personalities brought about by their sense of humor and confidence.

The point is that some clinical studies done to uncover the truth about men and women revealed that men are, generally, more concerned with their looks, while women are more into the character and the way men behave around women.

2. Women are attracted to things that cannot be initially seen by the human eye

This goes to show that innate things, those that are not constrained by physical boundaries and limitations are what really attract women. Women are more concerned with what they cannot see literally. This could refer to personality traits, behavior, and attitude.

No wonder why most women would rather date a man who has good personality even if the guy is not good looking or he does not have a car.

3. Women are more attracted to men who knows how to handle themselves quite well

The problem with most men is that they are very egoistic that they are more focused on what the public would see them.

On the contrary, women are not so much on what makes a man but rather on how man makes out of himself. For instance, women are not concerned on the physical attributes of a man but more on how the man takes care of his body.

Another example, if a particular man is rich and famous, it may hold some possible attraction between the man and a woman. However, this will not guarantee that women will opt to have the rich and famous for a relationship. If the woman will be able to perceive how this man manages his finances well, then, that is the only time the woman will pay attention to the guy.

The point here is that material things like wealth, looks, physical attributes, education, influence, power, etc., still do matter. However, it these do not necessarily mean that these things are everything that a man needs in order to be attractive to women.

The truth is that in order to attract women, men must, generally, have nice attitude and personality. It is only when men make women feel that whenever women are with them, they would feel safe and secured.

Given all that, women and men view of the concept of attraction varies considerably. This goes to show that if ever a man would like to attract a particular woman, he should set aside his own point of view and interest, and instead, try to work out in order to catch the attention of the woman.

BONUS : What Do Women Want From Men

It's no secret that men and women are different.
It is no news that they look for different things
in a relationship. They all want different things,
different men for their different personalities.
What do women want from men? There are as many
answers as there are types of women: young, old,
fat, skinny, talkative, quiet, beautiful, not so
beautiful.

One thing that is clear is that everyone looks
for a perfect relationship. Men are remarkable by
their caution and carefulness. Women though are
much more fussy. When it comes to choosing men,
they not only have a greater list of requirements,
they're also keen to make the effort to help the
guy change. But despite their striving for
talking things through, most men still struggle
to understand exactly what women need to be happy
with them.

What do women want? They just want to be happy
like us. They just have a different way to show
it. If you learn their language, listen when you’
d rather speak, hug instead of just walking away,
tell the truth till it hurts, be a man she can
depend on and love her like you love yourself.
You’ll no longer ask what women want, they’ll be
asking you what you want and give it to you.

Here are some true things that we can say safely
women want from men.

Value. Women want to know that their man is
someone other women would want. They want a
certain "gotta have" quality about their man.
This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend,
women give us looks and always seem more
interested. It’s annoying but true: the easiest
way to get a girl, is to have one already!

Structure. A woman wants stability, balance, a
sense of order. She wants someone she can rely on.
You say you’re going to be home at 9:00, you be
home at 9:00. You are late? Call. The hardest
thing for us guys is to differenciate between
support and total control. Creating a foundation
and stability doesn’t mean trying to solve all
the problems to the point you disempower the one
you love. Your love is not a crutch but a bond. A
bond where dependability is synonymous with trust.


Security. Women want to feel safe with a man.
They want to know that everyting’s gonna be all
right. This doesn’t mean you have to be huge and
strong, or have millions in the bank. It just
means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look
after her safety, and assure her when she needs
it that things are going to be OK.

Love . Love them most of all. Let it all out. Let
it all out every day, every minute of every
second of every day. Be love, crawl up inside of
it and approach every problem with the question
what would love do now? If you do this, fear will
never enter your life.

Appreciation. Women DO want to feel appreciated.
They just don’t want to be obsessed over. Guys,
show interest in a woman, and make her feel
beautiful and wanted - but don’t slave over her
and make her feel like you can’t live without her.
That’s just pathetic, and drives women away.

Don’t lie. A woman can forgive a lot of things
but she won’t put up with a snake in the grass
liar. If once she caught you that you lied her
she would never have more trust in you. Lie to a
woman you are dissing her. Tell the truth, you
live to play another day.

Hug her. Hug her in the morning, hug her before
you leave to work, e-mail her a hug and hug her
ten times when you get home. You must make her
feel loved and protected.

Smile. Women don't like boring men .Be someone
who smiles, who doesn't take life too seriously,
who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than
a guy who’s stiff and serious - even if he is
good looking or wealthy.

A woman want a man with a purpose. It's not
necessary to have a lot of money and a great car
but they do want to be headed towards success.
They do want to living up to your potential.

So, as a summary women like to be understood,
happiness, respect and they also want honesty.
But, as the time goes by, the woman wishes change
because she is setting new goals. Why men can’t
figure women out is because they are a
masterpiece in progress.