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The Russian Bride Beautiful Inside And Outside
The very first letter
So, you are going to create your personal dating profile. It's utter important to mention your REAL age, height, weight, marital status, your education and occupation; consider adding some photos as well. In your first letter to your Russian bride you can write everything you think is worth mentioning in the first letter to an unknown person this can be your life position, some aims and hopes, your interests, a description of person that your are looking for. Remember one thing it not usual in Russia to call a woman 'dear', 'love', 'sweet' in the first letter. She may think you are insincere or too emotional.You should avoid official style, just be yourself.
Topics to discuss
Don't be afraid of expressing your feelings and thoughts: the Russian woman is naturally very sensitive and emotional. Ask questions and answer hers in return. Your questions might be like following: What kind of a man would you like to see near you? What is more important for you: family or business career? Ask how she spent last week and tell her what you did all this time. Write about everything you find interesting. Ask her advice on this or that matter or difficult situation in your life, share your plans for the future with her.
It would logical to ask about how long the acquaintance by correspondence should last. In this matter you should retain the sense of proportion. On the one hand, long correspondence makes an opportunity to know each other better. On the other hand, Russian women don't like inert men and will find long correspondence a great nuisance. Therefore you have to pick the crucial moment of transition to personal meeting intuitively. Then you should decide where your first date will take place - in her country, in your country or in any other country. On the one hand, it's more comfortable for you to have a meeting in your country you'll feel yourself a master of the situation but for your beloved one it can be difficult to be in the unknown place and and that can embarrass her. Meeting in her country may seem like a better idea she is at home and this fact will help her to be herself while your meetings. But the more fair variant is to meet in any other country there both of you are in the same conditions.
Russian bride in Love
Due to the reality of the Russian life (the wars and totalitarian regime) the awareness of the of the submissive role of women and to the fact the number of women in the country has always been larger than that of men; this definitely can be the reason for this self-sacrifice and artificially lowered requirements. Since then the demographic situation didn't changed.
In their love Russian girls usually trust their hearts, not logical thinking. One may be a tall, handsome and wealthy fellow and still fail to attract a Russian lady's attention; the other one may be crazy about her and still fail to arouse a response in her. It does not mean she needs a man with physical or spiritual shortcomings. The thing is that she must fall in love with You and Only You and then you may count on all-conquering forgiveness and on absolute devotion.
Usually Russian girls don't expact to profit by her love, she is genuinely selfless, and she often sacrifices her career and her interests because of her family interests and needs. Devotion determines to a great extent the behavior of a Russian bride in love. For most Russian women the words of the church wedding rite 'I vow to stay with my husband in grief and joy until death separates us', are still the matter of current significance.
Russian lady and her husband
A married Russian woman has her life values arranged in this way: children - husband - relatives - her home - her job. As you can see, husband plays one of the predominant roles in her life. Always he is a regular sexual partner. A Russian women nowadays, especially those over 25-30 years old, has certain problems with finding a man to establish permanent sexual relations with. So, the husband is everything to her. This is also proved by the fact that after the wedding the number of female friends of a young wife is considerably reduced: she doesn't need them any more because her husband also becomes her best friend.
The husband has traditionally been the highest authority for the Russian woman. She will not go out, nor make major purchases, does not take any important decisions without first consulting with him.
For Russian women, children have always been the highest value. If you already have your own kids, Russian lady will surely love them too, as if they were her own ones, because the beloved man and his offsprings are inseparable for her.
BONUS : The Secret Behind Humans Comfort Zone & The Novelty Attraction Dating Advice For Men
Why do we shy away from facing reality? Why do we mask the truth with a lie? Come to think of it, all of us as humans love to live in our own comfort zones. It is an in-born desire. Life, in its basic form hardly offers much comfort, both physical as well as mental. We are compelled to identify it ourselves and if we are unable to do that, we create them. After all, there is no better alternative in life than to feel good.
So what is it that the first few weeks or months in a dating scenario that makes it so rollicking and tempestuous? Mull over this: firstly you find someone, find whether the chemistry is right, and if it is so, pursue it with positive energy. Now there is a lot of art, but hardly any science in pursuing, as even Shakespeare commented: the love of pursuit. This involves interplay of a few of the most basic human emotions and mental processes. This is an area, where Dating Gurus would like to believe that they know whats happening.
But if you are on the look out for a How-To book in the market, there are hardly any, which talks about or addresses the issue of actually finding a date. Most dwell on the management of a relationship, much after the couple has crossed the initial stages of difficult and uncomfortable wooing. Memories of the struggle which both had gone through in the initial stages, make most couples stick together even in later months.
One of the most important factors in the early days of romancing (consider the first 60 days) that carry the couple through is, what I call, the Novelty Syndrome. Much like when we got a new toy in our childhood. The sheer excitement of getting to know someone, open up fresh vistas in your mind and makes you go blind and start believing in a few white lies. You are hardly in a mood to confront the warning signals as they gradually appear, but if you do, you can avoid the numerous pitfalls which may lie ahead.
It is important to remember one important thing about human nature. Nothing new holds its newness after a while. A new car, a new house, a new bike eventually lose out on its new appeal. Even in a relationship, why does it have to wither out? What happened to that spark? It happens mainly, because you knew her almost fully and started to take her for granted. The secret behind any successful relationship that lasts, has a lot to do with investment and re-investment of time, love, care and trust. The saying, you reap what you sow, holds very true in a human relationship.
You will agree with me that the first ten dates, are perhaps the trickiest, despite the initial euphoria of knowing someone new. This section can, to my mind, be analyzed using science, rather than art. If you care to break this period step by step and focus on each step, you are less likely to fall into the better than nothing trap. Obviously you will learn through your numerous mistakes, but I am going to take you through a logical, scientific process, which aims to make you learn faster so that you emerge with your sanity and prestige intact.
If you have seen Sex and the City, has it ever occurred to you, what makes it so successful? Undoubtedly, it is entertaining and perceptive, but the truth of the matter is that it is so REAL. It emphasizes, more than anything else, how unstable and shaky the entire contemporary dating scene is! And, to top it, hardly understood! Thus, it is time to remove all that shining veneer and bring you face to face with REALITY.
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