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The Irresistible Power Of Dating Other Women Variety Brings
I have decided to bring upfront this important aspect of the dating scenario – multiple choices of women that lie ahead of all of us. This should be one of your primary priority area of consideration – because it is under your control if you so decide.
There happens to be existing a bit of dichotomy in this dating game – mostly created by women themselves. For your understanding, I want to break the existing myth – women do not like men dating more than one man. Did I hear someone say - Monogamous?
So many times I have heard some one say something on similar lines:
- This oneÂ’s made just for me.
- I knew she should be just right for me
- I know my soul mate, when I see one
- God, help me, I donÂ’t want to lose her
The lists of such exclamations are endless. A man meets a woman, finds her extremely beautiful and desirable, and then goes and spoils it all by idolizing her. He instantly puts her on a pedestal and from then on his entire world revolves around her.
What a waste, what a mistake!
This kind of infatuation and fixation is a sure no-no for women. It kills any sense of excitement and thrill expected to exist in a budding relationship. Let me take you through a discussion, where I analyze WHY you should keep on seeing other women, even if you have your eyes fixed on one.
1. Attitude and confidence – Open other windows
When you are “fixed” or “stuck” with only one woman, you immediately shut out any buffer zone – or the comfort zone, which all of us need, in case something goes seriously wrong. In case she gets you out of her life – you spend the next few miserable months, or even years, thinking what is it that you said wrong, did wrong or hurt her unintentionally. Remember that song of the Beatles – Yesterday? You keep on longing for that single Yesterday.
Since you have pinned all your hopes, aspirations and dreams on one solitary woman, you have lost all your sense of balance and proportion. Our inherent “fear of loss” arises out of the belief that there are “no options” anymore. This is it. The moment you realize – O my God, so many women, so little time, your spirit automatically lifts up sky high. As a natural consequence, you will relax, learn to be calm and collected in your deportment. You no longer fear any one, now, isn’t that a wonderful feeling?
2. Perspective and comparison – Compare, Contrast, Consider
If you start believing that the single woman who you have selected is the end all and be all of life, how are you going to assess her unless you know some other women too? You need to draw some kind of standard parameter guidelines, by which you can weigh the attraction level and find rationality for your feelings. If you have nothing else to compare her with, how will you ever know the millions of alternative behavioral norms that even exist?
3. Perceived value – Women’ envy, Owners’ pride!
Women go for the Jones’s. Whatever the neighbor (in this case read it as other women) has, I must have it too. Right from jewellery, clothes, perfume to men! A man who is popular, talked about, seen everywhere and goes around with another woman, well, what is he like, is there any chance for me? Make a beeline for him! Join the race. A man who is WANTED. Who you see at the pub is ordinary, within reach. The “unconquered” triggers the killer instinct.
4. The Obsessive Self-destruct – Killing You Softly
Any sort of compulsion results in hasty, unrealistic and destructive decisions. The moment the world of choices open up, you automatically cease to show any compulsive behavior. The essence of this message is that you see and date as many women as there are available, till you meet the most promising one and it should be YOU who take the final call and NOT the woman!
5. Don’t let her feel “tied” down too early
Women hate to be treated exclusively right from the word go. Even if your intention is a temporary liaison, she gets a wrong signal. She immediately concludes that you are intent on a serious monogamous relationship. Now her pace and sense of rhythm does not allow this. The whole episode then becomes full of disharmony.
So the take home is message is this: Keep your options open. Keep all windows open. Date as many women as you like, more so, if you have located the woman of your dreams. Do not over-indulge or spoil everything by idolizing her. To keep her interests alive, see other women. It pays, both in the short and long run.
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BONUS : The Key To Reaching The Next Level In Dating Success
Back in the days when I was a teenager, I actually had reasonable success with women, but it was far from consistent. Many of my behaviors and attitudes were anything but high-status. Having internalized what high status males actually do, I have made immeasurable progress in relationships, friendships, and business, I only wish I knew these things earlier!
Many things can be associated with the high status mindset, but I have identified the most important thing a man wanting to improve their success with women must know.
That sexuality is completely natural and they are not scared to express it.
The key is how you do it.
Have you seen many movies or television shows about relationships? The constant theme is that most men are idiots with relationships and that they are lucky to find one girl. They go out of their way to repress their sexuality, thinking it will turn a woman off. The key to expressing sexuality is to not be explicit about it. Do not speak about it, and do not grope some random girl who hasnÂ’t given you the right signals. What you must do is use body language to communicate to women that you are a sexual being and you know they are too.
Pop quiz, you are speaking with a woman you just met. She is standing in a position with her chest thrusted slightly forward, she is smiling with you, batting her eyelashes, and flicking her hair. Do ya think she might be interested? This was an obvious example, but you see the point. She was able to sub-communicate to you that she is interested and all you have to do is be your natural manly self.
But you ask, how does a man sub communicate these things as well? Many ways. Some basic things that are known by most are good posture; calm, and strong speech patters. There are many books on these things, and I recommend you read them. What I want to talk about here are less obvious things that society as a whole does not talk about.
One non-obvious technique that works very well is what some in the seduction community call, The Triangle Gaze. It is basically something many women seem to do us all the time.(by the way, MANY body language tactics they use can be used by men too). The triangle gaze is an eye movement technique. Simply move your gaze from her left eye to her right eye and down to her mouth, and pause a millisecond there. Don’t do it over and over, but every now and then do it. It is powerful and she WILL understand what you are trying to get across, and often she will be impressed if you do this in the right way because you will be demonstrating your social intelligence. And fellas, women are much “smarter” in this regard than most of us.
Another subtle technique that can be used to sub-communicate to a woman your intentions without being a cad are the use of double entendres. A double entendre is a word or phrase with more than one meaning, usually two, as the title suggests. Not cheesy, raunchy pickup lines, but things said on the fly that can be ambiguous, making it near impossible for her to forget you. Here is an example of a bad use of a double entendre:
You talking to a waitress: “So what time do you get off?”
That is one of the oldest in the book and at best she will laugh and say something like
“When I get home to my boyfriend”
At worst she will instantly write you off as a loser and walk away.
Something better would be charming. It would make her wonder about your intentions, and make her want to find out exactly what you want from her. Personally I love speaking with people who are visiting from far away, exotic lands, or who were not raised here. There is so much material for conversation and rapport building. One thing I love to do when speaking with foreign women is talking about their home country and talking about how sensual, and passionate it is. This is a compliment to her in a round about way and she will welcome the topic. She will also have no choice but to ponder the words sensual, passionate(and any other double entendres you throw in) and connect those images and thoughts with YOU! The key is to ramp up the intensity than ramp it down...ramp it up, ramp it down, rinse and repeat. Combine this with confident body language and a genuine interest in learning about her and you are well on your way to becoming a seduction master!
Back in the days when I was a teenager, I actually had reasonable success with women, but it was far from consistent. Many of my behaviors and attitudes were anything but high-status. Having internalized what high status males actually do, I have made immeasurable progress in relationships, friendships, and business, I only wish I knew these things earlier!
Many things can be associated with the high status mindset, but I have identified the most important thing a man wanting to improve their success with women must know.
That sexuality is completely natural and they are not scared to express it.
The key is how you do it.
Have you seen many movies or television shows about relationships? The constant theme is that most men are idiots with relationships and that they are lucky to find one girl. They go out of their way to repress their sexuality, thinking it will turn a woman off. The key to expressing sexuality is to not be explicit about it. Do not speak about it, and do not grope some random girl who hasnÂ’t given you the right signals. What you must do is use body language to communicate to women that you are a sexual being and you know they are too.
Pop quiz, you are speaking with a woman you just met. She is standing in a position with her chest thrusted slightly forward, she is smiling with you, batting her eyelashes, and flicking her hair. Do ya think she might be interested? This was an obvious example, but you see the point. She was able to sub-communicate to you that she is interested and all you have to do is be your natural manly self.
But you ask, how does a man sub communicate these things as well? Many ways. Some basic things that are known by most are good posture; calm, and strong speech patters. There are many books on these things, and I recommend you read them. What I want to talk about here are less obvious things that society as a whole does not talk about.
One non-obvious technique that works very well is what some in the seduction community call, The Triangle Gaze. It is basically something many women seem to do us all the time.(by the way, MANY body language tactics they use can be used by men too). The triangle gaze is an eye movement technique. Simply move your gaze from her left eye to her right eye and down to her mouth, and pause a millisecond there. Don’t do it over and over, but every now and then do it. It is powerful and she WILL understand what you are trying to get across, and often she will be impressed if you do this in the right way because you will be demonstrating your social intelligence. And fellas, women are much “smarter” in this regard than most of us.
Another subtle technique that can be used to sub-communicate to a woman your intentions without being a cad are the use of double entendres. A double entendre is a word or phrase with more than one meaning, usually two, as the title suggests. Not cheesy, raunchy pickup lines, but things said on the fly that can be ambiguous, making it near impossible for her to forget you. Here is an example of a bad use of a double entendre:
You talking to a waitress: “So what time do you get off?”
That is one of the oldest in the book and at best she will laugh and say something like
“When I get home to my boyfriend”
At worst she will instantly write you off as a loser and walk away.
Something better would be charming. It would make her wonder about your intentions, and make her want to find out exactly what you want from her. Personally I love speaking with people who are visiting from far away, exotic lands, or who were not raised here. There is so much material for conversation and rapport building. One thing I love to do when speaking with foreign women is talking about their home country and talking about how sensual, and passionate it is. This is a compliment to her in a round about way and she will welcome the topic. She will also have no choice but to ponder the words sensual, passionate(and any other double entendres you throw in) and connect those images and thoughts with YOU! The key is to ramp up the intensity than ramp it down...ramp it up, ramp it down, rinse and repeat. Combine this with confident body language and a genuine interest in learning about her and you are well on your way to becoming a seduction master!
