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The Convenience Of Finding A Date Online
Dating online has become one of the easiest and most popular way for singles to meet new people. In an age where time is a huge factor, the convenience and effectiveness of meeting a date online is making it an ever more popular option for busy professional singles.
For lots of young professionals, getting out into the dating world after a long haul at the office just isn't appealing. The club scene has also lost its appeal, and meeting other like minded, young singles is becoming more and more of a challenge. For singles who find themselves in this familiar predicament, dating online has great way to meet people. Technology has enabled busy singles to quickly search and filter through the many other singles who prefer to date online, and can pick and choose what type of person to pursue. The condensed information usually entered into a profile is yet another useful tool for singles to learn more about potential dates before they message, meet, or respond. The tightly packed vital personal information in an online dating profile (such as smoking and drinking habits, religion, location, age, etc.) make is fast and easy to decide if a person's personal information makes them a viable, or well suited, match. Most internet dating sites also have search features that filter out certain members based on important criteria.
While this strategy (of selecting dates online solely based on the personal information entered into a profile) may seem exclusionary to some, who to date online is dependent on personal choice. Search filters, and the decisions to message or respond to certain members is entirely made by the user him or herself. Furthermore, for some people, vital information like age and location are crucial to any potential success the relationship may have.
BONUS : The Critical Observation At Women’s Defensive Shields – What Men Really Need To Know
Like most interactive situations that we come across in our everyday life, women too appear with their defense shield intact. They are “on guard” most of the time. But to reach her heart (hmmm… other areas too), you have to break that shield or loosen that defense mechanism.
So what are the typical concern areas of a woman? Why does she pull up her defenses? To begin with, there are two primary areas where she finds herself vulnerable. One, her physical safety and the other her mind. There does exist a concept called “mental rape” as well, you know.
But then, defense mechanisms are all but natural in humans as a race. We protect our identities, we protect our bodies and our minds from external assaults by drawing up defenses. Not necessarily with armors and battle gears, but we do that with our ego states too! Think of a typical business deal, where at times, more than one player battles against the other, all with their superior or inferior ego states. (For reference, I suggest you read the book “Games People Play” by Eric Berne).
One guy makes a comment from his ego state to another who is in another ego state. The receiver of the comment interprets it as a harsh criticism, because he has viewed it from his own ego state and so on. Situation escalates further and as it happens most of the time, a verbal battle is launched.
Now, does it not sound familiar? It happens in man-woman relationships too!
There is a way to solve this however; one of the best ways that I have come across is to start looking at any situation from the other personÂ’s point of view. ItÂ’s all the perspective, as they say. Learn to put your ego aside for a few minutes, or hours, and see the other side of the coin.
This is one of the most difficult tasks; let me tell you, for the simple reason, which you now have to work on and review your own sense of self-esteem (or, your own ego state, which could have stayed inflated all these years!). This is the only way you can relinquish your full-time desire to “impress” others and change the stance of “I’m OK, others not OK”. It is not easy, but probably the only way to minimize inter-personal personality clashes, romantic or otherwise.
You can then see the rationale of the other person’s behavior and be able to answer many “whys” with “why not’s”, thereby avoiding many confrontational and hurtful relationships. No, you can’t solve all the problems in life with this stance, but at least, you will be regarded and respected as a more understanding human.
This article may be re-published with appropriate attribution to the author including name and website © Copyright.
Like most interactive situations that we come across in our everyday life, women too appear with their defense shield intact. They are “on guard” most of the time. But to reach her heart (hmmm… other areas too), you have to break that shield or loosen that defense mechanism.
So what are the typical concern areas of a woman? Why does she pull up her defenses? To begin with, there are two primary areas where she finds herself vulnerable. One, her physical safety and the other her mind. There does exist a concept called “mental rape” as well, you know.
But then, defense mechanisms are all but natural in humans as a race. We protect our identities, we protect our bodies and our minds from external assaults by drawing up defenses. Not necessarily with armors and battle gears, but we do that with our ego states too! Think of a typical business deal, where at times, more than one player battles against the other, all with their superior or inferior ego states. (For reference, I suggest you read the book “Games People Play” by Eric Berne).
One guy makes a comment from his ego state to another who is in another ego state. The receiver of the comment interprets it as a harsh criticism, because he has viewed it from his own ego state and so on. Situation escalates further and as it happens most of the time, a verbal battle is launched.
Now, does it not sound familiar? It happens in man-woman relationships too!
There is a way to solve this however; one of the best ways that I have come across is to start looking at any situation from the other personÂ’s point of view. ItÂ’s all the perspective, as they say. Learn to put your ego aside for a few minutes, or hours, and see the other side of the coin.
This is one of the most difficult tasks; let me tell you, for the simple reason, which you now have to work on and review your own sense of self-esteem (or, your own ego state, which could have stayed inflated all these years!). This is the only way you can relinquish your full-time desire to “impress” others and change the stance of “I’m OK, others not OK”. It is not easy, but probably the only way to minimize inter-personal personality clashes, romantic or otherwise.
You can then see the rationale of the other person’s behavior and be able to answer many “whys” with “why not’s”, thereby avoiding many confrontational and hurtful relationships. No, you can’t solve all the problems in life with this stance, but at least, you will be regarded and respected as a more understanding human.
This article may be re-published with appropriate attribution to the author including name and website © Copyright.
