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Online Dating 11 Reasons To Go Online For Love
Where do you go when you are looking for love?
Are you considering joining an online dating site but not sure its for you?
Let me tell you how I first discovered online dating and why I firmly believe it fits in with our modern day lifestyles.
A couple of years ago online dating still had a stigma attached to it. Although people were using the internet as a method of dating, they did not discuss it with friends or colleagues for fear of coming across desperate.
I recall a friend of mine who was initially embarrassed to tell me she had joined an online dating site. At the time, I was rather surprised as she was an attractive girl who would be considered quite a catch. However, after chatting to her I completely understood why she had resorted to this method of dating; she was simply tired of meeting timewasters who were not interested in committing to a relationship.
Whilst she had no desire to date some of the men who contacted her, there were quite a few she was interested in and she began a dating spell to make any "singleton" jealous. She then struck up an online relationship with someone who lived 100 miles from her. After exchanging many emails and chatting on the telephone, she decided to meet him. Obviously, the distance didnt make the relationship ideal but the spark was there and she enjoyed 6 months dating someone with similar interests, shared romantic weekends together and had a fantastic holiday. Although he didnt turn out to be the one, when I asked if she regretted joining an online dating site her answer was "Definitely not!" Her view was that if she hadnt joined an online dating site, those 6 months would have been spent moaning about meeting the same timewasters in the same old haunts and wondering "what if". She was simply being proactive in her search for love; after all life is far too short!
If youre not convinced online dating is for you, here are 11 reasons why I think online dating has its advantages:-
1. You dont have to wait until the weekend to meet someone.
2. You dont have to get dressed up for a night "online". Wear whatever you feel comfortable in at home.
3. If you work unusual hours online dating fits in with your schedule. You can log on at any time of the day to suit you; there is always someone online waiting to chat.
4. If you start chatting to someone and then decide they are not what you are looking for, put them back in the net gently and choose another. There are plenty of fish in the sea!
5. If you are tired of seeing the same old faces when you go out, there are people of all age groups all across the country waiting online to meet someone.
6. If you are new to an area online dating is a great way of meeting people whether it's for friendship or dating. If you meet a few people online in your area, you can arrange a get together for you all rather than meeting on a one-to-one basis.
7. If all of your friends have settled down or you have recently become single what better way to meet new someone quickly than to go online and meet more singles!
8. Anonymous messaging and chat rooms let you flirt to your hearts content without any embarrassment or getting tongue-tied.
9. You will probably find out more about someone online before you arrange a date with them than you would if you had met them in a bar. Online dating usually makes people more cautious about who they choose to date and in this day and age that cant be a bad thing!
10. We now live and date very differently to previous generations where the traditional place to meet people was in nightclubs, parties, at work or through friends. By joining an online dating site you are not excluding these avenues but simply extending your opportunities of meeting someone.
11. Finally, 1 months membership costs less than a night out and gives you hundreds of opportunities to meet your perfect partner every night!
With so many positive reasons to go online for love, finding your perfect partner has never been easier. Try it out for yourself and please let me know how you're doing.
BONUS : Online Dating: 12 Steps To Get Noticed And Get A Date Online
If you want to achieve success with online dating, you will need to educate yourself with the online dating scene. Online dating sites provide a service for people to meet but a dating site can only do so much of the work and input is required from you if you are serious about meeting a partner online.
Whilst thousands of people are joining dating sites every day, hundreds are not making the most of the services a dating site has to offer. Im no psychic but Im pretty certain that someone who writes a dull or uninformative profile, doesnt include a photo and makes no effort to contact anyone will not be inundated with invitations for a date.
By making a few simple changes to the way you are dating online, you could see instant results meeting people you would never have met before so dont be a wallflower, stand out online and be proactive in your search for a date.
1. Sell Yourself
Your profile is like an advertisement and you need to sell yourself in the dating game.
The eye-catching part of you profile is your photo. Include a photo of yourself (not someone else or a cartoon!) and you could increase your responses by as much as 8 times.
Answer all questions honestly, be positive, focus on your good points and provide members with just enough information about yourself so that they are eager to find out more. Please dont talk about exes or how miserable your life is . it wont attract people to you!
2. Search outside of the box
We may all have an idea of our ideal partner but just because someone is slightly younger, older or from a different town doesnt mean they wont turn out to be your ideal partner! Most dating sites provide a search facility to vary your search settings so if your search results dont reveal anyone who catches your eye try widening your search settings.
3. Get intimate anonymously
The beauty of online dating is that you can get to know someone without revealing any personal details. Emails are sent using an anonymous messaging facility so take advantage of this and spend as long as you wish getting to know someone. Dont feel pressured into meeting up with someone you have just met online. If they are serious, they will be happy to wait if this is your preference.
4. Make the first move
Dont be shy you make the first move. Remember everyone online is serious about meeting someone so, if you see someone you like, contact him or her first. Dont wait for someone to contact you.
5. Make conversation
Show your interest - The best way to get someones attention and get a response is to ask a question specific to his or her profile. This shows you have read their profile and are interested in them.
Flatter them! - Dont be afraid to use your charm! Whether you like their photo or you are impressed by the fact that they have run the marathon tell them. Everyone likes receiving compliments.
Make them laugh! - I think if you can make someone laugh or someone makes you laugh, youre on the path to a good relationship. Be witty and amusing in your messages and they will look forward to hearing from you.
Be flirtatious, not rude! Don't be afraid to flirt a little if that's how you feel but equally don't be too flirtatious as it could be taken the wrong way. Never talk about sex or imply this is what you are looking for.
6. Keep a little mystique!
Whilst I would encourage you to talk openly and honestly about yourself so that people get to know you try not to tell your whole life story in one e-mail. Hold a little something back for the next message.
7. Arrange a chat room date
Chat rooms are another great way to chat instantly with someone without revealing any personal information. A quality chat room will also provide the facility to have a private one-to-one chat with someone so if youve messaged someone, why not invite them to meet you in the chat room at a specific time and day just like a real date. You can then decide whether you want to take it further offline.
8. Chat on the phone
If youre thinking of arranging a date with someone, chat to him or her on the telephone first but use the blocking feature to prevent your number appearing on Caller ID. Go over topics that youve mentioned in emails to verify that what he or she has told you is the truth. Ask yourself if the voice you are talking to is someone you feel comfortable with and someone you could trust.
9. Dont be disheartened
If youve sent a message but havent received a reply, dont be disheartened. There could be many reasons why someone hasnt replied to a message youve sent; the recipient may not have logged on for a while, their membership may have lapsed or they may not be a full member entitling them to reply back to you.
If youve sent one message then follow it up with a second message to show him or her that you are genuinely interested. If you still dont get a response, move on to the next person!
10. Give people a chance
If you receive a message from someone who does not immediately tick all of your boxes, dont rule them out straight away. Reply back to him or her and try and find out a bit more about them. You may have more in common than you first thought and, if not, at least you can say you tried.
11. Be polite when rejecting
If you dont like someone who has contacted you, do not be rude or offensive. You can either ignore them (hopefully this will get the message across) or politely tell them you are not interested. A reputable dating site will provide a facility to block nuisances sending you messages so, if someone is pestering you, dont be afraid to use this tool.
12. Be safe!
Do not give anyone your home telephone number, address or workplace address until you have met a number of times and are 100% comfortable with that person. Remember that people can be whoever they want to be online - wait until your instincts tell you this is someone you can trust.
If you find you dont get many responses, you may need to think about alternative conversation starters or rewrite your profile.
Hopefully youve got the idea now so its over to you! Good luck and remember to have fun!
If you want to achieve success with online dating, you will need to educate yourself with the online dating scene. Online dating sites provide a service for people to meet but a dating site can only do so much of the work and input is required from you if you are serious about meeting a partner online.
Whilst thousands of people are joining dating sites every day, hundreds are not making the most of the services a dating site has to offer. Im no psychic but Im pretty certain that someone who writes a dull or uninformative profile, doesnt include a photo and makes no effort to contact anyone will not be inundated with invitations for a date.
By making a few simple changes to the way you are dating online, you could see instant results meeting people you would never have met before so dont be a wallflower, stand out online and be proactive in your search for a date.
1. Sell Yourself
Your profile is like an advertisement and you need to sell yourself in the dating game.
The eye-catching part of you profile is your photo. Include a photo of yourself (not someone else or a cartoon!) and you could increase your responses by as much as 8 times.
Answer all questions honestly, be positive, focus on your good points and provide members with just enough information about yourself so that they are eager to find out more. Please dont talk about exes or how miserable your life is . it wont attract people to you!
2. Search outside of the box
We may all have an idea of our ideal partner but just because someone is slightly younger, older or from a different town doesnt mean they wont turn out to be your ideal partner! Most dating sites provide a search facility to vary your search settings so if your search results dont reveal anyone who catches your eye try widening your search settings.
3. Get intimate anonymously
The beauty of online dating is that you can get to know someone without revealing any personal details. Emails are sent using an anonymous messaging facility so take advantage of this and spend as long as you wish getting to know someone. Dont feel pressured into meeting up with someone you have just met online. If they are serious, they will be happy to wait if this is your preference.
4. Make the first move
Dont be shy you make the first move. Remember everyone online is serious about meeting someone so, if you see someone you like, contact him or her first. Dont wait for someone to contact you.
5. Make conversation
Show your interest - The best way to get someones attention and get a response is to ask a question specific to his or her profile. This shows you have read their profile and are interested in them.
Flatter them! - Dont be afraid to use your charm! Whether you like their photo or you are impressed by the fact that they have run the marathon tell them. Everyone likes receiving compliments.
Make them laugh! - I think if you can make someone laugh or someone makes you laugh, youre on the path to a good relationship. Be witty and amusing in your messages and they will look forward to hearing from you.
Be flirtatious, not rude! Don't be afraid to flirt a little if that's how you feel but equally don't be too flirtatious as it could be taken the wrong way. Never talk about sex or imply this is what you are looking for.
6. Keep a little mystique!
Whilst I would encourage you to talk openly and honestly about yourself so that people get to know you try not to tell your whole life story in one e-mail. Hold a little something back for the next message.
7. Arrange a chat room date
Chat rooms are another great way to chat instantly with someone without revealing any personal information. A quality chat room will also provide the facility to have a private one-to-one chat with someone so if youve messaged someone, why not invite them to meet you in the chat room at a specific time and day just like a real date. You can then decide whether you want to take it further offline.
8. Chat on the phone
If youre thinking of arranging a date with someone, chat to him or her on the telephone first but use the blocking feature to prevent your number appearing on Caller ID. Go over topics that youve mentioned in emails to verify that what he or she has told you is the truth. Ask yourself if the voice you are talking to is someone you feel comfortable with and someone you could trust.
9. Dont be disheartened
If youve sent a message but havent received a reply, dont be disheartened. There could be many reasons why someone hasnt replied to a message youve sent; the recipient may not have logged on for a while, their membership may have lapsed or they may not be a full member entitling them to reply back to you.
If youve sent one message then follow it up with a second message to show him or her that you are genuinely interested. If you still dont get a response, move on to the next person!
10. Give people a chance
If you receive a message from someone who does not immediately tick all of your boxes, dont rule them out straight away. Reply back to him or her and try and find out a bit more about them. You may have more in common than you first thought and, if not, at least you can say you tried.
11. Be polite when rejecting
If you dont like someone who has contacted you, do not be rude or offensive. You can either ignore them (hopefully this will get the message across) or politely tell them you are not interested. A reputable dating site will provide a facility to block nuisances sending you messages so, if someone is pestering you, dont be afraid to use this tool.
12. Be safe!
Do not give anyone your home telephone number, address or workplace address until you have met a number of times and are 100% comfortable with that person. Remember that people can be whoever they want to be online - wait until your instincts tell you this is someone you can trust.
If you find you dont get many responses, you may need to think about alternative conversation starters or rewrite your profile.
Hopefully youve got the idea now so its over to you! Good luck and remember to have fun!
