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How To Write Magnetic Profiles
Do you ever ponder the ingredients to a successful online dating experience? What exactly convinces one online dater to contact another? Let's review some successful online dating tips.
A common point of attraction that makes an online dater become enamored with another is nearly always something that caught their eye in that person's profile. These little pieces of gold range from your eye color, your favorite novel, or your guilty admittance of eating pizza at 2 am—the list is endless.
The point is this: little tidbits about your life—little idiosyncrasies—that were once deemed insignificant can and often do score points. You may be asking yourself: what interesting little details can I put into my profile?
What are your hobbies? Use your interests to reveal the inner you.
Steve Jackson writes about his online dating success: “The first thing that caught my attention was her interest in Science Fiction novels. I don't know many women who are Sci-Fi fanatics like I am; she's truly a rarity. Later, when I found out that her favorite Sci-Fi author was Frank Herbert, I knew that the search was over. Because of our mutual interests in Science Fiction literature, our conversations never seem to get dull.”
Listing your hobbies is a wonderful way for a person to get to know your inner self. When online daters read about your interests, they are piecing together a puzzle to your personality, discovering a more complete picture of who you are. Mutual interests and hobbies are instant attractors.
Show that you're into the “now” with references to pop culture.
Nichole Levy reminisces about reading a profile that held her attention: “I remember watching the 40 year old virgin three times in the movie theaters. When Jon mentioned in his profile that he probably had everyone beat by watching it a record seven times in one week, I was on the floor rolling around with laughter. His profile made me laugh so hard—that was only the start of a wonderful relationship.”
Humor is the universal language of the soul—a healthy dose of it in your profile can only work wonders. An excellent way to portray your sense of humor is by comparing yourself to a pop-culture icon. Are you as fun-loving as Vincent Chase from “Entourage”? Are you sometimes as ditzy as Paris Hilton? People that can relate to your interests and tastes in entertainment will be drawn to you.
Make yourself stand out amongst the crowd by adding specifics.
Eric Cortez writes: “I loved the originality in Cecelia's profile. The repetition in all the other profiles was boring me to tears. When Cecelia mentioned that she was teaching herself how to snowboard at Mt. Baldy—no lessons and nobody else to show her how—I quickly knew that she was the one. How many women out there are brave enough to take on snowboarding without some sort of guidance? I loved Cecilia's sense of independence and determination.”
Try not to water down your profile with trite ramblings of “I love to eat out” and “long walks on the beach are the best”; it's all been said before! Instead, try going into specifics; what is your restaurant of choice? Which beach is your favorite? Give your profile a make-over by reviewing it and replacing what ever sounds tried and generic with specifics. By doing this, you'll colorfully illustrate your many attractive qualities.
Use photos with props to convey playfulness.
Jamie Hamilton recalls seeing a photo of Rudy for the first time: “Seeing Rudy posing with his little one month kitten was one of the cutest sights ever! When I finally met Rudy for the first time, I'd noticed that he was just like his little kitty cat—sweet, playful and very loving!”
Posing with your beloved pet, your guitar, or your surfboard can give others a bigger picture of who you are; it may even be the deciding factor on whether or not they make the first move. Visuals are an ideal way to quickly catch a person's eye, sparking interest, swaying them to read your profile. I bet your can think of something to pose with in your next photo. Have fun!
Give people a general idea of your issues.
Chris Martelli talks about what attracted him to Judy: “When I had first glanced at Judy's profile, I had noticed that she had just gone through a very bad break up. I had recently just been through a very messy divorce, so I thought we could give each other some support. It was very refreshing to converse with someone who understood exactly what I was going through in my life. After a while, our past relationships seemed so distance and insignificant; after a while our connection started to strengthen and happiness started to shower over our everyday lives.”
Always remember that you're never alone in your problems. People have a great tendency to show compassion and sympathy during hard times. Don't be scared to mention your current issues in life—express what you're going through. You may be surprised and find yourself bonding with a very special person who understands where you are in life.
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BONUS : How To Write Your Next Personal Dating Ad
Writing your dating ad is an important first step in the dating game
For each regular or online dating service you join, you will have to write a paragraph or two about yourself. This is the information that your potential dates will read, and the way your write it can make the difference between lots of responses and none at all. If youÂ’ve never tried writing a personal ad before, or your previous ads havenÂ’t generated much of a response, try using these five useful hints next time round:
1) Make a list
Before you begin writing, make a list of the things that are most important to you. Split it into two sections; words that describe you and what you are interested in, and words that describe what youÂ’re looking for in a date. Use these lists as the basis for your personal ad and remember to focus on the things you do like rather than the things you donÂ’t.
2) About you
What are you interested in? Theatre, music, football, cars, running – whatever it is that makes you who you are. Focus on things that you can do with your date – going to gigs, Saturday night clubbing, sailing or walking. These all give an indication of the type of person you are and the fact that you want to attract someone who shares your passions.
3) About them
This is your chance to say what youÂ’re looking for. Whether you specify height, age, smoker or non-smoker or the interests youÂ’d like to share, you need to be sure that the descriptions you use will attract the sort of interest youÂ’re after.
4) Sell yourself
Your personal ad is your own personal sales brochure. Use it to tell people what you have to offer and why they should get in touch with you. Whilst you donÂ’t want to tell all at such an early stage in the dating process, you need to give enough information to spark some interest, and hold back enough to make them want to know more. Use positive language and maybe even some humour to encourage a response.
5) Draft and check
Never just write a personal ad off the top of your head and stick it online. Always write a draft and then ask someone you trust to read it and make comments. YouÂ’re not an objective observer here, so choose someone who knows you, knows what you want and will tell you honestly if your personal ad reads well.
Writing your dating ad is an important first step in the dating game
For each regular or online dating service you join, you will have to write a paragraph or two about yourself. This is the information that your potential dates will read, and the way your write it can make the difference between lots of responses and none at all. If youÂ’ve never tried writing a personal ad before, or your previous ads havenÂ’t generated much of a response, try using these five useful hints next time round:
1) Make a list
Before you begin writing, make a list of the things that are most important to you. Split it into two sections; words that describe you and what you are interested in, and words that describe what youÂ’re looking for in a date. Use these lists as the basis for your personal ad and remember to focus on the things you do like rather than the things you donÂ’t.
2) About you
What are you interested in? Theatre, music, football, cars, running – whatever it is that makes you who you are. Focus on things that you can do with your date – going to gigs, Saturday night clubbing, sailing or walking. These all give an indication of the type of person you are and the fact that you want to attract someone who shares your passions.
3) About them
This is your chance to say what youÂ’re looking for. Whether you specify height, age, smoker or non-smoker or the interests youÂ’d like to share, you need to be sure that the descriptions you use will attract the sort of interest youÂ’re after.
4) Sell yourself
Your personal ad is your own personal sales brochure. Use it to tell people what you have to offer and why they should get in touch with you. Whilst you donÂ’t want to tell all at such an early stage in the dating process, you need to give enough information to spark some interest, and hold back enough to make them want to know more. Use positive language and maybe even some humour to encourage a response.
5) Draft and check
Never just write a personal ad off the top of your head and stick it online. Always write a draft and then ask someone you trust to read it and make comments. YouÂ’re not an objective observer here, so choose someone who knows you, knows what you want and will tell you honestly if your personal ad reads well.
