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Advice For The Big First Date
Everyone feels a mixture of excitement and nervousness when they consider going on a first date. There are perhaps few times that people desire to make an impression as much as they do on a first date. While there is no way to remove all of the fears that go with first dates, there are some simple ways to make the experience less stressful and more enjoyable.
First of all, it is wiser and important to be careful about who you choose to go on a first date with. Everyone agrees that the purpose of dating is to get to know someone, so while you do not have to not a lot about a person before taking them on a first date, it is helpful to at least know something of the person you will be sharing the date with. If you do not know them personally, be sure that one of your friends or family members knows that person at least a little. You will save yourself time, energy and perhaps disappointment by choosing wisely who you will share a first date with.
Another bit of advice about a first date is to agree to do something that you both enjoy. There is perhaps nothing worse than going on a first date only to hate the activity you are doing. If, for example, you hate bowling with a passion, then perhaps agreeing to bowl on a first date is not the best choice for you. Doing something you do not enjoy may hinder your ability to enjoy the person you are with, which is, after all, the whole point of the first date.
Remember that the first date is not all about you. Start right from the beginning by showing genuine interest in whoever you are with. Everyone loves it when someone asks great questions and seems to genuinely care about their life. If you have trouble thinking of questions off the top of your head, perhaps it would be wise for you to think of a few good questions before you head off on your date. Do whatever it takes to show the person you are with that you care enough to ask them questions.
You can never know if you will really enjoy the person you are with or if you will feel comfortable with them until you get into the first date, so make sure that you have given yourself good boundaries for your date. Put a time limit on the date right from the beginning so that you know when the end is near. This is especially helpful if the first date turns out to be less than ideal (which, unfortunately, happens more than you might think).
First dates, when done well, can be a great first step in getting to know someone great. So take your time and do first dates with care.
BONUS : Advices To The Gallant Man When Meeting Her Parents
Is your valor put to the test, when facing (her) Mom and Dad? Is meet-the-parents-day, a dreaded event in the near future? Do you enjoy each others company that Moms opinion or Dads plan is already part of the daily conversation? If things are going good, then you should expect that you would meet her parents sooner or later. But dont dread the day, and instead welcome it with open arms. For here are sound advices for you, the gallant man, when the day comes to meet her parents.
First of all, not all parents are alike; so dont assume that theyll be like Mom and Pop. But, hopefully like her, you would want to impress, respect and not offend your own parents, wouldnt you? Ask your girlfriend about her family. It would be useful to know any history on her father or mothers side, her siblings, their work background and major health issues. It would be wise to find out about the parents politics, what kind of sense of humor they have, cultural or entertainment preference, if any. Asking these key questions will also show your girlfriend that youre interested in knowing all about her family and that you attach a lot of importance in meeting her parents.
A careless remark about the latest bloopers by the countrys president may not sit well with her parents if they are staunch republicans from a red state. There are countless of other ways you can go wrong with her parents if you dont do your homework. The objective is to leave a good impression on her father and mother after the first meeting.
Now, you would think that of the two, the father should be the primary focus. But, no; it is best to get your girlfriends mother on your side first. Think about it, shes actually the one hosting the dinner in the house, isnt she? Moreover, most mothers would partially judge you according to how happy their daughter looks being with you. When youre hitting a rough spot in your relationship, your girlfriend would most likely run to her mother. In these times of trouble, her mother might become instrumental in bringing you back together again.
Fathers will generally have a harder time accepting you. Rightly so, because he was the main man in your girlfriends life. Now, it will obviously appear to her father that you are taking over that role. In some instances, the father might resent that. In most cases, they will size you up to see if you are really fit to take care of their daughter. So, come to think of it, fathers have a more natural obstacle to get close to you. But this will happen in time, especially if youre careful in your first meeting.
Now what do you really do during the actual meeting? If its a dinner at their house, always bring a gift. You can give them a floral arrangement. Depending on their tastes, traditional items like a bottle of wine or a box of sweets also work.
When you get into a conversation with them, show interest in their family life. Look for common interests, hobbies and expound on them. Politely ask for their opinion and listen. Its easy to talk about sports, pets and their line of work. Other good topics are your job, your family, movies, and current events. It would be wise to steer the conversation away from jokes, politics, personal matters, religion and money matters.
Flatter your girlfriends mother on her cooking, clothes or the home interiors. Compliment her cooking by finishing your plate. After dinner, offer to help clear the table of wash the dishes.
Eventually, your girlfriends parents will start to ask you some direct questions. You wont panic if youre prepared for this. Relax, look them in the eye and answer as nicely as you can. Try to think about their reason for asking the question and relate to this when answering the parents.
Remember, in the first meeting, be yourself and make sure to always observe good manners. Show respect to your girlfriend and her parents. Your girlfriend has probably told all of them about you and how great you are. So come prepared for the meeting and prove to her parents that you deserve to be with their daughter.
Is your valor put to the test, when facing (her) Mom and Dad? Is meet-the-parents-day, a dreaded event in the near future? Do you enjoy each others company that Moms opinion or Dads plan is already part of the daily conversation? If things are going good, then you should expect that you would meet her parents sooner or later. But dont dread the day, and instead welcome it with open arms. For here are sound advices for you, the gallant man, when the day comes to meet her parents.
First of all, not all parents are alike; so dont assume that theyll be like Mom and Pop. But, hopefully like her, you would want to impress, respect and not offend your own parents, wouldnt you? Ask your girlfriend about her family. It would be useful to know any history on her father or mothers side, her siblings, their work background and major health issues. It would be wise to find out about the parents politics, what kind of sense of humor they have, cultural or entertainment preference, if any. Asking these key questions will also show your girlfriend that youre interested in knowing all about her family and that you attach a lot of importance in meeting her parents.
A careless remark about the latest bloopers by the countrys president may not sit well with her parents if they are staunch republicans from a red state. There are countless of other ways you can go wrong with her parents if you dont do your homework. The objective is to leave a good impression on her father and mother after the first meeting.
Now, you would think that of the two, the father should be the primary focus. But, no; it is best to get your girlfriends mother on your side first. Think about it, shes actually the one hosting the dinner in the house, isnt she? Moreover, most mothers would partially judge you according to how happy their daughter looks being with you. When youre hitting a rough spot in your relationship, your girlfriend would most likely run to her mother. In these times of trouble, her mother might become instrumental in bringing you back together again.
Fathers will generally have a harder time accepting you. Rightly so, because he was the main man in your girlfriends life. Now, it will obviously appear to her father that you are taking over that role. In some instances, the father might resent that. In most cases, they will size you up to see if you are really fit to take care of their daughter. So, come to think of it, fathers have a more natural obstacle to get close to you. But this will happen in time, especially if youre careful in your first meeting.
Now what do you really do during the actual meeting? If its a dinner at their house, always bring a gift. You can give them a floral arrangement. Depending on their tastes, traditional items like a bottle of wine or a box of sweets also work.
When you get into a conversation with them, show interest in their family life. Look for common interests, hobbies and expound on them. Politely ask for their opinion and listen. Its easy to talk about sports, pets and their line of work. Other good topics are your job, your family, movies, and current events. It would be wise to steer the conversation away from jokes, politics, personal matters, religion and money matters.
Flatter your girlfriends mother on her cooking, clothes or the home interiors. Compliment her cooking by finishing your plate. After dinner, offer to help clear the table of wash the dishes.
Eventually, your girlfriends parents will start to ask you some direct questions. You wont panic if youre prepared for this. Relax, look them in the eye and answer as nicely as you can. Try to think about their reason for asking the question and relate to this when answering the parents.
Remember, in the first meeting, be yourself and make sure to always observe good manners. Show respect to your girlfriend and her parents. Your girlfriend has probably told all of them about you and how great you are. So come prepared for the meeting and prove to her parents that you deserve to be with their daughter.
