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How To Select The Best Photo For Your Online Dating Personal Ad
In the beginning of the internet all you had was text, Then graphics and photos followed. The reason online dating sites have been so popular and successful is you can easily browse photos of prospective dates. We all have a desire to go out with people we find physically attractive. There is no better way to attract someone who finds you attractive than by posting several good photos.
A picture says a thousand words. No matter how descriptive and witty you are with your personal description, many people will not even consider someone who does not include a photo. Very few of us are model material but that doesnt mean we cant take a good picture. If you think by not posting a photo, someone will get to know the real you before they see you, you are only kidding yourself. The real you includes what you look like.
So how do you post a good photo? The best thing to do is post several pictures that show the real you. You need a series of photos that include: a face shot-people want to see your smile, they want to see your eyes. A nice smile and a sparkle in your eyes will go along way towards attracting a compatible person.
A full body photo, so you are built average or a few extra pounds, far better to flaunt it and be up front about it than catch someone by total surprise. The best photos are natural, not too posed that show us in a good light. A professional photo is a nice addition, you can have a portrait taken at Target or Walmart for very little cost. Glamour photos are nice but they really dont show the true you. Photos that show you doing something such as your trip to Mexico or out hiking, also tell more about who you are. More than one photo reveals even more about you and your interests.
Very few people post more than one or two photos. With the majority of people posting bad photos, you will be way ahead of the competition by posting several great photos. Your profile will really stand out. A portrait, a full body shot and some fun photos are all good choices. Web cam photos, photos with your ex cut out, mug shots, photos of you with your arm around a member of the opposite sex even if they are related are a poor choice. A person looking at your photo doesnt know who the person is. Avoid shots that are so dark or distant that no one can see your face. Dont use photos that are blurry or out of focus. And dont cover up or hide your face. Dont use group photos. You dont need someone writing to you asking if your blond friend is available! It is your choice if you want to post photos that include you with your children. On one hand it is nice to see the most important people in your life but if you would rather protect their privacy than you can leave them off.
Ideas for getting a good photo include:
Have a friend with a digital camera take a series of photos of you in a
variety of settings, outfits, etc. and then choose the best 2-8.
Dont use your high school graduation picture from 1988.
Dont use any photo no matter how good it is, if it is older than a year.
Dont use a photo that shows you 50lbs lighter or back when you had hair.
Dont use any photo that doesnt look like you today.
Dont use photos of your pets only or pictures of you on the sofa with kids or pets that are not yours, it may turn some people off.
People looking at your ad want to know the current you and your photos should reflect that. Dont use 5 photos where you look totally different in each one. Is this the same person or different people? When it comes to meeting you in person you should look like the photos you posted.
The golden rule when posting photos on dating sites is obvious Be Honest. Weve all heard stories of people whove posted a photo that is ten or twenty years old. Or worse still, a photo of someone else entirely!
A misleading photo causes all sorts of unnecessary problems on a first date. You will have your date questioning your honesty. You want to turn up for dates relaxed, with your best attitude put forward. Still not convinced? Just think how you would feel, if someone using a dishonest photo deceived you? That should be incentive enough for you to be honest and accurate.
So what if youve gained a few pounds? Aged a bit? Give yourself some credit, youre still a great person, and sure to be someones ideal match. Physical attraction is a very personal thing. Some people may be attracted to you for your smile or that sparkle in your eye and they may actually like your love handles. Dont be afraid to let people know the real you. None of us are perfect. Attitude counts for far more than a perfect body.
Posting accurate current pictures is the only way to go for online dating success.
BONUS : How To Sizzle & Dazzle Women With Powerful Posture & Presentation
James Bond is not just another guy who gets his way across with the most beautiful women in the world, with just Dry Martini, shaken and not stirred. There are a few important lessons which Sean Connery and later Pierce Brosnan have taught us. Exuding supreme self-confidence and style in every step, form part of their overall bearing and behavior. Like Bond, you can also take the following tips, to make your presence felt as a man that spells charisma and exudes control.
1. Say Cheese, often!
Laughing only during a joke session or a funny movie is not what a woman looks for in you. Look yourself in the mirror and try to put on your best smile and see how that simple act changes the way people treat you. A genuine smile brings about a sense of comfort, all-is-well-with-me kind of feeling on your face and ensures that there is something deep down inside which makes you happy. This sheer realization rubs off on your date and she obviously would love to spend more time with a happy and secure man!
2. Give pauses when you speak
Never speak in such a hurry as if you have to catch a flight the next minute. Intersperse your sentences with adequate uhms and ahs. Give reasonable pauses in between you will not appear foolish, rather intelligent and thoughtful, as if you mark and mean every word you say. Take a breather, before any word or point, where you wish to lay stress on. More than the content of your soliloquy, the style sometimes carry more weight.
3. A clumsy walk is extremely disgusting
Your personality takes a new meaning by the way you carry yourself physically. The gait, the strides all make up your overall deportment. Walking with your body slumping forward, shifty eyes when you talk make you look lazy, insecure, nervous and too laid back. Remember the army command, stomach in, chest out, chin up. Of course I dont want to make you look like a stiff dummy toy soldier, by when you walk with your spine erect and chin up, quickly and with definitive steps, stand or sit down without leaning too much forward - it all boils down to making you look confident and smart. A man who knows where is he is going.
4. Make up your mind what to do with your hands
What you do with your hands and body movements are important signals which you give out to the world. Do not move in jerky, shaky movements. Loosen your limbs and try to move in circular motions. Learn to relax as you move your hands and body, as if you were painting or acting out a poem. Surely do not pose as a dancer, but be as fluid and relaxed as is possible, without appearing effeminate.
5. Stand tall, stand erect
Most men do not look very confident and sure of themselves when they are merely standing. Fiddling with their mobiles, fidgeting with their nails, crossing their arms all throw up images of a nervous, indecisive and closed personality. Find out your own style, that you are most comfortable with yet appears charming. Amazing yet true, the men who pose on front covers of fashion magazines, do speak of an extremely confident and macho persona. Why not take a few lessons from these photographs? It is crucial to look calm, collected and in control, even when you are standing.
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