Friendship

Friendship

Friendship for many, to include scholarly individuals, is actually some sort of an informal category without specific limitations or boundaries. Like when you say a person is a friend, you do not say that he is your friend in school, or he is your friend in the office or a friend in any category of undertaking. Usually, friendship would indicate mutual relationship that you give and take for each other with a time span that will always depend on each party concerned. The degree of friendship would usually be dependent on the circumstances that resulted to such relationship. The degree of friendship with a classmate at school will be different than the degree of friendship with a neighbor friend. Even in work, the ties of friendship a person has with his co-employees in an office work will be different from the ties of friendship between soldiers. In most cases, the degree of dependency among one another in a particular undertaking, would measure the degree of friendship among them.

Friendship for that matter takes on many forms like casual friends whom you may consider already as friends even when you have just meet them once, twice or thrice in a gathering, long time friends, people you have known since you were young like your neighbors, and best friends like your close in barkadas or groups that you are always with and shares with you whatever they have and you, whatever you have, in return. These sharing between best of friends are not only limited to material things but also would include spiritual and emotional sharing like keeping and advising your friends in keeping up with their faith and other emotional problems that they have. These sharing of all aspects of your daily life, sometimes you use friendship sms text messages, lovely friendship sms that will cause to deepen the friendship between your groups of friends.

There are, however, a lot of people who uses friendship as a tool for self advantage. The sad thing about these kinds of people would be the fact that once they have gained their purpose because of the friendship that they were able to establish they just as suddenly junk the friends that helped them in the first place. These people are those that can be considered as friendship for advantage gals and guys. There are also those who will only make friends with people who share with them their passion. These people are those that we can categorize as people who look for selective friendship. People in this category can be persons who are into different hobbies or undertakings that they value so much that once they know you have the same kind of aspiration would then try to consider you as a friend in such kind of an undertaking. For example, a person with a passion for horses can easily make friends with a person in the horse breeding business. And if you are a SCUBA enthusiast, you can make friends easily with an underwater photographer once you chanced to meet each other.

These kinds of friendship actually, are not only related to hobbies like playing with your mobile phone, sending sms messages, sharing love text and other special skills that a person has to make friends with other persons sharing with him interest in the same field of endeavor. These can also be true to even negative habits such as drinking, gambling and womanizing. This is precisely why we have this saying, Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are.

BONUS : Frustrated With Internet Dating? Top Five Ways To Find Your Mate Without A Computer

Copyright 2006 David Steele

In a new trend, singles are becoming increasingly disillusioned with internet dating and seeking alternatives. With millions of singles using the internet and the promises and success stories of online matchmaking websites, I've heard the same thing over and over from singles across the country who are frustrated with internet dating-

"It's great to have a lot of choices, but it takes a lot of time and I don't seem to meet anyone I have much chemistry with."

This trend makes sense to me. In some ways, using a computer to find your soul mate is like trying to cook a souffle in a microwave. Some things just require time, effort, and the human touch.

This article will explore the upsides and downsides of internet dating, attempt to explain why internet dating doesn't work for some (most?) singles, and suggest some alternatives.

Top Five Advantages of Internet Dating

1. Reach more singles 2. Inexpensive (relatively) 3. Enough information available for efficient sorting 4. Anonymous 5. Easy to control most aspects of the process

Top Five Downsides of Internet Dating

1. Overwhelming number of choices 2. Encourages "shopping" mentality 3. Many users are less than truthful 4. Some users are game players, predators. cheaters 5. Complacency- tempting to rely on the internet and exclude other options

The Internet, Chemistry, and the Law of Attraction

Today's singles seem to be relying on their computer a bit too much and complacently expecting the internet to deliver their soul mate. This is a version of the Fairytale Trap (one of fourteen dating traps in my book "Conscious Dating"). The internet is a wonderful tool (I use it!) but doesn't seem to work effectively as the only tool for finding potential partners.

I believe that the two biggest reasons why the internet isn't effective for many singles is the role of chemistry and the Law of Attraction.

Chemistry is critically important for a successful relationship. Everyone wants a partner they feel strong chemistry with, and a relationship would be pretty dry and unsustainable without it. The Fourth Principle of Conscious Dating is "Balance Your Heart With Your Head." Identifying your requirements, needs, and wants does not minimize the need for chemistry. You need both! I like to think of chemistry as the radar that helps you find your target, then you use your requirements, needs and wants to decide "yes" or "no."

The Law of Attraction is inescapeable and either works for you or against you. If you're "busy" or "shy" and the internet is your only means of reaching potential partners, in a way you're hiding behind your computer and the Law of Attraction is not likely to help you. The Law of Attraction states that "like attracts like" and "energy follows attention," meaning your results reflect your thoughts and your actions. Over the years I've become convinced that the Law of Attraction is a powerful law of the Universe, like gravity. Just like "what goes up must come down," try as you might, you can't avoid or change the principle that "like attracts like."

If you're hiding behind your computer, what people, relationships, and results are you likely to attract?

Top Five Ways to Find Your Mate Without a Computer

1. Use your support community

Most people find their soul mate through someone they know, so don't be a lone ranger (another dating trap!) and lean on your friends, family, co-workers, and neighbors to assist you to meet potential partners.

2. Start a dating pool or networking group

Get a group of singles together (any gender mix) to support each other to meet potential partners. Most singles know lots of other singles of both genders, so pool your resources and do some matchmaking for each other!

3. Reach out to people

In today's busy world with cell phones, texting, instant messaging, e-mail, and the internet promoting impersonal ways of interacting with others, it's easy to forget the lost art of engagement with real people that are right in front of you. Make an effort to reach out to the people you come into contact with in your everyday life and watch your relationships blossom.

4. Make more friends

Since most people find their soul mate through someone they know, be open to developing new friendships and expanding your support community. Chances are you already have acquaintances at work and other places that you would enjoy spending more time with. Friends are easier to find than dates, and friendships often last longer than romantic relationships!

5. Get involved

Too many singles lead isolated lives centered around work, home, and a few friends. Participating in clubs, groups, classes, charities, church/temple, is the most important way you can leverage the Law of Attraction to help you find your soul mate. You'll meet new people, make new friends, and pursue hobbies and interests important to you that bring you in contact with other compatible singles.

Balancing High Tech with High Touch

While technology can help us in many ways, let's not forget that as humans we are social beings and finding your life partner is a relationship goal that is most effectively acheived by getting away from your computer and living a full, rich life among real people doing the things you enjoy that make your life meaningful.

As the ancient Roman playwright Terence once said "Moderation in all things." Do you think he meant the internet as well?

Let's address this trend of over-reliance on the internet for finding love. Please pass this article along to the frustrated singles in your life that you care about!