Dating Tip How To Ask A Man You Work With Out For A Date Using

Dating Tip: "how To Ask A Man You Work With Out For A Date Using Class, Style, Dignity And Integrity."

I recently received this question from a woman wanting dating advice. If you've ever seen a man you work with that you're attracted to, who you'd like to date but, for whatever reason, he hasn't asked you out, you might try this technique.

First, her dating question:

"I am a 29 year old single woman. I am very attracted to a man at work and would like to go out on a date with him. I only know him to say 'Hello' to and I have found out that he is single."

"I am well educated and dress very well and have been asked out for dates by many men, but I have never asked a man to go out on a date. What should I do?"

Here's my dating advice:

It's not just letting him know you're attracted to him or asking him out. It's letting him know you're attracted to him and asking him out with class, style and dignity while keeping your integrity intact. The last thing you want is for him to get the wrong impression. You don't want him to think you're cheap and you don't want him to think you're looking for a one night stand.

The first thing you want to do is let him know, in a nice way, you're interested in him. Then he will either respond by encouraging the interaction or not respond and walk away.

An important dating tip: As an attractive woman, you know there is nothing worse than a man coming on to you when the feeling isn't mutual. That's how he will feel if he doesn't share your interest.

Here's how to let him know you're interested in him using class, style and dignity: When you see him coming, stop what you're doing. If you're walking, stop. If you're sitting, stop what you're doing. Just stand or sit there calmly, wherever it is, and establish eye contact with him. Then smile and let him either walk up to you or walk by you.

An important dating tip about establishing eye contact: You don't want to stare him down. Rather, you want to look at him until you get his attention. Once you have his attention, hold the eye contact a moment, then smile.

And an important dating tip about smiling at him: Don't use a sexy, seductive smile. It gives him the wrong message. Rather, give him a nice, warm, friendly smile. A smile that says, "Hi. I know we don't know each other. I'm attracted to you and I hope the feeling is mutual. If it is, let's get to know each other better. If it isn't, I respect that and will leave you alone."

After you've established eye contact and smiled, if he keeps walking, at least you tried. If he stops, say hi to him and ask him what his name is. Try to start a casual conversation with him. If he has anything on the ball, he'll know you're attracted to him. If he's interested in you and he's a good prospect, he'll encourage the conversation.

If you see him on a regular or semi regular basis, after you talk with him for a while, end the conversation without asking him out until you see him again. Then, when you see each other again, pick up the conversation where you left off. If he doesn't ask you out and you think he's interested say, "Maybe we could get together sometime for lunch."

If he responds favorably, make plans to get together with him.

BONUS : Dating Tip : Top 5 Mistakes To Avoid On Your First Date With Her

So you finally succeeded in getting that first date with your potential honey. What’s next? Well, you will do yourself a world of good to avoid making some common mistakes which can make or break your day, and possibly your ego. In this dating tip guide, I have outlined 5 mistakes that you should avoid at all costs. Ready? Read on.

1. Flashing your cash at her

You may have loads of cash, or you may not have a single dime. Whatever it is, never try to use money to buy your date’s love. This is the number one mistake to avoid on your first date. This is supposed to be a chance for you to find out if your date is compatible with you. You are not going through an arranged marriage, mind you. If it really work out fine, then good for you. But if it doesn’t, then you will look back on all the cash you spent on the expensive dinner, the movie ticket, the roses, the collar for her golden retriever……..

OK, so you might just be lucky enough to get a second date. You figured that you want to do better than the first date, so you bought her diamonds, a new golden retriever, a mansion, an island, and heck, you can fly to the moon and back. Your woman will be so impressed by you. Well, not you exactly, but your fat wallet. But when the money in it disappear, then she will disappear with it too. Then you go back into your shell, and kick yourself for being a sore loser.

2. Talking about another woman in front of her.

There are probably a thousand and one topics that you can discuss with your date, but the one thing which you can ill afford to bring up during a conversation, is the name of another woman. Never mind if you are drooling over Jessica Alba, never mind if it is your ex-girlfriend, never mind even if it is your maid. The bottom-line is this : women just don’t like it when they hear about another woman. Your date would expect you to be thinking only about her, and no-one else.

3. Shagging is on your mind

This mistake is just as disastrous as the first two. Talking about sex on your first date with her is an absolute no-no. Unless you want some spaghetti thrown at you, please do yourself a favour, and stay well clear of the subject of sex. Let’s face it. If a woman really needed some sex, then she wouldn’t even bother to go on a date with you. She would be busy in her bed. Get it?

4. Getting your hands full on her.

On your first date with her, make sure you restrict yourself to just a friendly handshake at the beginning, and maybe guide her by the small of her back while crossing the road. And when sending her back home, a gentle little peck on her cheek would do very nicely. Do not be a maniac, and move your hands all over her. Chances are, she will have the sheriff coming down on you in no time. So please control yourself, and your hands. Be a gentleman, not a moron.

5. You try to be someone you are not.

I can’t stress this enough. On your first date, just be yourself. Do not try to be someone you are not. If you are that sporty person, then so be it. If you are that guy of the casual look, then so be it. Never try to impersonate a Brad Pitt, or a George Clooney. You will only be making a fool of yourself. So don’t try anything funny. Just be your natural self. And also, do not brag to her about anything. Don’t tell her that you are going to fly to the moon, and bring it down for her. Remember, whatever goes around, comes around. And in time to come, you will find that your bragging will come back to haunt you.

There you have it. The top 5 mistakes which you should avoid at all costs on your first date, outlined very neatly for you in this dating tip guide. Ignore them at your own peril. Because if anything goes wrong on your first date, chances are, you will remember this article of mine.

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