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Dating Sites And Dating Tips
There are certain tips that should be borne in mind when using a dating site, because although you may be the best person on offer on the site, it will come to nothing unless you can get yourself noticed.
First of all you need to write a good profile, one that will catch peoples attention. Women for example should avoid the pitfall of mentioning sex; it will lead to the wrong kind of responses. Men should write about themselves and not just what they are interested in e.g. football.
Please try to remember what you are trying to gain out of dating; a long term relationship. Therefore be prepared to put some effort into your profile, a little work at the outset will make it so much easier to attract the right sort of person for you. Try to identify your traits, are you a naturally happy person, are you outgoing or shy? Try to give your prospective date some real information about your character. If you have a particular hobby or something you enjoy doing, for example cooking, let them know about it.
People often ask if they should include a photo with their profile. I would advise that it is best that you should include both a full length photo and a close up one. But please remember to make that recent ones! Dont be tempted into including a 10 year old photo because you will get caught out! It is a fact however that dating profiles that include photos attract more responses than those without; I guess people like to see what they are getting!
So, once you have got a date, what should you do and what are the no nos?
Men tips for you
Listen to what the woman is saying and take an interest; ask her questions on what she is talking about. Try to ask questions that encourage conversation rather than just a yes or no answer. For example, you could ask what was it about a book that made them like it rather than did you like the book?
Never talk about your previous relationships; its not something she wants to hear about!
Always tell the truth on a date, if you dont it will catch up with you somewhere down the line!
Dont go overboard on the Dutch courage! A couple of drinks to be sociable are ok but dont get drunk you wont make a good impression. You make think your telling the funniest jokes and talking perfectly normally but believe me, you arent! I know because my wife tells me so!
On to the tips for the ladies!
Try and compliment the man he will love you for it. Praise him for what he is good at and dont criticize him over his bad points.
Try to be positive when talking with him; dont discuss your previous relationships in detail.
Be confident. Men are attracted to confident women. There subconsciously feel that a confident woman has the ability to attract men more easily than a not so confident woman, so the fact you are with him will flatter him!
Keep eye contact for that little bit longer than normal. This is a sure fire sign for the man that you are interested in him, but subtle.
BONUS : Dating Sites & Personal Ads - Who's Looking At You?
Who's looking at you? If youve ever used an online dating site you wont always know the answer to that.
Have you ever been suspicious of the faceless profile constantly viewing your personal ad? Have you refused to display your own photos for that very reason? Have you been ignored or rejected by most of the people you contact? And, even if you have a photo, do you receive messages from faceless people and choose to ignore them, possibly missing out on your dream date but afraid to take that chance? Well, Ive been there! Do you want to know what I did?
More of that later, but wouldnt it be great if EVERY personal ad displayed a photograph of its creator? So why dont we? Why cant I put a face to everyone whos been looking at my profile? Why cant I find a site which makes me display a photo of my own face?
OK, if I was forced to upload a photograph I could upload one of someone else, but what good will that do me if I ever hope to meet someone? Its generally accepted that many people dont wish to upload their photo at all; often due to the fear of who might see it. There are many other reasons, too, and I understand -- because, for a while, I was one of them. A faceless profile, that is; not a reason! Teachers, for example, may not wish to have students viewing their details and therefore choose to omit photographs from their personal ads. However, this severely limits their potential for meeting other singles with whom they would like to communicate.
The vast majority of online dating site members I have spoken to have said they prefer to see a picture of the person with whom they wish to communicate. Or they simply dont communicate. (Yes, I was rejected and ignored by many!) Most dating sites Ive visited have told me personal ads with photos attract 5 to 10 times more people than those without. So why dont we all add a photograph to our ad? Does physical attraction really count?
It would appear so. After all, if I want someone to kiss me, physical attraction does count. I know this: Ive been told! Who wants to kiss a face resembling that of a bulldog sucking a wasp? I was once asked. Is their a point to opening communications with me, spending days or weeks dealing with messages before deciding to meet, only to find you cant bring yourself to kiss a face like that? In my experience it would appear not. But I suspect theres a little more to it than the issue of physical attraction.
Just for the record, let me indulge in a spot of vanity and say Im not considered to be unattractive. So, for the moment, lets assume our reluctance to communicate with a faceless profile has nothing to do with physical attraction at all, but rather that a photo may be the only way we can gain some sort of safety factor or comfort zone in revealing ourselves to others on the net. For instance, how do we know were communicating with someone who may not only be hiding their good looks but who may also be hiding the real person behind the profile? A photo may not be proof of identity, but in the world of internet dating it appears to be the best we have. It would appear to provide a greater comfort zone. But remember, I may be the teacher who doesnt want my details made available to my students, or a doctor not wishing to be seen by my patients. No matter what my reason for choosing to not reveal my face, the point is this: How do I get the best of both worlds? How do I remain hidden but still attract the people I would like to meet?
Every dating site Ive used has left me facing problems such as this and those to which I referred in the second paragraph, so, I decided to do something about it. I went in search of my ideal site. I went in search of a site which offers an environment that caters for people who recognise those same problems. I wanted a site where I could say
Every member must include a clear photograph of their own face or be rejected. If I dont want my details made visible to everyone, I can choose to restrict access to my profile by age-range, sexuality, or even make myself invisible to everyone while I use the site anonymously, choosing only to e seen by the people I contact. Non-members cant gain access to my personal ad, so, if anyone can see me I know theyre there for the same reason as myself -- and they will have a face I can see. But if they are young enough to be my neighbours offspring or old enough to be their grandparents I can filter them out. And if they happen to have a sexual preference different than my own I can filter that too. I can even block undesirables and prevent them contacting me at all. As an added bonus my details would not be available to new members until their own profiles had first been approved.
Could I find a site like that?
NO. Nowhere.
So, I did something else: I uploaded a photograph. But thats not all. Ill come to that before I finish, but I can now tell you from experience that if you want to get the most out of your online dating experience it makes sense to upload a photograph and watch those messages pour in to your mailbox at a greater rate than before. Admittedly a photograph doesnt tell the whole story, but making the most of your personal ad is a future article all of its own. Uploading my photograph definitely improved my response rate, but I promised you I would tell you what else I did
I found a way to deal with those problems I mentioned earlier. I can now display my photo without being suspicious of a faceless profile constantly viewing my details. I no longer receive messages from faceless people, so, hopefully I wont miss out on that dream date because I was afraid to reply to an unknown entity. And if I send out a message I now find I usually get a response.
You lied , I hear you say, you did find your ideal site. Actually, no, I didnt. I created it instead -- just for people like you and I. Well, it seemed the obvious thing to do. But thats not why Im telling you all of this.
You may not want to create your own website to cater for your ideals, but, if you want to make the most of your online dating experience, no matter which site you use, put a photograph in your personal ad and let others know whos been viewing them. Your response rate will probably double. Mine did - and more! You might find others follow your lead. And when they do, then, at least, youll know whos been looking at you.
Copyright © 2006 Harold King.
Who's looking at you? If youve ever used an online dating site you wont always know the answer to that.
Have you ever been suspicious of the faceless profile constantly viewing your personal ad? Have you refused to display your own photos for that very reason? Have you been ignored or rejected by most of the people you contact? And, even if you have a photo, do you receive messages from faceless people and choose to ignore them, possibly missing out on your dream date but afraid to take that chance? Well, Ive been there! Do you want to know what I did?
More of that later, but wouldnt it be great if EVERY personal ad displayed a photograph of its creator? So why dont we? Why cant I put a face to everyone whos been looking at my profile? Why cant I find a site which makes me display a photo of my own face?
OK, if I was forced to upload a photograph I could upload one of someone else, but what good will that do me if I ever hope to meet someone? Its generally accepted that many people dont wish to upload their photo at all; often due to the fear of who might see it. There are many other reasons, too, and I understand -- because, for a while, I was one of them. A faceless profile, that is; not a reason! Teachers, for example, may not wish to have students viewing their details and therefore choose to omit photographs from their personal ads. However, this severely limits their potential for meeting other singles with whom they would like to communicate.
The vast majority of online dating site members I have spoken to have said they prefer to see a picture of the person with whom they wish to communicate. Or they simply dont communicate. (Yes, I was rejected and ignored by many!) Most dating sites Ive visited have told me personal ads with photos attract 5 to 10 times more people than those without. So why dont we all add a photograph to our ad? Does physical attraction really count?
It would appear so. After all, if I want someone to kiss me, physical attraction does count. I know this: Ive been told! Who wants to kiss a face resembling that of a bulldog sucking a wasp? I was once asked. Is their a point to opening communications with me, spending days or weeks dealing with messages before deciding to meet, only to find you cant bring yourself to kiss a face like that? In my experience it would appear not. But I suspect theres a little more to it than the issue of physical attraction.
Just for the record, let me indulge in a spot of vanity and say Im not considered to be unattractive. So, for the moment, lets assume our reluctance to communicate with a faceless profile has nothing to do with physical attraction at all, but rather that a photo may be the only way we can gain some sort of safety factor or comfort zone in revealing ourselves to others on the net. For instance, how do we know were communicating with someone who may not only be hiding their good looks but who may also be hiding the real person behind the profile? A photo may not be proof of identity, but in the world of internet dating it appears to be the best we have. It would appear to provide a greater comfort zone. But remember, I may be the teacher who doesnt want my details made available to my students, or a doctor not wishing to be seen by my patients. No matter what my reason for choosing to not reveal my face, the point is this: How do I get the best of both worlds? How do I remain hidden but still attract the people I would like to meet?
Every dating site Ive used has left me facing problems such as this and those to which I referred in the second paragraph, so, I decided to do something about it. I went in search of my ideal site. I went in search of a site which offers an environment that caters for people who recognise those same problems. I wanted a site where I could say
Every member must include a clear photograph of their own face or be rejected. If I dont want my details made visible to everyone, I can choose to restrict access to my profile by age-range, sexuality, or even make myself invisible to everyone while I use the site anonymously, choosing only to e seen by the people I contact. Non-members cant gain access to my personal ad, so, if anyone can see me I know theyre there for the same reason as myself -- and they will have a face I can see. But if they are young enough to be my neighbours offspring or old enough to be their grandparents I can filter them out. And if they happen to have a sexual preference different than my own I can filter that too. I can even block undesirables and prevent them contacting me at all. As an added bonus my details would not be available to new members until their own profiles had first been approved.
Could I find a site like that?
NO. Nowhere.
So, I did something else: I uploaded a photograph. But thats not all. Ill come to that before I finish, but I can now tell you from experience that if you want to get the most out of your online dating experience it makes sense to upload a photograph and watch those messages pour in to your mailbox at a greater rate than before. Admittedly a photograph doesnt tell the whole story, but making the most of your personal ad is a future article all of its own. Uploading my photograph definitely improved my response rate, but I promised you I would tell you what else I did
I found a way to deal with those problems I mentioned earlier. I can now display my photo without being suspicious of a faceless profile constantly viewing my details. I no longer receive messages from faceless people, so, hopefully I wont miss out on that dream date because I was afraid to reply to an unknown entity. And if I send out a message I now find I usually get a response.
You lied , I hear you say, you did find your ideal site. Actually, no, I didnt. I created it instead -- just for people like you and I. Well, it seemed the obvious thing to do. But thats not why Im telling you all of this.
You may not want to create your own website to cater for your ideals, but, if you want to make the most of your online dating experience, no matter which site you use, put a photograph in your personal ad and let others know whos been viewing them. Your response rate will probably double. Mine did - and more! You might find others follow your lead. And when they do, then, at least, youll know whos been looking at you.
Copyright © 2006 Harold King.
