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Getting To The Top By Fits And Starts
I would venture to believe that most people have the qualities to make them a success. Then why are not more of them successful?
I would venture to believe that most people have the qualities to make them a success. Then why are not more of them successful? One observation is; by not following through on actions that they started with. They have victory in sight and then do you want to know what they do?
Settle For Mediocrity!
Have you ever known someone who was full of immediate action with no ultimate purpose? Their body is moving, their hands are busy, but their destination is unclear! Even when their actions apparently seem right, they show they're not fully aware of where they're going.
Since they're not really sure of where they're going, they settle for something less than what they started after. Here's an example: You decide you need to get some area of your life under control. Maybe you decide you need to stop worrying. And, that's a good thing. That's a very worthy goal to pursue.
So, you begin to read good motivational books, you listen to good motivational tapes and you're busy as you can be to get this worry bug under your foot. But, all the time you're doing this, there is a nagging thought in your head that says; "what if it doesn't work this time?"
A Rotten Apple Will Spoil The Barrel!
In affect, what you're doing is; tearing down worry on one side and building up fear on the other. If someone says to you, how are you coming along with eliminating worry? You say, "Yes, it's going great!" And then you say, but, you know I heard they are going to be laying off a lot of people at the plant and I'm afraid I may lose my job.
What have you done? You showed "worry" the door, and invited fear in to play footsy with you. And, believe it; fear will cause just as much havoc as worry. They both come from the bottomless pit, and have no business in our thoughts.
Listen, even if they are going to lay off a bunch of people at your plant, you can't do a thing about it by fearing it or worrying about it. If it happens, deal with it then; NOT NOW!!
And, don't tell yourself you can't stop worrying because it is too serious of a matter and could devastate your livelihood. !
For Crying Out Loud!
If you believe that then you're saying that nothing bad has ever happened to you without you first giving it a real good dose of worry before it happened.
I tell you right now; many lousy troubles have happened to me, right out of the blue, and I never spent ten seconds worrying about them beforehand. I didn't even know about them. The point is: if troubles are going to happen anyway, we need to know how to deal with them. And, worry and fear is not the way to do it.
Every Dog Has Its Day!
You have never fixed anything in your life by worrying about it. If it got better, it's not because you worried about it; it's more than likely because you didn't settle for mediocrity and insisted on full victory. And, sometimes good things just happen. Hallelujah!
Now you can understand why some people's actions seem directionless at times. They put all their efforts towards eliminating one obstacle while setting up another. They're like the proverbial "unstoppable object hitting the immovable object." And, then on the way to success, they stop somewhere short and settle for whatever is there at the time.
Most of the time, you can be relatively sure, it was some emotion that stopped them short. It was an emotion that started them and it will be an emotion that stops them. Emotions are a funny thing: They can fuel us with enough fire to leap tall buildings, and at the same time, make us feel like it won't happen until pigs fly.
A Fine Kettle Of Fish!
What a revolting development. What do we believe? What do we do? No wonder some people seem directionless in their pursuit of their goals. No wonder some people just settle for mediocrity in mid stream just to satisfy those conflicting emotions and shut them up. And, it's a pretty good way to boast success since we didn't follow through to see what would ultimately happen.
I'm thinking of too many times in my life as a young man that I stopped in mid stream to take what ever was there and stop the feelings that kept saying; "if you keep going you might not get it; better take what you got now." You know that ole saying, "a bird in the hand?"
I didn't want to hear that bird in the hand crap. My head said that to me so many times I was beginning to feel as lucky as the only man in a women's prison with a fist full of pardons. Talk about directionless; and settling for mediocrity.
Ah! That's Where The Rub Is!
The problem is: someone can get into a habit of "settling", and then that's the real source of the directionless and out of control life. As long as we live in this world, we will have opportunities to "settle" for something of mediocrity.
The more we "settle" the more of a habit it becomes and the more we sub-consciously start expecting a "settling point." We don't think about it and we certainly don't start out with the intention of finding a place to settle. But, when it shows up, and the "bird in the hand" voices start their song and tap dance on our forehead, we say, I know when to hold em, and I know when to fold em, and its time to fold em.
The point is: it's not a bad thing to fold em if you can walk away ahead in the game. But, if it becomes an ingrained habit then the folding point will start showing up earlier and earlier till you find yourself folding right after the start.
Get To The Bottom Of It!
How do you know when to fold? This is not rocket science. It's pretty simple really. Ask yourself a couple of key questions. Can I walk away ahead? Has this thing given me something of value? And most important; has something else presented itself in my life that I can replace this with?
For me, if any one of these three questions are "no", then I'm not ready to fold em; especially the last one.
Would you like to know why we settle for something less? This is not really difficult to understand but it might be hard to accept. So pay attention, and at least give this some serious thought. Don't let the simplicity of it get away from you. The reason is, we don't know "how" to fix it.
If we knew how, we would keep going. If we knew what to do, there would be no need to settle. If we knew what was going to happen in every circumstance, we would not worry! We would never worry. Think about it. The lack of knowledge.
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Getting What You Want
We all wonder how to make our dreams come true. This article offers 7 tips for getting what you want out of life.
1. Recognize that you are the source of everything that you want.
Stop waiting to inherit it, win it; marry it, or expecting it to come from any source other than you. You can have anything that you want, all it requires it working with thoughts, feelings and intentions.
2. Understand that the process of attaining what you want (the how) is more important than the end result (the what).
Its really a matter of personal growth, changing your thinking and expanding your beliefs about what you deserve to have. Once you have mastered the how, you can have what you want when you want it. It is the old adage about teaching a man to fish in order to feed him for a lifetime.
3. Dont underestimate the power of your thoughts, emotions and intentions.
Your thoughts are the model of what you want. Everything that was invented in this world began as a thought in someones mind first. Emotions energize thoughts. The more passionately you want something, the more rapidly you bring your thoughts into form. Intention acts to direct you thoughts and emotions. The clearer you are as to your purpose or intention the more likely you are to get what you want.
4.Think about what you do want as opposed to what you dont want.
I want a loving relationship is a far cry from; I dont want to be alone for the rest of my life. I want an abundant life is not the same as; I dont want to be poor. I want to be healthy is not Im tired of being fat. Your thoughts form the model of what you want. Whatever you focus on is what you are likely to receive, as your energy follows your thoughts. We work perfectly to produce the results that we are getting, so choose to intentionally program the results that you really want.
5. Ask yourself what you think, having what you want, will give you that you dont have now.
If you had more money, or a relationship or children or a better job, or were thinner, what needs or desires would be satisfied? Usually the underlying answer to this question is something like security, freedom, love, happiness or inner peace. Dig down until you get right to the essence or core of what you really want in your life.
6. Determine ways that you can bring the essence of what you want into your life right now.
Dont wait to get what you want, how can you be happier, more secure, have more love or inner peace right now? Ask yourself what it would take to feel and believe these things now. If you think that being thinner would attract more love into your life, how can you attract more love now? Perhaps you can be more loving towards family, friends, people in need in your community. Perhaps you can start by loving, nurturing and pampering yourself more.
7. Act like you already have what you want in your life.
If you want a successful business then act as if you already have one. Visualize what you would look like, feel like, and think like, if you were already running a successful business. Each morning just before you get out of bed imagine you running your successful business; start a picture scrapbook showing your perfect life as you are running your successful business. Where will you operate it from your home, an outside office? Who will work with you? What services will you provide and to whom? What kind of income will it provide? What will you be able to do with this income for yourself, your family, friends, for your community? Put together an action plan that will move you in the direction of your dreams. Each night as you slide back into bed, ask yourself, What did I do today that moves me in the direction of what I want?