Seek Marriage Help From The Right Sources

Seek Marriage Help From The Right Sources

If you need marriage help, don’t make the mistake most people do. Don’t talk to a member of the opposite sex about it unless that person is functioning in a professional capacity.

For example, a woman believes her husband doesn’t give her as much attention as he should. She should never talk to a male coworker about the situation even if he is considered to be a dear friend. If he is sympathetic to her and they grow closer, more marriage problems are sure to follow. Depending on the workplace, conversation about the woman’s situation might even be misconstrued as sexual harassment which is never appropriate in the work place.

The best person to discuss marriage help with is your spouse. If that just is not possible – either because your spouse is not willing or because there is a chance you might be harmed for trying to talk about your problems and concerns – talk with a trained professional. Visit a counselor or minister to talk about your marriage problems. They are trained to look at situations objectively and know how to maintain your confidentiality.

If you do not have a minister or know a counselor, you can find one discreetly by looking at your local phone book. Search under “counseling” or “marriage counselors” to find several to call. Some communities may even have counseling services free of charge for some situations. If you have a close friend you can confide in, ask if they have heard anything about the counselors you find. At work you can always pull that “a friend of mine is looking for a counselor. Have you heard of any?” trick.

If the advice you receive from the minister or counselor does not strike a chord with you, go somewhere else. That does not mean that if the advice is not what you want to hear, to leave it behind, however. When you seek help for your marriage, you need to be open minded enough to accept that some of the responsibility or blame may be your own.

Remember, the first step to solving any marriage problem is to seek help. If you and your spouse both agree, try going to a counselor together. The professional may prefer to see you individually after an initial meeting with the two of you together. If you are both willing to find marriage help, you will need to be accommodating and adaptable as you work through your problems and the counseling process.

BONUS : Seeking Love Through Matchmaking For Marriage Relationship (i)

Revival of traditional matchmaking service

Nowadays, communication has never been so fast; meeting people has never been so easy. But more and more people are looking for and using some kind of matchmaking service – online or offline.

We all see the revival of the millennium-old traditional matchmaking service industry. People looking for matchmaking service are serious love and marriage seekers. They are quite prepared to pay a huge amount of money in exchange for the highest rate of success in the shortest time possible. The Guinness Book of World Records listed Orly Hod (Orly the Matchmaker) – whose fees run up to $100,000 – as the world’s priciest matchmaker.

We do not have to look at the statistics before we know more people live longer today than those a century ago; more people get divorced today than those a century ago. We begin to wonder why marriage relationships would not last longer than those a century ago. Anyone could easily give dozens of reasons.

Of course, most people would think of love and marriage relationships are more an art than a science. But recent research has discovered that even personality and behavior orientations have genetic determinants, and so do marriage relationships.

We also see what the matchmakers are basically apply in matchmaking people are the nowadays so-called "scientific" tools – psychological tests, whether they are called compatibility tests, or personality profiles.

Almost all matchmakers take the view that compatibility is the golden rule. On the contrary, relationships do not depend only on compatibility.

There are numerous real cases that some couples disliked each other badly, but were able to stay together for their entire lives, while some other couples loved each other deeply, but were only able to enjoy each other’s company for a very brief period of time. That is why there are so many great love stories like "Romeo and Juliette".

If the problematic issues of marriage relationships can aptly be resolved by employing compatibility tests, life would relatively be easy. But is there anyone who is open-minded and dares to look into any other alternative means that could really help those desperate marriage seekers?

Relationships might not depend on compatibility.