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Marriage Counseling How Is The Health Of Your Relationship
The best relationships are friendships that catch fire. How well do you know your partner and their view of the world? Answer the following questions to find out.
1. I understand my partners philosophies about life.
Yes No
2. I consider my partner to be my very best friend.
Yes No
3. We often touch and kiss for no particular reason.
Yes No
4. I call my partner several times a day.
Yes No
5. I understand my partners dreams for the future.
Yes No
6. We find our sex life is fun and satisfying.
Yes No
7. We touch base everyday about how our day is going.
Yes No
8. If I have a problem, I talk with my partner.
Yes No
9. We have scheduled activities that we look forward to.
Yes No
10. We have similar values and goals.
Yes No
11. I think that my partner has high integrity.
Yes No
12. I cant wait to get home at the end of the day.
Yes No
13. We have favorite traditions for many of the holidays.
Yes No
14. I feel that my partner respects me.
Yes No
15. We enjoy many of the same activities.
Yes No
16. My partner understands my family.
Yes No
17. My partner makes me laugh.
Yes No
How many Yes answers did you have?
15 or more: You have a strong relationship built on friendship.
9-14: You have a good base but additional work will enhance your relationship. This is a good time to utilize additional tools.
8 or fewer: Get busy or you and your partner risk drifting apart.
BONUS : Marriage Counseling-make Time For Your Relationship By Avoiding Urgency Addiction
Lori Zimmermann of Santa Barbara, California, worked for a large international retail organization for eight years. She entered corporate America with the intent to stay and make a career. But after eight years, she called it quits and started freelancing to have more control over her work hours and her life.
I never felt finished at work, she explains. While I could maintain the status quo, I really couldnt make it better. We worked up to 60 hours a week just to get the job done. It wasnt directly said you had to do it, but everyone else was working that hard, so you just felt it was expected.
She walked away from a guaranteed salary, a benefit structure, and stock options to have flexibility and control over her time. Although it has certainly made things tougher financially, Ive never regretted my decision, she states.
She is not alone. More and more workers are questioning their role in corporate American and its ASAPs climate. Todays corporate culture is hooked on urgency where everything is a priority, needing to be done yesterday. This urgency addiction has become a way of life, a workaholic culture. Company routine revolves around a series of emergency fires that need extinguishing immediately. Employees run from project to project with caffeine energy and buckets of sand. Sprinkling a little sand here, a little there, they feel exhausted at the end of the day, yet cannot point to any specific accomplishment or finished project.
Urgency addiction permeates todays organizations and affects all who work there. It produces an adrenaline rush of feeling important, but soon leads to exhaustion and burn out. Those who attempt to fight it by asking, But, which one is the priority? are told, Everything is a priority. Employees dance as fast as they can but fall increasingly behind.
Workers try to compensate by taking work home, coming in early, or sacrificing time on weekends to improve productivity with no interruptions. This additional effort is usually rewarded with yet another project, another area of responsibility, and more simmering fires to extinguish.
By accepting bonuses, promotions, stock options, and buy-outs, boomers are trapped with golden handcuffs that make it difficult to leave, hard to stay, and impossible to say no. Money becomes the goal rather than a means to an end. Workers find that each rung of the success ladder only takes them to a higher level of urgency addiction. As one executive explained, Im at the top, but I dont like the view.
Some techniques to fight urgency addiction in your life:
*Review your calendar at the beginning of the week. Highlight the priorities and goals for each day. This will help you to narrow your focus. While unexpected emergencies may occur, you will be much less likely to be in a reactive mode if you take time to plan.
*Avoid hop-scotching. Resist hopping from one project to another without finishing what you start. You know what I mean; you start cleaning up a pile on your desk and then decide to create a file system. When you go to look in the files, you realize they have to be thinned, and so on. Finish one thing before you move on to something else.
*Do big projects first. You may have a tendency to gravitate to the projects or work that is easy to do. These often tend to be small projects that are no-brainers. Possibly you kid yourself that if you just clean up these small projects, you can give your full attention to the big things. The problem is never getting around to the large projects. So start with the ones you really dont want to do and the small ones will get done along the way.
*Have a sign over your desk that reads:
Lack of planning on your part
is not necessarily an emergency for me.
Lori Zimmermann of Santa Barbara, California, worked for a large international retail organization for eight years. She entered corporate America with the intent to stay and make a career. But after eight years, she called it quits and started freelancing to have more control over her work hours and her life.
I never felt finished at work, she explains. While I could maintain the status quo, I really couldnt make it better. We worked up to 60 hours a week just to get the job done. It wasnt directly said you had to do it, but everyone else was working that hard, so you just felt it was expected.
She walked away from a guaranteed salary, a benefit structure, and stock options to have flexibility and control over her time. Although it has certainly made things tougher financially, Ive never regretted my decision, she states.
She is not alone. More and more workers are questioning their role in corporate American and its ASAPs climate. Todays corporate culture is hooked on urgency where everything is a priority, needing to be done yesterday. This urgency addiction has become a way of life, a workaholic culture. Company routine revolves around a series of emergency fires that need extinguishing immediately. Employees run from project to project with caffeine energy and buckets of sand. Sprinkling a little sand here, a little there, they feel exhausted at the end of the day, yet cannot point to any specific accomplishment or finished project.
Urgency addiction permeates todays organizations and affects all who work there. It produces an adrenaline rush of feeling important, but soon leads to exhaustion and burn out. Those who attempt to fight it by asking, But, which one is the priority? are told, Everything is a priority. Employees dance as fast as they can but fall increasingly behind.
Workers try to compensate by taking work home, coming in early, or sacrificing time on weekends to improve productivity with no interruptions. This additional effort is usually rewarded with yet another project, another area of responsibility, and more simmering fires to extinguish.
By accepting bonuses, promotions, stock options, and buy-outs, boomers are trapped with golden handcuffs that make it difficult to leave, hard to stay, and impossible to say no. Money becomes the goal rather than a means to an end. Workers find that each rung of the success ladder only takes them to a higher level of urgency addiction. As one executive explained, Im at the top, but I dont like the view.
Some techniques to fight urgency addiction in your life:
*Review your calendar at the beginning of the week. Highlight the priorities and goals for each day. This will help you to narrow your focus. While unexpected emergencies may occur, you will be much less likely to be in a reactive mode if you take time to plan.
*Avoid hop-scotching. Resist hopping from one project to another without finishing what you start. You know what I mean; you start cleaning up a pile on your desk and then decide to create a file system. When you go to look in the files, you realize they have to be thinned, and so on. Finish one thing before you move on to something else.
*Do big projects first. You may have a tendency to gravitate to the projects or work that is easy to do. These often tend to be small projects that are no-brainers. Possibly you kid yourself that if you just clean up these small projects, you can give your full attention to the big things. The problem is never getting around to the large projects. So start with the ones you really dont want to do and the small ones will get done along the way.
*Have a sign over your desk that reads:
Lack of planning on your part
is not necessarily an emergency for me.
