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The Need For Self Esteem
Self-esteem is a good source of mental health and good well being and the need for self- esteem is as important as the need for mental development as the body craves for food.
It has been observed that individuals with good self esteem are more assertive, relaxed and at peace with themselves, who live balanced lives and always crave for self- improvement.
These people are usually independent thinkers and their outlook, oftentimes, positively create an impact on other people surrounding them. Here are some common tips in maintaining a high self esteem.
Optimism is very important, since it creates the atmosphere of positive state. In case things do not work out the way it should be, stop for a minute and think about how to make the most out of the situation.
Know how to differentiate between your strengths and your weaknesses. Having a good self- esteem does not mean not being helpless at times and needing help from others. Sometimes, we need all the encouragement that we can get especially in moments of weakness when we feel down and blue. After all, nobodys perfect.
Know your fears and conquer them. Knowing how to confront your fears will help you overcome adversities and will make you more confident about yourself.
Assertiveness is also important in developing self-esteem, especially when faced with situations where it is necessary to say no. Not every situation in life merits a yes, and sometimes when faced with situations that call for one to say no, it is important to stress the point and drive your message home and be proud of that decision.
Take good care of your mind and body. Many self gratifying measures deal with efforts to take good care of not just mental health, but also of physical development and attractiveness.
Selfesteem can also result from self satisfaction and confidence. Set expectations with yourself, especially by setting goals and ambitions, which are good motivators that can drive a person to aim for success.
Compliment yourself and always willingly accept it from others. This is one way of telling yourself that you have done the right thing and that you have done good.
Do not eat too much or watch the news or violent movies before going to sleep. Always make it a point to sleep well, that way, you start the day right and refreshed as you carry yourself.
Having fun is as much as keeping and maintaining a balanced mood all throughout the day. This will keep an individual maintain a positive outlook and, ultimately, be also a good motivator to aim for success and development.
It can also help strengthen the immune system.
Make it a point to always release pent-up negative emotions, since keeping them inside may result to repressed emotions that could affect a persons day to day mental demeanor. As much has possible, never try to be a perfectionist, especially in dealing with other people or even with the way affairs are being conducted.
After all, nothing is practically perfect in the world and sometimes, the sense of thinking that something could be flawed can turn out to be frustrating especially for perfectionists.
Lastly, surround yourself with supportive and positive people, and try to let go of people that you believe can pull you down or make you lose your identity as a person or an individual.
Understanding the need for self esteem is important, especially if you want to know how to understand what it means to be a person.
BONUS : The Roots of Low Self Confidence
There is no single factor that we can consider as the pool from which low self confidence comes from. In fact, it is the accumulation of mishaps and lacks in the past that we are failing to unearth and give due remedy. It is the outcome of our failure to recognize who we truly are and what are the hampers to our own growth.
Low self confidence is obviously delimiting. It would send us stomping on our endowed capacities and instead, take our failures as early defeats. It would confine is in our comfort zone where everything is safe from potential humiliation and further mistakes. The comfort zones will then make us believe that we must not go out from its four corners because out there, disappointments and losses await.
But even when we tell ourselves how harsh and messed up things may get, we must still not surrender to the inner critic that thrives inside us. We must at all rate, defeat it and show off ourselves to the world.
Low self confidence develops during our childhood. Unfortunately, many of us have parents, teachers, friends and enemies who are keener to our deficiencies than with our talents. They would tell us of our mistakes and kill our inner drives. These may not actually be said direct on our face but their actions and sneers are enough to convince us that we are losers.
Perhaps you live under cold critical eyes that know nothing of imperfection. Or maybe you are the underling of a brother who achieves in school, thus the intense focus on him and frequent disregard for you. Probably people do things for you when they feel like you cant do things on your own.
These are subtle triggering instances that would all contribute to your eventual loss of self confidence.
Because of such poor models and lack of attention given on you, you would soon find that you are really incapable of doing things when in fact you have gifts beyond your own reckoning.
Your belief on their beliefs would then send you blaming yourselves for all your failures. And at times, you would even convince yourself that you are also responsible for the failures of those people you have close contact with.
As a child, sweeping statements will be a commonplace for you. You will convince yourself of how stupid you are even without the reinforcement that comes from the warped people surrounding you.
And as the process goes on, you would learn to ignore the blind negative accusations that other people throw at you. And to add up more miseries on your already-piled up problems, you would learn to accept that there is nothing more to life but defeats and failures.
You faith in yourself by now is much too weakened. Therefor, you would not try to resolve your conflict on sense of self and would not dare plan how to get around this self-tormenting course of life. Solutions and helpful people would come to you though. However, your reactions would either be to push them away or totally disregard them.
Continue at this phase and you would soon discover that salvation from low self confidence is presenting itself to you but you are all too muddled in your own world that it would be way to impossible to cure the problem. Unless, a life changing miracle would cross your way.
There is no single factor that we can consider as the pool from which low self confidence comes from. In fact, it is the accumulation of mishaps and lacks in the past that we are failing to unearth and give due remedy. It is the outcome of our failure to recognize who we truly are and what are the hampers to our own growth.
Low self confidence is obviously delimiting. It would send us stomping on our endowed capacities and instead, take our failures as early defeats. It would confine is in our comfort zone where everything is safe from potential humiliation and further mistakes. The comfort zones will then make us believe that we must not go out from its four corners because out there, disappointments and losses await.
But even when we tell ourselves how harsh and messed up things may get, we must still not surrender to the inner critic that thrives inside us. We must at all rate, defeat it and show off ourselves to the world.
Low self confidence develops during our childhood. Unfortunately, many of us have parents, teachers, friends and enemies who are keener to our deficiencies than with our talents. They would tell us of our mistakes and kill our inner drives. These may not actually be said direct on our face but their actions and sneers are enough to convince us that we are losers.
Perhaps you live under cold critical eyes that know nothing of imperfection. Or maybe you are the underling of a brother who achieves in school, thus the intense focus on him and frequent disregard for you. Probably people do things for you when they feel like you cant do things on your own.
These are subtle triggering instances that would all contribute to your eventual loss of self confidence.
Because of such poor models and lack of attention given on you, you would soon find that you are really incapable of doing things when in fact you have gifts beyond your own reckoning.
Your belief on their beliefs would then send you blaming yourselves for all your failures. And at times, you would even convince yourself that you are also responsible for the failures of those people you have close contact with.
As a child, sweeping statements will be a commonplace for you. You will convince yourself of how stupid you are even without the reinforcement that comes from the warped people surrounding you.
And as the process goes on, you would learn to ignore the blind negative accusations that other people throw at you. And to add up more miseries on your already-piled up problems, you would learn to accept that there is nothing more to life but defeats and failures.
You faith in yourself by now is much too weakened. Therefor, you would not try to resolve your conflict on sense of self and would not dare plan how to get around this self-tormenting course of life. Solutions and helpful people would come to you though. However, your reactions would either be to push them away or totally disregard them.
Continue at this phase and you would soon discover that salvation from low self confidence is presenting itself to you but you are all too muddled in your own world that it would be way to impossible to cure the problem. Unless, a life changing miracle would cross your way.
