Self Esteem Among Adults And Children

Self–Esteem Among Adults and Children

Little do people know about how parents have an effect on their kids, but studies have revealed that there is a strong correlation on self –esteem among adults and children. An adult’s outlook often has similar characteristics as it has with their children, especially on how they value their self worth, since parents with low esteem are more likely to encourage their children to give importance or value themselves highly as well.

Such problems could be devastating to children since they could grow up to be timid or shy, reclusive or less sociable.

This could even result to children growing up less sociable and detached from society, since confidence –building measures have not been introduced properly during the younger years that could affect relationships, careers and even the drive for success.

Adults should therefore be conscious about things that they manifest to children, since role-play is key to the growing up years of children, what they see in adults, they see in themselves. Self–esteem is important in children as it is important among adults, since it is helpful in helping them make sound decisions and fair judgment in the face of peer pressure, in the same way that adults deal with coping mechanisms in the face of adversity.

Self–esteem also makes children proud about being themselves and on things that they excel in, be it a skill or talent.

It’s what makes children gain acceptance among friends, compared to reclusive ones who shun off company and friends. Just like in adulthood, self–esteem is responsible for bringing about respect in an individual, so is the same with children.

The need or consciousness for self–esteem occurs the moment an individual develops rational thought and conscious processes, which is true among babies who still cannot determine or differentiate good from bad and are still not capable of rational thought.

Self–esteem becomes a need for people, the moment they feel the ups and downs of day to day situations and circumstances, especially in coping with those they feel as adversities of life in the face of social pressure or individual inner battles.

The older children get, they are tasked with the bigger responsibility of developing their own self –esteem, which can be governed or influenced by the way perceive it from role examples – especially in their own parents.

One of the best manifestations of self-esteem among children is a sense of humor, since it bespeaks of confidence and self- acceptance that is gauged by how they carry themselves in public or among a number of peers in a social group.

The sense of self-esteem among children is what helps them motivate to achieve more, not only because they crave for more attention or acceptance, but also they themselves would want to satisfy their inner conscience and feel good about themselves. A good self–esteem makes kids see things in a positive manner, makes them want to do more and always aspire to do the right things, that is, with the proper guidance and examples that is set before them.

As parents, always try to make it a point to always make it a point for their children to develop good self–esteem, because it is what shapes them for the future.

So by now, you see the importance of self- esteem among adults and children.

BONUS : Self Esteem Determines Who We Are

We may not realize it, but self-esteem is a great determinant of whether or not we will be a success in life or not. Why? Because self-esteem, or the way we view ourselves, including ours skills and our talents, affect our thoughts. And these thoughts turn into actions.

Taking actions are very important. Actions are the ones who move us closer to our dreams. If you have dreams and goals in life and you realize that you are not moving towards them then maybe you are not taking any action s or you are taking the wrong ones. What most people are not aware of is that thoughts and actions are linked. Having positive thoughts leads to positive actions in the same way that negative thoughts can lead to inaction or negative actions.

Achieving your goals and making your dreams come true naturally takes time. And the thing that can give you the proper drive or push is high self-esteem. High self-esteem can provide you the determination and personal power needed for you to take actions towards the achievements of your goals. Consequently, low-self esteem is one of biggest blocks to a person's success. Why? Because when a person has low self-esteem it is more difficult for him or her to perform the right actions to achieve their goals.

Simply put, self-esteem refers to how a person looks at one self. If one looks at him or herself in appositive way then he or she has high self-esteem. On the other had, if a person ha a negative view of him or herself in including his or her abilities, then he or she definitely has low self-esteem.

One of the things that lower self esteem is criticism. The worst kind of criticisms is the one that comes from you. When you always criticize yourself it can lead to having feelings of self doubt.

If there is one greatest killer of dreams known to man it is a negative thought. Nothing can be more destructive. Do not tell yourself that "I can't." or "that's impossible." Instead, believe that anything is possible and that you can achieve anything.

So how do you build self-esteem? Since thoughts are the roots of feelings and actions then you must always make sure that your thoughts are positive and beneficial. Instead of focusing on your failures and mistakes, why don't you take notice of your achievements? This is not vanity. It is simply recognizing the things that you have done in the past and acknowledging your abilities.

Everyone has his or her own share of accomplishments ion life. The best thing that you can do is to get a piece of paper and list down your accomplishments for the last years. Remember all the challenges that you were able to hurdle and the obstacles you have been able to overcome. You will be surprised to know that you have achieved many things in your life already. In moments of great doubt, you can always refer back to this list and remember your accomplishments. You can continue to add to this list as you achieve more in life.

Always remember that there is a strong connection between self-esteem and success, so do anything that you can to improve the quality of your thoughts for it determines your future success.