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Improving Self Esteem Without Fear of a Backlash
The fear of low self esteem has fed a lot of well-meaning but completely misguided efforts in improving self esteem. After all, many people fear that some acts of violence, like bullying, result from low self esteem, or from an exploitation of other peoples low perception of their own worth.
This doesnt mean, however, that all efforts to improve self esteem are worthless. With enough effort and support from other people, something as enduring as a persons conception of their worth as people can be slowly changed and improved. It is important to recognize that the process of trying to improve self esteem is one that will take time and effort, and that any haphazard or half-hearted effort towards that effect can even worsen a persons self perception.
It is important to recognize that self esteem, to begin with, is not the same as self confidence. While self confidence is more forward-looking, like a consideration of a persons ability to do well in a future activity, self esteem is a persons long-term perception of their worth. Integral to good self esteem is self-love, self-appreciation, and recognition of both ones flaws and gifts. Low self esteem can contribute to ones low levels of confidence.
This means that someone who thinks he or she will be unable to fulfil a particular task does not necessarily have low self esteem. This is because low self esteem is a wholly-conceived personality and self-perception. There are a couple of symptoms of low self esteem, not limited to taking ones self for granted, thinking one does not deserve the love and affection showered on them, having terrible self-image, and imposing impossible standards on ones self and then punishing ones self heavily for not meeting them.
In order to improve self esteem successfully, recognize that you may need help in the process, and that seeking help is not a sign of failure. In fact, psychiatrists are trained specifically to help move you away from your negative feelings and perceptions about yourself. With their help, you will be able to re-evaluate how you view yourself in the context of your daily activities and your social interactions.
Do not succumb to the temptation to eat too little or eat too much as a result of poor self-image. Recognize that by taking care of yourself, youll begin to appreciate better how you look, and that, at the end of the day, your opinion on how you look is the only one that matters. Eat healthier, work out more, and sleep in once in a while.
Work hard, and take credit for the good work that you do. You do not need other people to appreciate the hard work youve put in; realize that with or without the recognition of other people, you deserve a pat on the back for the work you know youve put in.
Put your needs before other peoples needs. This does not mean that you are thinking only of yourself as though you were selfish. Rather, by satisfying your own needs first, you are able to better help other people out. This is because you recognize that you are worth as much trouble as they are, too. This will also help prevent other people from taking advantage of you, because you know that you respect yourself as well.
At the end of the day, improving self esteem need not be a losing battle. It all begins by recognizing that you can improve your esteem, that you can get help, and that you can make conscious decisions daily to make you realize your own worth as a person.
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Increased Consulting Fees Through Self-Confidence
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Sometimes consultants and other service providers are hesitant to charge a fair rate for their services.
Maybe they feel that the services they provide are so basic that you really can't justify charging much or anything for them.
Perhaps they feel that they don't have the knowledge or experience that other consultants have.
Thus, they hesitate to charge fair rates because of a lack of self-confidence. This is natural (especially for new consultants). However, what...
Keywords:
CONSULTING, CONSULTING FEES, SELF-CONFIDENCE, CONSULTANT
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Sometimes consultants and other service providers are hesitant to charge a fair rate for their services.
Maybe they feel that the services they provide are so basic that you really can't justify charging much or anything for them.
Perhaps they feel that they don't have the knowledge or experience that other consultants have.
Thus, they hesitate to charge fair rates because of a lack of self-confidence. This is natural (especially for new consultants). However, what you know and do has real value.
By the way, I'm sure that most people find it more appealing to deal with someone who is humble enough to admit their limitations than someone who is arrogant and cocky and not as great as they think they are.
To stay in business, though, you need to charge a fair price for all of your services. Fair means fair to the client but also fair to you.
You can enjoy increased consulting fees by developing more self-confidence.
1. Don't Take Your Skills for Granted
First of all, we tend to take our assets for granted. If you are an expert bookkeeper and good with numbers, you may feel it's easy to do the work you do. Yes, it's easy for you but not for others.
You may actually have an aptitude for what do. You may have a gift that others don't have. Perhaps, through hard work and applying yourself, you have developed a marketable skill.
Second, even if someone were fairly good with numbers, it might not be a good use of time for that person to do the bookkeeping. By outsourcing this work, time can be more productively spent on other activities crucial to the business.
Bookkeeping may seem pretty basic but if you ask your accountant to do it for you, he's going to charge you extra. Why? It takes his (or his staff's) time.
Your services may also improve your client's bottom line. That being the case, your client is profiting from your services.
Thus, by realistically evaluating the value of your skills and other assets, you can boost your self-confidence for increased consulting fees.
2. Increased Consulting Fees Despite Inexperience
Just because there are people more knowledgeable and experienced than you doesn't mean that you can't charge for what you can do.
The top tax lawyers in the country may be more expert than other lawyers but who can afford them? For most clients, hiring them would be overkill.
Sometimes you might feel inadequate because you know you are still learning. You realize that you don't know everything there is to know about your field.
Who does? We're all learning! Get paid for your on-the-job training.
If you know some things that your client doesn't and you can help him improve his business, then you can offer a valuable service.
Don't under-estimate the value of your services.
Again, self-confidence can lead you to enjoy increased consulting fees.
3. Increased Consulting Fees for Additional Services
Many feel that their clients wouldn't pay extra for certain additional services offered.
How do they know? Have they asked their clients?
Make your case for the extra fees. How could the services offered help improve the profitability of your client's business?
Replace unappreciative clients (who undermine your self-confidence) with appreciative ones.
Selling value-added services is one way to obtain an edge over your competitors. For example, a web designer who is knowledgeable about search engine optimization could help increase their client's targeted web traffic which could result in increased sales and profits.
Premium services deserve premium rates.
In summary: Don't take your skills for granted. Lack of experience doesn't mean that you have nothing to offer. Charge for all your services. Yes, your self-confidence can result in increased consulting fees for you.