How To Regain Your Lost Self Confidence

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How to Regain Your Lost Self-Confidence

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There are many instances in life where your confidence is hit hard. Sometimes you overcome life's hardness, sometimes you get overwhelmed. Sometimes your courage and confidence sees you through, but sometimes your self-confidence gets a beating.


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self confidence


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Nobody can hurt you without your consent

There are many instances in life where your confidence is hit hard. Sometimes you overcome life's hardness, sometimes you get overwhelmed. Sometimes your courage and confidence sees you through, but sometimes your self-confidence gets a beating. However, the point here to remember is that "Nobody can hurt you without your consent." The problem is not as important as the impact it had on you, rather the impact that YOU let the problem create on you. In life pain is inevitable but suffering is optional, as the saying goes. It's purely your choice, and whether you choose to bounce back or suffer is entirely your prerogative.

There can be many reasons that your self-confidence is hurt. You may have had a bad marriage and now are heading for a divorce. You were not chosen for your college's football team; you may have been laid off. There's definitely a lot of pain involved in any of the situations. But you don't necessarily have to suffer. You must arise and resolve to get back your confidence.

The following ways would help you do just that.

Look at the brighter side

If you have been laid off, it would be okay to feel bad about it for a day or two but not more than that. Losing a job is a terrible thing, but it does not mean the end of the world. Who knows it might be a blessing in disguise. Maybe you have got some time to review your life, get aware of where you are going, have a look at your likes and hobbies which you could not develop because of pressures of your job. Maybe this is an opportunity to start afresh and live your life a new way which is more in sync with your abilities and aptitude. Similarly, a divorce may cause great pain but then you weren't too happy in your marriage either. It probably was just not meant to be. Now you have a chance to rebuild your life the way you want it to be.

Stop comparing yourself with other people

When we have a problem we always question God - "Oh, God, why me?" Certainly God gave you a lot of rewards as well. Did you then get up and ask God -"Oh God, why me?" That's what human nature is all about. We complain and remember God when we are in trouble or else we are too busy with ourselves. Stop looking at other people who seem too happy and comfortable to you from a distance. Stop comparing their comfort with your suffering. This will only frustrate you further. Focus on yourself and make every effort you can make to go out whenever you are feeling down. Self-pity is very addictive and capable of destroying lives. Instead of indulging in self-pity (though we all do from time to time), take control of your life and take responsibility for your actions, learn from your mistakes and make a fresh start. And yeah…don't be bogged down when you hear a "NO". A "NO" is something which even greats like Edison and Ford, too, had to face. If you look at them positively, you will find that each "NO" actually takes you closer to a "YES." It's been reported time and time again that Edison conducted more than a thousand failed experiments before he actually made an electric bulb! So get going and take the an occasional no in stride.

Are you standing in your own way

You will notice that shadows are caused when we stand in the path of sunshine. In our lives, too, we cause a lot of shadows by standing in the way of our own happiness. In today's world, it is important to be flexible. A lot of people will look for a job for months, yet still reject work coming their way because they are not willing to adapt to some new job requirements. Jane, a schoolteacher, was laid off from her job. She kept trying for months to get a job as a teacher while rejecting opportunities such as taking private tuitions, being a nanny, doing copy-editing work as a freelancer. The long wait hurt her self-confidence even more. Sometimes it is wise to be a little flexible and adapt ourselves to new job demands rather than to look exactly for what we lost. It helps regain confidence quickly which brings along enough energy to get an even better job in the field of your choice!

BONUS : Identifying Self in Society

We have options for developing our identity. These options follow a pattern, which move us through the processes of developing higher consciousness and self-development. It will help you feel like someone new living in the same body. There are many options you can use for building development skills.

When you develop new skills it makes you feel like a new person. When you find options for changing the way you think, feel and act you see someone new standing in the mirror, this person is the real you. You’ll feel great when you start finding options that will give you guidance and motivation to succeed.

You can use any options you want as long as it works for you. When looking for the right options to succeed in self-development know what works for you. Stress is the primary reason people lose interest in life and give up trying.

When we are stressed and feel like we are a lost cause in society we can become depressed and sick both mentally and physically. We must reframe this state of mind to correct the problem.

Start practicing the different options that are available today to help regain control of your life by relieving stress. Learn to cultivate a positive attitude and try to stay focused. When you have stress build up, it often interferes with your progress and it demands your full attention. How can anyone expect to make a good decision when the mind is full of clutter?

Relieving stress is difficult at times. When you are stressed from trying to solve your problems and another stressful situations drops in; stop right there. Focus and decide which one needs attention first. Let the other set aside until one is done and than try working of the second one. Don’t be the next person saying, “When it rains, it pours.” While this is true, you still have a measure of control.

As you focus on making good decisions you’ll feel like a new person while you continue to work through the self-development stage. Focus for success to relieve unwanted stress that is controlling your life.

Use meditation as an option to relieve stress to enhance better development skills. Meditation will help direct you to relaxation for a more restful night of sleep. Making good decisions depends on you getting plenty of recuperative rest. When we feel tired and stressed it makes it difficult to accomplish simple tasks, such as climbing out of the bed. If your body and mind feels rested making decisions will become easy.

Learn the skill of mediation by joining Yoga classes to get the full effect of meditation and meet new friends at the same time. When you begin to feel better, you will focus, make constructive changes, and have sufficient energy. Why not share this added energy you have developed by communicating and relaxing with new people in society.

As you learn to use options for relaxation and relieving stress your communication skills will increase because you will develop enough energy and motivation to sit and talk.

You don’t have to join a group to learn Yoga skills. Check on the Internet and learn new options that allow you to enjoy yoga practices right from your own home. The Internet is here for use and is available for anyone with a server connection.

Libraries offer public services and books to the community. Check out books at your library that will help you discover your identity and develop self in society. You have many options so take time now to find what works best for you.