Writing A Profile With Spark

Writing A Profile With Spark

A profile is an online representation of yourself so why not represent the best parts of you? There are four areas of a profile that you should keep in mind: honesty, creativity, research, writing. By mastering these areas, you will be able to write an excellent and self-elevating profile that can capture anyone's attention.

Part One: Honesty

Always be honest with the readers of your profile; remember that you and the others on the site are searching for that special someone--how can a relationship grow when there is deceit from the beginning?
Speak candidly about who you are and what you are looking for. Then, at least you will know that, when someone messages you, they are genuinely interested. Putting up a pretense will only summon people who are interested in your lies; this will not build a solid relationship.
Being honest doesn't mean to be sell yourself short; you don't have to dwell on your faults and misgivings. Showcase your good qualities (just don't exaggerate).

Part Two: Creativity

Nothing can turn a potential relationship sour more than a dull profile. There are thousands upon thousands of people looking for the exact same thing you are: a genuine connection. You must be able to catch their attention.
Try to avoid using phrases like Looking for Mr. Perfect? or In Search Of That Special Lady? or descriptions like hard-working?, romantic? and attractive?. These are all cliche and overdone. Spice your profile up with original ideas!
Show off your strengths. Give your readers anecdotes or narratives that display you in a good light.
Get yourself a thesaurus. As silly as this may sound, a thesaurus can help you avoid using words that have been used too many times before.
Do not use letters to describe yourself; for example, SWF (single white female) can mean a variety of things to a variety of people. Don't limit yourself to this.

Part Three: Research

You know what kind of relationship you want; whether it be a friend, a casual date, or something as deep as a marital partner, you have a clear picture in your mind of how far you are willing to go. Seek out people with that same goal.

Write a profile that will appeal to the kind of person you're after; the only way they can find you is if you help them. Check out other profiles for ideas.

If you receive interest with your profile but still can't seem to find that right person, then go do some online window-shopping. Scan through profiles, find some that catch your attention, and start messaging. They don't all have to come to you.

Part Four: Writing

So, you've gathered your information and you have a clear idea of what you want out of this site; however, your writing seems a little...lifeless. Be careful of this! By paying attention to the three steps before you, you should be able to write a profile that is distinctly you.

This is an example of what not to do: I'm a SBM looking for a SF. Good looking, funny. Message me. Eyes are going to glaze over; you cannot limit yourself like this. It will only hurt you.

Spice it up: I am a 22-year-old female, blessed with long, blonde hair and big, brown eyes. I'm short, only 5'4, but what I lack in size, I make up for in spirit. I am looking for someone that can keep up with me; come and get me, boys. She gives a description and a challenge, all within a few sentences ”you don't have to be long-winded to get the point across.

A good profile can bring you all of the attention you want and lead you to a successful relationship; follow these steps to what you want.

BONUS : Writing An Online Dating Service Profile? 3 Mistakes You Must Avoid...

Well, after 4 years of reading far in excess of 10,000 profiles of men and women searching for a partner through online dating services, I’ve laughed at my fair share of poorly written introductions...

Of those 10,000 online dating service profiles, no more than a dozen captured our attention enough to make the first move. I’m sure that you wish to get lots of reactions to your online dating service advertisement, otherwise why would you bother joining a site, and paying a fee to meet new people?

If that is the case, then make sure you avoid the following 3 mistakes at all costs:

1. "I May Be the one you’re Seeking For"
This may be the case. However, by employing this combination of words anywhere for your online dating service profile, you aren’t telling me, or your potential suitor, anything new...

What this line does say to someone checking you out is that the online dating service profiler didn’t do a lot of thinking about how they wanted to present themselves. Tell people what gets your eyes twinkling or even what REALLY gets you up in the morning - and don’t say it’s your alarm clock, either. Now is the time to let your passions really shine through...

2. "I’m the one Your Mother Warned You About"
This is, from my research in any case, virtually the most overused phrase in an opening line for online dating service profiles. True, it’s the generic option of some of the larger sites (such as Lavalife or even True) – if your profile is awaiting approval, this tag line will show up while waiting for the a-okay...

To avoid this, come up with something a bit more unique and original. But what if you aren’t sure how to do this? Well, it’s not hard to take a look at your competition in the online dating service field, so why not do a quick search and see what everyone else is doing?

Reading other people’s description of themselves could just get your creative juices flowing. At the very least, it’ll explain what everyone else is saying about themselves – and what key phrases and words you should avoid in turn...

3. Glaring Spelling or even Grammatical Mistakes
This tip might seem childish, or even trite – but its critically important. While chatting with someone online, you may make a few spelling mistakes that a potential suitor will find annoying. However until you get to that stage with someone, noone should know that you’ve got dyslexia, or just can’t spell worth beans...

It shows a lot to a potential suitor while they peruse the online dating services that someone has taken the time to spell check their document. Hell, get a friend to proof read it for you if want just in case you’ve missed something important...

However if you can't take the time to write something legible, virtually all people perusing the online dating service websites will assume you won’t have time to bother doing other, even more important tasks. And when you only have two or three of seconds to make that first impression before someone clicks on another person – each and every detail counts...