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Successful Dating Begins With Successful Flirting 11 Flirting Tips
Why are some people born natural flirts and others couldn't charm the backside of a bus if their life depended on it?
The power of flirting goes beyond attracting the opposite sex. Master the art of flirting and you also become a friend magnet and can use your skills to influence business relationships.
"You've either got it or you haven't!" is often what you will hear men saying when they boast about their conquests. Women, on the other hand, are more coy when talking about a man they have met. So as not to appear full of herself, she will often say to her friends "Oooh, I don't think he likes me, what do you think?" If she is a successful flirt, however, she will be thinking along the same lines of a man, "Yeah, he was putty in my hands!"
Flirting is an art requiring confidence without being OTT. A successful flirt knows how to get the balance just right; too much and there is a real danger you will be labelled as "slimy" (if you're a man) and "tarty" (if you're a woman).
If flirting doesn't come naturally to you, you can learn to flirt by building your confidence, believing in yourself and interacting with other people.
Here are some basic flirting tips which can be practised at work and/or on a social scene.
1. Have Fun!
First and foremost flirting is fun! Whether you are the flirter or the flirtee it makes both parties smile (on the inside as well as the outside!). Don't take it seriously; be playful, be light-hearted, be infectious!
2. Ooze Confidence
The best flirts have a positive outlook on life and are happy with themselves. To successfully flirt you need to feel good about yourself before you are able to transmit this "feel good" factor to the opposite sex. If you display a positive and optimistic attitude to life you will find yourself connecting with people who are right for you.
3. Make the first move
Dont wait for someone to approach you. If it's someone at work you've got your eye on, wait for them to go to the kitchen and then make a beeline for the coffee machine. The same applies in a bar, wait for them to go to the bar and then squeeze in next to them. Start with a simple Hello and take things from there. What have you got to lose?
4. Pay a compliment and receive a smile
A genuine compliment costs nothing and yet can make someone feel so special. If someone looks great, tell them! If someone has achieved something to be proud of, tell them! Once you start making someone feel good about themselves, they are more likely to want to spend more time with you! And if someone pays you a compliment, be proud of the compliment and say Thank you!
5. Eye to Eye Contact
Eye contact is one of our most powerful communicating mechanisms. Most people dont have a problem making eye contact with someone they dont find attractive but they become awkward in front of people they are attracted to. If you tend to look away at people you like, practice making eye contact with people on your way to work, a quick glance and then turn away. This is a good way to build up your confidence. Dont stare, however, this will make people feel uncomfortable!
6. Pitch your voice
Learn to vary the tone, pitch and speed of your voice. A voice rich in tones sounds far more interesting than one dull note!
7. Listen
A good flirt has the ability to get people to open up and talk about themselves. Pay attention when someone is talking to you and ask questions to show you are interested. The best questions are the ones which will lead to someone remembering a positive experience about themselves.
8. Move your body!
There are many positive body language signs: lingering eye contact, smiling widely, touching someone, head tilting to one side, running fingers through hair, undivided attention but if you really want to let go and flirt openly dance! Dancing is a great form of self-expression allowing you to interact with someone and connect.
9. Smile, Smile, Smile!
Make your smile contagious! The more you smile the more people will want to know you and be around you!
10. Dont be rude!
Flirting does not involve being sexually explicit! Nor does it involve being offensive if someone rejects your advances. If you have been flirting with someone and are not receiving positive feedback dont get disheartened or take it personally, move on to the next person! You may want to consider a different approach if you are getting a lot of rejections.
11. Send an email
Emails are a great way to communicate with someone if you're too shy to approach them face to face. Whether it's someone you are interested in at work or you want to try internet dating, emails and instant messaging allow you to flirt without blushing or getting tongue-tied.
Be careful not to become intimate online too quickly though; it's easy to paint a rosy picture of the person behind the monitor but until you have met them you don't really know them. My message here is get to know someone online before arranging a date, but don't fall in love before meeting them! The reality could burst the bubble!
BONUS : Successful Dating Strategies - How To Date And How Not To Date
If you are single, you will know how difficult it is to find advice about dating and being single. We'd all love to meet our perfect soulmate. So often so-called dating experts (who are usually married) astound us with obvious wisdom but I am sure you get the feeling their point of view isn't always too realistic. You know, being single can be a tough and lonely whatever your age, and every now and again it would be good to get some real inspiration from other single people.
If you are new to the dating scene, a regular or are just simply wanting to meet someone new there should always be time for top dating tips, advice, information and things to consider. The truth is there are no magic formulas or potions and no cunning ways of trapping Mr or Miss right. But there are some valid facts that you should take into consideration along the way.
1. Make sure you are really ready to enter the dating game. Have some idea about what it is you are hoping to achieve. Also be prepared for some disappointments along the way, however don't let this affect the bigger picture.
2. Get your image right, don't go over the top, you still want to look like yourself. Don't try too hard either, but remember people do appreciate other peoples appearances.
3. Think about your dating goals and timescales. Be honest to yourself, if you see yourself married in two years, then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back about dating, then be honest with those you may date.
4. Be confident. Do all those little things that will boost your confidence levels. Don't talk about adult matters or sex toys on your first date. The other person will respect you more in the long run if you dont bring up this 'touchy' issue.
5. Don't aim too low but do aim realistically. Be prepared and realistic about your chances. Dating is not just based on your personality but on the whole package you present to others.
6. Think about where you are going to meet new people. Join drama groups or a gymnasium, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners and the kind of people you are looking to meet.
7. If it's not going well, then don't be afraid to take time out from dating. Take stock and maybe re-evaluate. Keep your optimism high and try again.
8. Remember you're not going to necessarily meet your soulmate on your first date. So enjoy dating for what it is, meeting new people and even making new friends as you go.
9. Never make yourself too available. People still like the thrill of the chase when dating. The longer someone is made to chase you and fall for you, the more likely it is that love is going to blossom.
10. Most importantly, enjoy yourself. It will add a new dimension to your life. Dating will let you meet a variety of people who you wouldn't necessarily thought you'd get along with, or have anything in common with. Whether or not anything more develops from dating, think of it as another of those little life experiences.
If you are single, you will know how difficult it is to find advice about dating and being single. We'd all love to meet our perfect soulmate. So often so-called dating experts (who are usually married) astound us with obvious wisdom but I am sure you get the feeling their point of view isn't always too realistic. You know, being single can be a tough and lonely whatever your age, and every now and again it would be good to get some real inspiration from other single people.
If you are new to the dating scene, a regular or are just simply wanting to meet someone new there should always be time for top dating tips, advice, information and things to consider. The truth is there are no magic formulas or potions and no cunning ways of trapping Mr or Miss right. But there are some valid facts that you should take into consideration along the way.
1. Make sure you are really ready to enter the dating game. Have some idea about what it is you are hoping to achieve. Also be prepared for some disappointments along the way, however don't let this affect the bigger picture.
2. Get your image right, don't go over the top, you still want to look like yourself. Don't try too hard either, but remember people do appreciate other peoples appearances.
3. Think about your dating goals and timescales. Be honest to yourself, if you see yourself married in two years, then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back about dating, then be honest with those you may date.
4. Be confident. Do all those little things that will boost your confidence levels. Don't talk about adult matters or sex toys on your first date. The other person will respect you more in the long run if you dont bring up this 'touchy' issue.
5. Don't aim too low but do aim realistically. Be prepared and realistic about your chances. Dating is not just based on your personality but on the whole package you present to others.
6. Think about where you are going to meet new people. Join drama groups or a gymnasium, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners and the kind of people you are looking to meet.
7. If it's not going well, then don't be afraid to take time out from dating. Take stock and maybe re-evaluate. Keep your optimism high and try again.
8. Remember you're not going to necessarily meet your soulmate on your first date. So enjoy dating for what it is, meeting new people and even making new friends as you go.
9. Never make yourself too available. People still like the thrill of the chase when dating. The longer someone is made to chase you and fall for you, the more likely it is that love is going to blossom.
10. Most importantly, enjoy yourself. It will add a new dimension to your life. Dating will let you meet a variety of people who you wouldn't necessarily thought you'd get along with, or have anything in common with. Whether or not anything more develops from dating, think of it as another of those little life experiences.
