Online Dating The Art Of Selection

Online Dating The Art Of Selection

Dating manuals thick as telephone directories can be written on the subject of selecting the right dating partner. The key to the selection process is not to focus on our potential dating partner, but to focus on our ingrained human instincts. What are these human instincts? Imagination and desire are our enemies!

As we approach dating relationships from our own point of view, many individuals fall short in reaching their goals. There are countless reasons why most individuals finish in last place when commencing to build healthy dating relationships. Imagination and desire will cripple a dating relationship before the relationship starts, and before you know it, you are right back at the starting gate with a new dating partner or wish you were!

Beginning the dating process, we often focus on what we want in our dating partner and not his/her present composition. Captive is our rational self by our imagination and blinded by desire. The moment we are introduced to someone, or view some photos, profiles or personal ads online – we immediately enter an imaginary world, especially if he/she is physically attractive. It is our own little world constructed by our imagination; at this point, we lose all sense of reality. Reality is what exists now and imagination is what we want to exist, which is the total opposite. Our reliant on our intoxicated senses, intoxicated by imagination and desire leads us into total darkness. As a result, our objectivity fades away into the background.

This unreal portrayal depicts a fictional fairytale hero that originates from the desire to realize the storybook romance. On the surface, the storybook romance syndrome appears to be harmless. When individuals attempt to convert their imagination into a dating reality, total destruction visits the dating relationship, leaving the residue of psychological devastation behind. The storybook romance syndrome has defaced the truth about dating relationships, retarding them from ever having a chance of realizing success.

To achieve a blissful dating relationship with the hope of achieving a long lasting marriage, you must not select a dating partner based on your imagination. You must remain focused on reality; you must also focus on objectivity and not subjectivity. In the absence of an objective criteria to resort to in selecting your dating partner; your only alternative is to turn to a sincere, trusted family member or friend for help in the selection process. They will be more incline to exercise an objective approach. Remember this, when you are in the picture, you can’t see the picture! Investigate patiently your potential dating partner and never rely on your own senses, you may finish first in the race to a healthy dating relationship. Good Luck!

BONUS : Online Dating - The Best Healing Medicine For A Broken Soul

There are many articles on the Internet about
online dating. Some are pro others are against it.
You can all kind of discussions on this matter
in various forums. But most of them are referring
to online dating finality and not to online
dating process benefits.

It is true that most of people which are spending
their time on online dating sites are singles
looking for a real relationship, looking for
someone special. All of them are interested into
the finality of online dating.

But there are a lot of people which are just out
from a long term relationship that are not yet
prepared to go back into the real dating scene.
There are married people, with families but
unhappy which have decided not to divorce for the
children’s sake or for other important personal
reasons.

Online dating can be a miracle medicine for all
kind of unhappy, disappointed, solely souls.

So if your soul is crying just try the online
dating medicine, it can make a big difference in
your life. Beside the fact that you might even
find a partner for life - if that is what you’re
looking for, you can also enjoy many benefits for
your soul.

The best medicine for a broken soul is the
attention and appreciation of someone else. All
of us need to feel that we are important for
someone, no matter if that person is miles away,
no matter if we never have met that person or if
we already met him/her in our life.

One of my beliefs is that the most important for
our happiness is not our material situation, not
our health but our peace of soul. If you are ill
you can still smile, if you have no money in your
pocket you can smile, but if your soul is empty
your smile will look mostly like a grimace.

Human mind and imagination have no limits, and if
we are learning to express our thoughts, our
feelings, our wishes, online dating can fill a
big gap in our life. There are thousands of
lonely people that are looking just for someone’s
presence, for someone to talk and spend some good
time together (maybe a little online romance).

To be sure that you are not going to be
disappointed, when you are filling your online
profile do not forget to mention that you are up
to find someone to talk to, or the type of
relationship you are looking for. Be sincere from
the very beginning.

Another thing you must consider is that you are
not compatible with all people, so don’t give up
after you have talk to three or four people. Keep
searching till you find someone right for you,
someone that is matching your intellect level,
your style, and your hobbies.

What's next?

Just enjoy Online Dating benefits and after a
while you will be smiling again thinking: "LIFE
IS GOOD!" You'll see :)