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Online Dating Interview With Men
Another way would be one of your friends telling you about it. Another way is to just find someone who has tried online dating and ask him about the experience, both positive and negative. That is exactly what I plan to do in this article.
Of course, the men I am going to interview for the article wish to remain anonymous, so I will just call them Online Dater 1, 2, and 3.
We will begin with online dater 1; (a 37-year-old male)
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 1; How can you not hear about it. You get emails, popups at websites, etc. Youd have to live under a rock to have not heard about online dating.
Me: Where and how did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 1; At Match.com. I was searching profiles and found a few women that I might be compatible with and sent them emails. I paid for a membership there so I would be allowed to email them.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to date in person?
Online Dater 1; We exchanged several emails before we actually exchanged phone numbers. And basically, one fairly long phone call turned into a date.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 1; I thought she was sweet. She shared a lot of the same values I did, or said she did, anyway. She piqued my interest. I never thought of her as my soul mate, but did want to get to know her better.
Me: Was your first impression of her, upon seeing her in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 1; To be honest, she looked absolutely nothing like her picture. She had posted of picture of herself, much younger, and about 150 pounds lighter. However, she was still a very pretty lady.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting her in person.
Online Dater 1; We dated a couple of times. I did like her. I understand why she was still single at 38 years old. She wanted Antonio Banderas to wine and dine her and quite frankly neither of us was in that league. Her standards were far too high.
Okay, next I will be talking to a 29-year-old male about his experience.
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 2; Match.com emails.
Me: Where did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 2; Same answer, emails from Match.com got me to sign up. I received an email from a girl who saw my profile.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to meet in person?
Online Dater 2; A couple of days. We talked by email for a couple of days, then by phone for a couple of days.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 2; She was just really nice, sincere, honest sounding. She didnt seem to just be saying what I wanted to hear. I felt her answers were honest. Everyone has their ups and downs in life and she was open about the things she was going through and things she had gone through. The openness impressed me. Did I think she was my soulmate? Honestly, yes.
Me: Was your first impression of her, upon seeing her in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 2; A positive reaction, totally. She matched her picture and profile to the letter and was smiling like an angel.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting her in person.
Online Dater 2; We dated frequently from day one. We were both obviously very interested in each other. In a very short time we both knew we were in love with each other. Within two months I knew she was the girl I wanted to marry. Weve been happy ever since.
Last, a 38-year-old male shares his online dating experience with us.
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 3; A friend of mine suggested I try online dating. He had gone from never having a date to having a date every weekend, so I thought I would try it too.
Me: Where did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 3; Yahoo Chat. I didnt go directly to an online dating website, I put my free profile up in Yahoo Personals and someone contacted me through Yahoo Messenger.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to meet in person?
Online Dater 3; We only chatted for about an hour before deciding to meet in person. It was really quick. She suggested we meet in person. It was like 9pm at night and she suggested or hinted that something might actually, happen tonight. Since my friend had so much luck with online dating, I figured, what the heck.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 3; That doesnt really apply here as far as the whole soulmate thing. She lived close by and well, I am a guy.
Me: Was your first impression of her, upon seeing her in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 3; None of those. She was alright, kind of plain, but still attractive. She didnt really have much personality and I dont think either of us were looking for personality that night.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting her in person.
Online Dater 3; This is where it gets ugly. We had fun the first evening. A couple of days later I invited her to my house. And again, it was okay, but I realized that this was not the girl for me. So, I politely told her that I really did not want to continue seeing her.
Four days later, on a non-exciting Sunday Night, I climbed into the shower before going to bed. About 15 minutes into my shower, this girl, unannounced, appeared IN my shower professing her undying love. My front doors were LOCKED, she broke into my house, stripped down, and climbed into my shower.
I started having visions of the movie, Fatal Attraction. I asked her to leave. She said no. I had to actually have the police remove her!
Me: Does this mean you wont be dating anyone from online ever again?
Online Dater 3; No, not at all, however, the chatroom hookups are out of the question. I would prefer to go with a legitimate company that has some sort of screening process.
Okay, I would sum up my various interviews like this. You will meet some people you like and some you dont. There will be successful online dating experiences and there will be failures. But not to try online dating at all is to have already failed. Just as online dater 3 said though, go to a legitimate online dating service and not just to some chatroom.
BONUS : Online Dating Interview With Women
One note, while safety applies to both men and women, it needs to be said, that women need to be especially careful when deciding to actually meet any man they met online.
Women should talk to the guy through email and chat for awhile before even giving out a phone number. Remember that a phone number can be traced back to your address. Dont think because your phone number is unlisted that you are protected.
The next step after emails and chat should be by phone. You can learn a lot about someone by talking on the phone and really listening to what they say. If they make you feel uncomfortable on the phone, then you dont even want to take the next step and actually meet them.
If you do decide to meet the man you met through an online dating service, make sure you first meet in a very public place. Tell your friends where you are going and when you expect to return. Make the first date a short, get to know you, kind of date. One that is not scheduled to go longer, so you can go home and gather your thoughts before deciding whether or not you will date this man again.
Do not let him take you someplace secluded or in his vehicle anywhere on that first date. You may think you know him from all of the online and phone conversations, but abusers and abductors are very smart in the way they lure females into a trap. Be careful.
That being said, online dating can be a great way to meet some very nice men and maybe even find your soul mate. Using common sense is just a good idea. Now on with the interviews.
Of course, the women I am going to interview for the article wish to remain anonymous, so I will just call them Online Dater 1, 2, and 3.
We will begin with online dater 1; (a 27-year-old female)
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 1; My girlfriend at work actually married a guy she met through one of the online dating services and she urged me to try it at least once.
Me: Where and how did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 1; Im not sure I should tell you the website I use, but it is one that you can browse through the profiles of all the men that are available. I remember thinking it was like shopping. So it was fun. I found several profiles of guys I might like and emailed them. I received a lot of responses and began to chat with them by email. I let a couple of them call me on my cell phone and finally let one convince me to go out on a date.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to date in person?
Online Dater 1; Oh, about a month. I was a little leery and thought each of these guys must have something wrong with them to be here in the first place, but I guess that could apply to what they might be thinking about me too.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 1; Okay, Ill admit it. His picture got me. He was an absolute hunk and I had the hots for him right away. I still took my time about agreeing to an actual date. I couldnt understand why he would need to use an online dating service.
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 1; Totally positive. He was better than his picture!
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 1; We dated a few times. We really hit it off. We had a lot of the same interests, just like they were in the comparison charts at the online dating website. We are still seeing each other after 9 months. He hasnt popped the question, but the answer is going to be yes!
Okay, next I will be talking to a 19-year-old female about her experience.
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 2; I clicked on a link in an email that looked interesting.
Me: Where did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 2; Through the 3rd online dating service that I signed up for. I didnt like the first two very much. Too, well, old style.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to meet in person?
Online Dater 2; About a week.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 2; I didnt think he was my soul mate or anything like that, but he was really a cool guy and we both liked the same music and clubs. It turned out we had been to a lot of the same spots but never met.
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 2; Id say positive. He was like in his picture and all, but a little shorter than I pictured him.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 2; Well, we went out a few times and had a good time, but like I said, I never expected him to be the one, you know. It was fun. He still calls once in awhile and I might date him again, but Im still talking with other guys on the dating service and might try another date from there soon.
Last, a 41-year-old female shares her online dating experience with us.
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 3; I saw an ad on television for a very popular dating service. I was alone and thought it couldnt hurt to try it out. I work a lot and dont have much chance for a social life, but thought I needed to get back into the game, if you know what I mean.
Me: Where did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 3; Through the website I signed up for from the ad. .
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to meet in person?
Online Dater 3; Almost 6 months. As I said I work a lot and he was a professional, a lawyer, so his time was limited too. We would contact each other every day after work and talk about how our day went.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 3; Well, it was me who finally asked him out instead of the other way around. I just decided it was time to meet him. I had been talking to him everyday so it was already like coming home to hear him say, How was your day?
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 3; He was exactly what I expected. He had sent me many pictures so I would know what he looked like and I had sent him several as well. So there were no surprises there.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 3; Were married. Weve been married now for almost a year, but everything is great! Its not like he was my fantasy guy or anything so corny. He is a nice man. We got to know each other over that time online. And when we met, the conversations picked up right where we left off online. It was just natural after dating in person for about 6 weeks, that he asked me and I accepted.
In conclusion, these were some pretty positive interviews with people who have met someone through an online dating service and met someone they wanted to date in person. They all had success in varying degrees. But it does sound like something I might try now that Ive heard their experiences.
One note, while safety applies to both men and women, it needs to be said, that women need to be especially careful when deciding to actually meet any man they met online.
Women should talk to the guy through email and chat for awhile before even giving out a phone number. Remember that a phone number can be traced back to your address. Dont think because your phone number is unlisted that you are protected.
The next step after emails and chat should be by phone. You can learn a lot about someone by talking on the phone and really listening to what they say. If they make you feel uncomfortable on the phone, then you dont even want to take the next step and actually meet them.
If you do decide to meet the man you met through an online dating service, make sure you first meet in a very public place. Tell your friends where you are going and when you expect to return. Make the first date a short, get to know you, kind of date. One that is not scheduled to go longer, so you can go home and gather your thoughts before deciding whether or not you will date this man again.
Do not let him take you someplace secluded or in his vehicle anywhere on that first date. You may think you know him from all of the online and phone conversations, but abusers and abductors are very smart in the way they lure females into a trap. Be careful.
That being said, online dating can be a great way to meet some very nice men and maybe even find your soul mate. Using common sense is just a good idea. Now on with the interviews.
Of course, the women I am going to interview for the article wish to remain anonymous, so I will just call them Online Dater 1, 2, and 3.
We will begin with online dater 1; (a 27-year-old female)
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 1; My girlfriend at work actually married a guy she met through one of the online dating services and she urged me to try it at least once.
Me: Where and how did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 1; Im not sure I should tell you the website I use, but it is one that you can browse through the profiles of all the men that are available. I remember thinking it was like shopping. So it was fun. I found several profiles of guys I might like and emailed them. I received a lot of responses and began to chat with them by email. I let a couple of them call me on my cell phone and finally let one convince me to go out on a date.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to date in person?
Online Dater 1; Oh, about a month. I was a little leery and thought each of these guys must have something wrong with them to be here in the first place, but I guess that could apply to what they might be thinking about me too.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 1; Okay, Ill admit it. His picture got me. He was an absolute hunk and I had the hots for him right away. I still took my time about agreeing to an actual date. I couldnt understand why he would need to use an online dating service.
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 1; Totally positive. He was better than his picture!
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 1; We dated a few times. We really hit it off. We had a lot of the same interests, just like they were in the comparison charts at the online dating website. We are still seeing each other after 9 months. He hasnt popped the question, but the answer is going to be yes!
Okay, next I will be talking to a 19-year-old female about her experience.
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 2; I clicked on a link in an email that looked interesting.
Me: Where did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 2; Through the 3rd online dating service that I signed up for. I didnt like the first two very much. Too, well, old style.
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to meet in person?
Online Dater 2; About a week.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 2; I didnt think he was my soul mate or anything like that, but he was really a cool guy and we both liked the same music and clubs. It turned out we had been to a lot of the same spots but never met.
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 2; Id say positive. He was like in his picture and all, but a little shorter than I pictured him.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 2; Well, we went out a few times and had a good time, but like I said, I never expected him to be the one, you know. It was fun. He still calls once in awhile and I might date him again, but Im still talking with other guys on the dating service and might try another date from there soon.
Last, a 41-year-old female shares her online dating experience with us.
Me: How did you hear about online dating?
Online Dater 3; I saw an ad on television for a very popular dating service. I was alone and thought it couldnt hurt to try it out. I work a lot and dont have much chance for a social life, but thought I needed to get back into the game, if you know what I mean.
Me: Where did you meet your first online date?
Online Dater 3; Through the website I signed up for from the ad. .
Me: How long did you chat with this person online before you two decided to meet in person?
Online Dater 3; Almost 6 months. As I said I work a lot and he was a professional, a lawyer, so his time was limited too. We would contact each other every day after work and talk about how our day went.
Me: What was it about them that made you want to meet them in person and did you feel they were your soul mate?
Online Dater 3; Well, it was me who finally asked him out instead of the other way around. I just decided it was time to meet him. I had been talking to him everyday so it was already like coming home to hear him say, How was your day?
Me: Was your first impression of him, upon seeing him in person a surprise, a positive reaction, or a negative reaction?
Online Dater 3; He was exactly what I expected. He had sent me many pictures so I would know what he looked like and I had sent him several as well. So there were no surprises there.
Me: So, tell us what happened after meeting him in person.
Online Dater 3; Were married. Weve been married now for almost a year, but everything is great! Its not like he was my fantasy guy or anything so corny. He is a nice man. We got to know each other over that time online. And when we met, the conversations picked up right where we left off online. It was just natural after dating in person for about 6 weeks, that he asked me and I accepted.
In conclusion, these were some pretty positive interviews with people who have met someone through an online dating service and met someone they wanted to date in person. They all had success in varying degrees. But it does sound like something I might try now that Ive heard their experiences.
