Making Birthdays Special

Making Birthdays Special

One of the most important dates to remember in a romantic relationship is the birthday of your significant other. This ranks up there with remembering your anniversary and Valentine’s Day. For your loved one’s birthday, something besides a gift and a card is often appropriate. Many people take their girlfriends or boyfriends out to a birthday date or dinner. A birthday date is a great way to show the person you love that you are thinking of them, and that they are important enough to remember. But where do you take your loved one, you may ask. There are several different ideas, but there are also several factors to consider when making the decision of where to take your significant other. You must consider the sex of your significant other, his or her interests, and that everything is about your loved one on their birthday.

For one thing, whether you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend makes a difference in what type of activity you can plan for a birthday date. As everyone has already figured out, men and women are very different. We are different not just physically, but in many other aspects that have nothing to do with physical appearance as well. Things that a woman would like might totally bore a man, and the same is true of an opposite situation. This is definitely something you must take into consideration when planning a birthday date for your loved one. Choose something appropriate for your loved one, as men and women sometimes have very dissimilar tastes.

Another factor that must be taken into consideration before you plan a special occasion for your loved one’s birthday celebration is your significant other’s unique interests. Besides the fact that men and women obviously differ in tastes and hobbies, the same can be said about differences in tastes between individual people. For example, many men like football, but some do not. If your man does not like football, it would not be very wise to get football tickets and take him to a football game for his birthday. Another example would be that many women love to dress up for a fancy dinner; some do not. Just make sure that your birthday date idea is unique to your girlfriend or boyfriend’s likes. The last thing you want your loved one to feel on this special occasion is that they are being pushed into doing something that they dislike or do not want to do.

One last thing to remember is that this birthday date has one purpose: to make sure your loved one knows how important they are to you. Do not get bogged down with a lot of tiny details that, in the end, are not going to mean a whole lot. Make sure everything that motivates you is the for the sole purpose and reason of making the person you care about happy and making them feel loved. There is no other reason for putting together such an elaborate occasion. If your loved one does not feel that you are sincere and motivated by love, your birthday celebration idea may fall short of their expectations.

No matter what you choose to do to celebrate the occasion of your loved one’s birthday, always remember that the key to an enjoyable time is to be motivated by true care of someone. Many times, it is not the elaborateness of the plans, the money you spend, or what you buy as a gift that makes all the difference. Many times, what makes all the difference is the sincerity and thought that is put into the outing for your loved one’s enjoyment.

BONUS : Making Dangerous Dating Assumptions

When men and women are dating, they always seem to make assumptions about what is going on in the other person's mind. They have already decided on what the other person is thinking, what the other person wants, or what they need. Assuming things like this will lead to nowhere, fast. All that you will do is create misunderstandings, guilt, and potential embarrassing moments.

Here is a little story: Stacy's sister was having a beautiful romantic wedding ceremony. Of course Stacy wanted to bring her date Michael to the wedding to share this incredibly romantic experience with. During the wedding festivities Stacy was flowing with joy and love that was in the air from the entire wedding atmosphere.

She asked for Michael's hand and wanted him to look deep into her eyes as they danced. But Michael acted cold towards her. Unfortunately for Stacy, Michael had already been bitten by the love bug for another girl just a week earlier and just went with Stacy because he thought that she just needed a friend to go to the wedding with.

The following are lessons that we can learn from Stacy's experience:

* Do not have expectations. Whatever happens between two people is unpredictable and some people will react poorly to demands early on in the courtship. Without expectations then few feelings will be hurt if the date goes poorly and better yet if the date goes good, then it will be a 'bonus'.

* Make sure that you both openly agree on exactly what the date is about and what you each are there for.

* Be totally honest with each other about other relationships from day one. If you are seeing somebody on a casual basis, be open about it!

* Be clear with each other exactly what the date plans are to be. Sometimes the person is not aware or not interested in what you have planned, which may cause the outcome to be upsetting to both of you.