Having Trouble Writing Your Profile

Having Trouble Writing Your Profile?

I hear you. It can be damn hard to write at all sometimes, let alone write about yourself, let alone write a personal profile about yourself for an internet dating website. It probably makes you feel a little self-conscious and silly, oui? Well, just think of it as one of the trials you need to complete to get to the holy grail (that's the perfect date, of course, not eternal life). You've got to slay a lot of dragons to get to the princess / kiss a lot of frogs to get to the prince / other silly phrases. And we are here to help.So. Here are Lovestruck.com’s top tips for writing a truly ace profile without breaking a sweat.
1. Make A List Of 'Stuff I Like'
If you have total writer's block and every sentence sounds dreadful, take the easy way out and make a list titled 'Stuff I Like'. I (as a professional copywriter, natch) recommend it as the easiest way to form a snapshot-in-words of unique, wonderful, sexy, dateable you. It's also quite a nice way of making yourself feel good as it reminds you what makes you happy. And hurrah for that.*
2. Answer One Of Our Random Questions:
Try answering one or two of our Random Questions (you might want to give the question, too, otherwise it may seem odd in the extreme) and wax a little lyrical in your answers. Think of these as springboards to help you be as creative and funny as you can be.
Try:
What my childhood nickname was and why.
What I did last Sunday.
The view from my desk.
My secret talents.
My favourite drink and why I love it so.
My favourite bar and why I love it so.
The last time I laughed till hot tea came out my nose/I wet my pants.
And so on. Not happy with those questions? Make your own up, sweetcheeks! It's a free capital. (Remember to be quirky. Quirky is so hot right now.)
Want to actually write good old-fashioned sentences about yourself, in the traditional profile format? Ok, so now we come to the next few points. These focus on how to say what you say - and common profile-writing no-nos to watch for.
3. Don't Be Negative
I was going to suggest that you could make a list of 'Stuff I Hate', but actually that just doesn't work. And you know why? Because negativity is not sexy. (And although a good angry rant is always enjoyable, it's only funny when it's delivered in the right medium - and an online dating profile isn't that medium.) No one wants to date a negative person. Sentences like "I can't believe I'm internet dating..." don't test well. (Anyone reading your profile doesn't think you're weird for trying something as hip and happenin' as Lovestruck.com. They're doing it too, remember?)

4. Avoid Clichés Like The Plague
If you describe yourself as someone who likes "going out, going to the cinema, having a bit of a laugh, hanging out with my friends, quite easygoing but like to do new things" then frankly, you sound like everyone I've ever met. Including my mother. If you say "I like going out to small bars with big drinks and free postcards in the hall next to the toilets. I like sleeping in the cinema and making up the plot when I leave. I like laughing at my friends when they are drunk and helpless. I like having impromptu drinking competitions on inappropriate weeknights" then you sound like someone with a bit of pizzazz. Of course, pizzazz is subjective. But I digress. My point is: make the effort to stand out from the crowd by avoiding the same-ol'-same-ol' lines - it's the only way to get that special someone out there to bark aloud with laughter and try to cover it up with a cough before their co-workers notice, and then want to vigorously Lovestruck you morning, noon and night.
5. Don't Share Too Much
Your profile is designed to give a taste of who you are, what you like and why you're so damn special. It's not really the place to unzip your chest, pluck out your heart and soul and lay them naked and pulsating on the online dating operating table waiting for the next Lovestruck punter to attack them with a scalpel. Don't reveal too much about the horrors of love and dating, the capriciousness of women and the utter bastardry of men. Keep that stuff till later.
6. Be Yourself... But Better
Naturally, we're all online dating because traditional dating can kind of suck. So to maximize your online dating pulling power, you've got to write a really top-notch profile that shows you to be seriously hot property. That means being the best possible version of yourself: the well-dressed, funny, impressive, adorable, intelligent, flirtatious, warm, attractive, kissable, self-assured, memorable YOU. So be a flirt. Be coy. Be confident. Be unusual. Smirk, frown questioningly, arch your eyebrow and pout your lip - all through the medium of words, of course. (And whilst we're here, please don't use lots of exclamation marks. One or two is ok, but more than that makes you sound breathless and overexcited... and that's not cool. The Fonz wouldn't use lots of exclamation marks.)
Oh, and watch your spelling. For me. Really. We're all grown-ups. We can use www.dictionary.com.
Well, I hope this helps. My last tip is to just force yourself to sit down and get the wretched thing over and done with. Thanks for reading. You've been a great crowd. I'm here all week. Try the veal.

BONUS : Help Save Marriage Why Pastoral Counseling is Superior to a Secular Therapist

Help save marriage from the secular therapists who call themselves “Marriage and Family Counselors.” These professionals, who generally have a master’s degree in psychology have a misleading license. You would think from their titles that they are specialists to help save marriage, but when you find out what they are really trained in, you see that it is in individual therapy.

Look at the coursework required for a Marriage and Family Counselor’s License. They take classes like “individual assessment,” “group dynamics” and “multicultural counseling.” These courses are aimed at mental health challenges focusing on the individual. Marriage counseling courses, when offered, are an elective.

When they take that individual-orientation training and apply it to a married couple who says “help, save marriage,” the model fails. Often the first thing the therapist will do is send the parties to individual counseling to deal with their personal mental health issues.

This can often drive a feuding couple further apart. As separate counselors reinforce individual needs and desires over the joint needs of the relationship, the marriage disintegrates further.

So, what can you do if you want to save your marriage? You know you need professional intervention to help you communicate better and work through existing relationship problems.

Perhaps the best person to help you is your pastor. Clergy have a vested interest in preserving marriage as a sacrament. While many ministers will advise someone in an abusive situation to get out, their initial reaction is to help save marriage in general and yours in particular.

Pastoral counseling integrates psychological theory and biblical principles. The emotional and spiritual journey is seen as intertwined.

If you attend a church or place of worship regularly, you can contact the office and ask for an appointment for pastoral counseling to help save marriage.

If you don’t attend a church already, you can look for pastoral counseling at a local church. Churches tend to have an outreach to the community mission and most are open to providing services to all who ask.

Large churches, especially the so-called “megachurches” will have a special pastoral counseling staff. However, if you choose a smaller church, you will probably get attention from a senior pastor.

In either case, when you really want to help save marriage, turn to pastoral counseling rather than secular marriage counseling.

Traditional individually oriented therapy, when turned to marriage counseling, focuses on “communication skills” and “problem solving strategies.” Tackling marriage problems this way can actually stress the partners out more.

Biblically based counseling, on the other hand, can help you solve your problems in the way God intended.

If you are saying, “help, save marriage,” contact a pastor to get the real kind of marriage counseling you need.