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Has The Move To Online Living Helped Online Dating
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Millions of people all around the world are members of online dating services it seems, with these numbers growing larger and larger every day. With the influx of free online dating websites cropping up, the rate of sign ups has been pushed even higher. The decreasing stigma of online dating, while still evident, is becoming less of an issue for people. Is this because of the growing number of relationships, romantic or otherwise, and communication (through blogs, videos, emails, and so on) that has moved online? Or, is this growth due to the success of online daters?
There's no doubt that a significant amount of our day to day communications with others have moved online. Emailing and instant messaging are frequent mediums for talking with colleagues, friends, and family. We read our news from online newspapers and even blogs, and we search for articles, recipies, and directions online. We can shop for clothing, cars, music, and home accessories online. We watch movies, TV shows, and listen to music over the internet. With all these aspects of our lives now available through our computers, it's little surprise that romance and dating has now moved online too, and has occupied a chunk of the web for some time now. Though this part of online communication carried a negative stigma with it at one time, this too is beginning to change. Partly, this can be attributed to evolution of popular online communication, from emailing, to message boards and forums, to social networking sites. The huge growth in popularity of social networking websites has made the leap to online dating little more than a small hop. However, many social networking sites are used to keep in touch with already established friends, while online dating sites are often used to meet new people.
As the industry of online dating is improving and growing, so is the rate of success, much like a snowball effect. As more people sign up, there is a greater potential to meet the right person, just as the likelihood of knowing someone who belongs to an online dating service who's had success with it. The more success people experience, the more likely they are to recommend a service to their friends and family. As a result, those around them are more likely to sign up for their own accounts. And so, the numbers grow, and the online dating industry increases exponentially.
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BONUS : Having Trouble Writing Your Profile?
I hear you. It can be damn hard to write at all sometimes, let alone write about yourself, let alone write a personal profile about yourself for an internet dating website. It probably makes you feel a little self-conscious and silly, oui? Well, just think of it as one of the trials you need to complete to get to the holy grail (that's the perfect date, of course, not eternal life). You've got to slay a lot of dragons to get to the princess / kiss a lot of frogs to get to the prince / other silly phrases. And we are here to help.So. Here are Lovestruck.comÂs top tips for writing a truly ace profile without breaking a sweat.
1. Make A List Of 'Stuff I Like'
If you have total writer's block and every sentence sounds dreadful, take the easy way out and make a list titled 'Stuff I Like'. I (as a professional copywriter, natch) recommend it as the easiest way to form a snapshot-in-words of unique, wonderful, sexy, dateable you. It's also quite a nice way of making yourself feel good as it reminds you what makes you happy. And hurrah for that.*
2. Answer One Of Our Random Questions:
Try answering one or two of our Random Questions (you might want to give the question, too, otherwise it may seem odd in the extreme) and wax a little lyrical in your answers. Think of these as springboards to help you be as creative and funny as you can be.
Try:
What my childhood nickname was and why.
What I did last Sunday.
The view from my desk.
My secret talents.
My favourite drink and why I love it so.
My favourite bar and why I love it so.
The last time I laughed till hot tea came out my nose/I wet my pants.
And so on. Not happy with those questions? Make your own up, sweetcheeks! It's a free capital. (Remember to be quirky. Quirky is so hot right now.)
Want to actually write good old-fashioned sentences about yourself, in the traditional profile format? Ok, so now we come to the next few points. These focus on how to say what you say - and common profile-writing no-nos to watch for.
3. Don't Be Negative
I was going to suggest that you could make a list of 'Stuff I Hate', but actually that just doesn't work. And you know why? Because negativity is not sexy. (And although a good angry rant is always enjoyable, it's only funny when it's delivered in the right medium - and an online dating profile isn't that medium.) No one wants to date a negative person. Sentences like "I can't believe I'm internet dating..." don't test well. (Anyone reading your profile doesn't think you're weird for trying something as hip and happenin' as Lovestruck.com. They're doing it too, remember?)
4. Avoid Clichés Like The Plague
If you describe yourself as someone who likes "going out, going to the cinema, having a bit of a laugh, hanging out with my friends, quite easygoing but like to do new things" then frankly, you sound like everyone I've ever met. Including my mother. If you say "I like going out to small bars with big drinks and free postcards in the hall next to the toilets. I like sleeping in the cinema and making up the plot when I leave. I like laughing at my friends when they are drunk and helpless. I like having impromptu drinking competitions on inappropriate weeknights" then you sound like someone with a bit of pizzazz. Of course, pizzazz is subjective. But I digress. My point is: make the effort to stand out from the crowd by avoiding the same-ol'-same-ol' lines - it's the only way to get that special someone out there to bark aloud with laughter and try to cover it up with a cough before their co-workers notice, and then want to vigorously Lovestruck you morning, noon and night.
5. Don't Share Too Much
Your profile is designed to give a taste of who you are, what you like and why you're so damn special. It's not really the place to unzip your chest, pluck out your heart and soul and lay them naked and pulsating on the online dating operating table waiting for the next Lovestruck punter to attack them with a scalpel. Don't reveal too much about the horrors of love and dating, the capriciousness of women and the utter bastardry of men. Keep that stuff till later.
6. Be Yourself... But Better
Naturally, we're all online dating because traditional dating can kind of suck. So to maximize your online dating pulling power, you've got to write a really top-notch profile that shows you to be seriously hot property. That means being the best possible version of yourself: the well-dressed, funny, impressive, adorable, intelligent, flirtatious, warm, attractive, kissable, self-assured, memorable YOU. So be a flirt. Be coy. Be confident. Be unusual. Smirk, frown questioningly, arch your eyebrow and pout your lip - all through the medium of words, of course. (And whilst we're here, please don't use lots of exclamation marks. One or two is ok, but more than that makes you sound breathless and overexcited... and that's not cool. The Fonz wouldn't use lots of exclamation marks.)
Oh, and watch your spelling. For me. Really. We're all grown-ups. We can use www.dictionary.com.
Well, I hope this helps. My last tip is to just force yourself to sit down and get the wretched thing over and done with. Thanks for reading. You've been a great crowd. I'm here all week. Try the veal.
I hear you. It can be damn hard to write at all sometimes, let alone write about yourself, let alone write a personal profile about yourself for an internet dating website. It probably makes you feel a little self-conscious and silly, oui? Well, just think of it as one of the trials you need to complete to get to the holy grail (that's the perfect date, of course, not eternal life). You've got to slay a lot of dragons to get to the princess / kiss a lot of frogs to get to the prince / other silly phrases. And we are here to help.So. Here are Lovestruck.comÂs top tips for writing a truly ace profile without breaking a sweat.
1. Make A List Of 'Stuff I Like'
If you have total writer's block and every sentence sounds dreadful, take the easy way out and make a list titled 'Stuff I Like'. I (as a professional copywriter, natch) recommend it as the easiest way to form a snapshot-in-words of unique, wonderful, sexy, dateable you. It's also quite a nice way of making yourself feel good as it reminds you what makes you happy. And hurrah for that.*
2. Answer One Of Our Random Questions:
Try answering one or two of our Random Questions (you might want to give the question, too, otherwise it may seem odd in the extreme) and wax a little lyrical in your answers. Think of these as springboards to help you be as creative and funny as you can be.
Try:
What my childhood nickname was and why.
What I did last Sunday.
The view from my desk.
My secret talents.
My favourite drink and why I love it so.
My favourite bar and why I love it so.
The last time I laughed till hot tea came out my nose/I wet my pants.
And so on. Not happy with those questions? Make your own up, sweetcheeks! It's a free capital. (Remember to be quirky. Quirky is so hot right now.)
Want to actually write good old-fashioned sentences about yourself, in the traditional profile format? Ok, so now we come to the next few points. These focus on how to say what you say - and common profile-writing no-nos to watch for.
3. Don't Be Negative
I was going to suggest that you could make a list of 'Stuff I Hate', but actually that just doesn't work. And you know why? Because negativity is not sexy. (And although a good angry rant is always enjoyable, it's only funny when it's delivered in the right medium - and an online dating profile isn't that medium.) No one wants to date a negative person. Sentences like "I can't believe I'm internet dating..." don't test well. (Anyone reading your profile doesn't think you're weird for trying something as hip and happenin' as Lovestruck.com. They're doing it too, remember?)
4. Avoid Clichés Like The Plague
If you describe yourself as someone who likes "going out, going to the cinema, having a bit of a laugh, hanging out with my friends, quite easygoing but like to do new things" then frankly, you sound like everyone I've ever met. Including my mother. If you say "I like going out to small bars with big drinks and free postcards in the hall next to the toilets. I like sleeping in the cinema and making up the plot when I leave. I like laughing at my friends when they are drunk and helpless. I like having impromptu drinking competitions on inappropriate weeknights" then you sound like someone with a bit of pizzazz. Of course, pizzazz is subjective. But I digress. My point is: make the effort to stand out from the crowd by avoiding the same-ol'-same-ol' lines - it's the only way to get that special someone out there to bark aloud with laughter and try to cover it up with a cough before their co-workers notice, and then want to vigorously Lovestruck you morning, noon and night.
5. Don't Share Too Much
Your profile is designed to give a taste of who you are, what you like and why you're so damn special. It's not really the place to unzip your chest, pluck out your heart and soul and lay them naked and pulsating on the online dating operating table waiting for the next Lovestruck punter to attack them with a scalpel. Don't reveal too much about the horrors of love and dating, the capriciousness of women and the utter bastardry of men. Keep that stuff till later.
6. Be Yourself... But Better
Naturally, we're all online dating because traditional dating can kind of suck. So to maximize your online dating pulling power, you've got to write a really top-notch profile that shows you to be seriously hot property. That means being the best possible version of yourself: the well-dressed, funny, impressive, adorable, intelligent, flirtatious, warm, attractive, kissable, self-assured, memorable YOU. So be a flirt. Be coy. Be confident. Be unusual. Smirk, frown questioningly, arch your eyebrow and pout your lip - all through the medium of words, of course. (And whilst we're here, please don't use lots of exclamation marks. One or two is ok, but more than that makes you sound breathless and overexcited... and that's not cool. The Fonz wouldn't use lots of exclamation marks.)
Oh, and watch your spelling. For me. Really. We're all grown-ups. We can use www.dictionary.com.
Well, I hope this helps. My last tip is to just force yourself to sit down and get the wretched thing over and done with. Thanks for reading. You've been a great crowd. I'm here all week. Try the veal.
