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Dating After Divorce Some Things To Think About
If you are recently divorced and are thinking about entering the dating world again there are some things you need to think about. Let's face it, a divorce can be a tramatic experience for all those involved and jumping into the dating scene can be more than many divorcees are ready to deal with. The only one who will know if you are truly ready to start dating after a divorce is you, but here are some things to consider before you go on that first date.
1. Are you ready to date after your divorce? This is where you have to take stock of your own emotions and what it is you are looking for after getting divorced. Only you can really answer this question but something to think about is why do you want to start dating again. Are you lonely and think that dating again will help fill that void left by your ex-spouse? If this is the case you may not be ready, because the person you date may not fulfill your expectations, particularly if you do not know what it is you want out of a new relationship. If you look at it from the point of asking yourself what you want from a new relationship you may find it easier to make a decision about dating after your divorce.
2. What's your confidence level when it comes to dealing with someone in a dating relationship? For many people just getting through their divorce is rough. You have to ask yourself are you ready to deal with someone on that emotional level again. One important question you have to ask yourself is are you confident enough in yourself that any let down or rejection during your foray into dating will not damage your emotional state.
3. What kind of person are you going to date? Your tendancy may be to try and find someone who is the complete opposite of your ex-spouse. While this may sound good if you think about it it's probably not a good idea. Why? You were attracted to your ex-spouse for a variety of reasons. Because your marriage didn't work doesn't mean that you didn't like some of the things that attracted you to your ex in the first place. You need to accept people for who they are, not who they remind you of.
4. Be prepared for let downs? It will be hard not to compare anyone you date to your ex-spouse. It will make it even more difficult if that someone you are dating seems to do some of the things that your ex used to do that drove you crazy. Realize that most of the time they will be unaware that they are doing something that reminds you of your ex-spouse. If you really like this new person in your life give them a chance, because what you see and think may not be what they intend for you to see and think. It is hard for them to overcome the demons of your past relationship if you do not give them that chance.
Don't be afraid to enter into the dating world after your divorce, but at the same time you need to know who you are and have the confidence to find what you are comfortable with when it comes to dating. Trust yourself to make the right choice and chances are you will thrive as you begin your new life dating after divorce.
BONUS : Dating And Relationship Tips
Since Dating and Relationships are such a large, important part of everyday life, this article strives to help clear up myths from facts and present an overview of surrounding issues.
Show Off  If you have a great body youÂre trying to show off and young physical appearance, yet worry because you still seem to have difficulty finding dates and establishing relationships, here are some pointers. Turn off the ÂME focus. Others tend to see that as boorish and think you only care about yourself, not others and certainly not them. Instead, turn the focus on outside interests that the other person can relate to, even if it has to be the weather. For help, tune in to an online news source like CNN or subscribe to a national or other major newspaper or magazine like Newsweek or head to the public library for the latest news briefs.
Online dating might be a good outlet for you, to as it generally offers a place to list all your great physical qualities as well as outside interests and more, presenting a more rounded dating candidate. Then those who are VERY interested in great abs, youthful appeal, etc. will be able to check you out. And those who are interested in the other interests can focus on those, too.
Sit, DonÂt Take a Stand  Instead of voicing your opinions over issues that you pretty well know, cause heated arguments, donÂt take a stand. Just sit them out. ThereÂs no shame in passing up an argument. For example, if you both call yourselves ÂChristians, yet one of you firmly has a complete set of rules and regulations about what a ÂChristian really is, and doesnÂt hesitate to voice this, skip over conversations about religion. If you have to, simply say something along the lines of, ÂThis gets us too heated, so letÂs pass on if for now and move on to something else. Agree that itÂs okay to disagree. Because it is!
Traditions  Keep up with some old traditions from each family. Alter some; create new ones. The main thing here is to make positive memories that you can share and relive over and over, especially during rough spots when you canÂt remember why you are together. Traditions can be like glue and bind you with a common past.
Sex Vs Love  Sex and love are not the same thing. Learn the difference and donÂt measure love by your hormones.
Negotiator  Forget Âhis and Âhers roles and who Âshould do what when Learn to negotiate. What works one day may not work another when timing is off, kids are on the run and disaster strikes, for instance, when your mother-in-law drops by unexpectedly.
Love and Hate  Love your mate. It is OK to strongly dislike (or Âmaybe hate) a behavior, like cracking knuckles or biting nails. But remember to love the person.
Since Dating and Relationships are such a large, important part of everyday life, this article strives to help clear up myths from facts and present an overview of surrounding issues.
Show Off  If you have a great body youÂre trying to show off and young physical appearance, yet worry because you still seem to have difficulty finding dates and establishing relationships, here are some pointers. Turn off the ÂME focus. Others tend to see that as boorish and think you only care about yourself, not others and certainly not them. Instead, turn the focus on outside interests that the other person can relate to, even if it has to be the weather. For help, tune in to an online news source like CNN or subscribe to a national or other major newspaper or magazine like Newsweek or head to the public library for the latest news briefs.
Online dating might be a good outlet for you, to as it generally offers a place to list all your great physical qualities as well as outside interests and more, presenting a more rounded dating candidate. Then those who are VERY interested in great abs, youthful appeal, etc. will be able to check you out. And those who are interested in the other interests can focus on those, too.
Sit, DonÂt Take a Stand  Instead of voicing your opinions over issues that you pretty well know, cause heated arguments, donÂt take a stand. Just sit them out. ThereÂs no shame in passing up an argument. For example, if you both call yourselves ÂChristians, yet one of you firmly has a complete set of rules and regulations about what a ÂChristian really is, and doesnÂt hesitate to voice this, skip over conversations about religion. If you have to, simply say something along the lines of, ÂThis gets us too heated, so letÂs pass on if for now and move on to something else. Agree that itÂs okay to disagree. Because it is!
Traditions  Keep up with some old traditions from each family. Alter some; create new ones. The main thing here is to make positive memories that you can share and relive over and over, especially during rough spots when you canÂt remember why you are together. Traditions can be like glue and bind you with a common past.
Sex Vs Love  Sex and love are not the same thing. Learn the difference and donÂt measure love by your hormones.
Negotiator  Forget Âhis and Âhers roles and who Âshould do what when Learn to negotiate. What works one day may not work another when timing is off, kids are on the run and disaster strikes, for instance, when your mother-in-law drops by unexpectedly.
Love and Hate  Love your mate. It is OK to strongly dislike (or Âmaybe hate) a behavior, like cracking knuckles or biting nails. But remember to love the person.
