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Dating Advice Tips To Follow When Using Online Dating Sites
Online Dating Advice: The Big problem
When you respond to an ad, posted by a lady, youhave to know that you are not the only one. Its more likely that you r the 35-th person that is writing to her Id like to make a suggestion. Right here, right now, log on to the web and register yourself at match.com section as a lady (about 23 y/o, nice and slim).
Be sure that you use an e-mail that is not valuable for you - getting a new free one for the purpose is a good idea.
This is going to be a small experiment. After a couple of days youll find out two things:
its cool to be a lady in the NET :)
the approximate number of people you are competing with.
Something more important - youll get the idea about what are the other guys writing about. This is valuable information.
Dont hesitate and be desperate if you get 40 emails the first day from all sorts of guys willing to go on a date with you.
Ill tell you how to make women think you differ from them.
Online Dating Tip 1
The usual mistake
Well, lets suppose u did the experiment that I suggested. I bet youll find a couple dozens of variations of the following:
Hi! My name is Bob. Im 2x/3x/4x y/o. I live in PutTheName City. Im (body measures&eye-hair colour follows). I work at a ImagineSomeBusiness
Company. I like doing (this varies a lot). We might give it a try if u r interested ;) Bob
This sounds pathetic, doesnt it?
Bob is wasting his time.
Of course - he has his own chances.
If his job or hobby matches the ladys ones, hell probably get an answer. If also the lady is posting an ad for the first time, and Bob is the first one to answer, again hell probably get a reply.
Pay attention to the word first. 1 is the loneliest number
Where is he mistaking .
Bob might be a cool guy, but he shows nothing of it.
What he does is a simple announcing of facts. His personality remains covered. As I said, he could be a good psychologist, witty, emotional and educated - whole bunch of features that women consider valuable.
But if all this remains hidden behind these plain body/work/hobby facts, its quite easy for a lady to decide that nothing of it exists With other words -
Bob is wasting his valuable online time. As I said, only the fact-match remains something that can hook a lady.
This is something very thin to rely on
Online Dating Tip 2
So, what to do?
The answer is simple - you have to put some personality in your e-mail.
Once you do this, you can be sure that you can leave an impression. If you manage to do this, your work is done.
Remember the features I was talking aboutpsychologist, witty, emotional and educated. You have to convince the lady that you can think, have sense of humour and you havent missed the classes at school.
Make her laugh, make her think; dont disturb her with spelling mistakes and your chances to get a reply increase dramatically. It doesnt matter if the lady is educated or not - she wants you to be such. Let me say a few words about each one of these features
Be a psychologist!
Online Dating Tip 3
When you e-mail a lady you have to show yourself as a psychologist.
Well, how are you supposed to do this? Simple - you have to make a small prediction that comes out to be true.
First you have to read the ladys ad and gather all the valuable information.
Try to understand what is the proper motivation for her to post an ad. It might be stated directly - than it is useless for you to mention it.
If she does not say it clear, then go for it - shell be pleased to hear that someone understands her. One thing that you can always use is the fact that quite a lot of people write something similar to the ad that I showed you above.
You can predict that the lady is probably already tired of ads, telling about heights, weight and eyecolour. Say that you wont bother her with useless facts. Promise to send her a picture instead in some of your following letters.
Of course - do it if she replies. If you manage to make such a working prediction, this will convince the lady that the space between your ears is not filled with air. You know, even if you are not quite right, she might reply to tell where you are wrong. This is also a base for conversation. Use it. Be witty!
Showing some sense of humour - well, something that is difficult to achieve sometimes. What I can say is JOKE WITH YOURSELF, NOT WITH HER! REMEMBER THAT! Dont use any of the info that she gives as a material for jokes!
It might work, but its more likely that you back the lady off. Try to get her point of view - shell say Who the hell is he to speak like that?! Dont risk! In the same time, you can always make laugh from the way you look. Use phrases like It could be damn worse or I dont cover the mirrors with
sheets at my place when talking about your appearance.
Its a basic thing to show that you like yourself. If you dont, well this is a little bit far from the topic of this article, but do an effort not to show it (and constantly work to change this).
Its a basic statement that you have first to like and love the person that you see in the mirror in order the others to like and love you. Back to humour -keep the lines that are supposed to make her laugh unexpected and short.
Online Dating Tip 3
Telling long stories with funny end is not a quite good idea - the end might not be that funny and the whole reading might be in vain. Coming up with a witty line at the moment of writing an e-mail is not always possible.
Its a good idea always to keep your ears opened for funny things, quotes, etc. Write them down the moment you hear them, or when they come to your
mind.
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BONUS : Dating Advice: What American Idol Can Teach Us About Attracting Women
When used correctly, arrogance can be an amazing tool to help you attract women. When youre slightly arrogant, females want to find a redeeming softer side to you. If you're too arrogant or rude you will blow your chances.
Let's look at Simon Cowell for a minute. When we first saw Simon on American Idol our first instinct was to hate the guy. We all said, "What an arrogant bastard". Now us guys thought that and probably never gave it a second thought, but women around the world starting digging deeper. They thought, "There's got to be something more to this guy". Then as the season went on Simon began to give credit where credit was do. What began to happen was incredible. Whenever Simon gave a compliment, the audience and all of America (particularly women) began to cheer like crazy. Why did this happen? The reason is because people were so excited to see that redeeming quality they were searching for shine through. They knew there was some good in this guy. They found themselves wanting to like him. Randy Jackson who never played the mysterious, arrogant role at all didn't get nearly the same response when he gave kudos to a contestant.
The key is to balance this confident arrogance with a sweet, vulnerable side. You can actually create a pattern with women where they'll start being nice to you and doing all kinds of favors for you just to see that redeeming side of you peek through. It's an amazing thing to watch when it's done right. Personally I hate the idea of playing the arrogant role because I'm genuinely a nice, humble guy but it really works so I do it anyway. It even annoys me that women react well to this kind of attitude but unfortunately it's a fact of life.
Remember not to be mean for the sake of being mean. I wouldn't go as far as Simon, who actually crossed the line sometimes and became mean. Remember - you don't have months and months on a TV show to redeem yourself like he does so you can't afford to go as far with it as he has. But done properly, arrogance can really work for you.
A simple way you can begin to create the kind of dynamic that Simon does is to start calling girls out on things. Start "breaking her chops" in a playful way. When they are being lazy, call them lazy. If you don't like her outfit, say, "I'm not really feeling that. You should wear something else". Please don't take this as a cue to go out and be MEAN to women. Instead it's a cue to go out and be HONEST with women. Her behavior will actually begin to cater to making you happy and shell start working hard to bring the complimentary side out of you.
When used correctly, arrogance can be an amazing tool to help you attract women. When youre slightly arrogant, females want to find a redeeming softer side to you. If you're too arrogant or rude you will blow your chances.
Let's look at Simon Cowell for a minute. When we first saw Simon on American Idol our first instinct was to hate the guy. We all said, "What an arrogant bastard". Now us guys thought that and probably never gave it a second thought, but women around the world starting digging deeper. They thought, "There's got to be something more to this guy". Then as the season went on Simon began to give credit where credit was do. What began to happen was incredible. Whenever Simon gave a compliment, the audience and all of America (particularly women) began to cheer like crazy. Why did this happen? The reason is because people were so excited to see that redeeming quality they were searching for shine through. They knew there was some good in this guy. They found themselves wanting to like him. Randy Jackson who never played the mysterious, arrogant role at all didn't get nearly the same response when he gave kudos to a contestant.
The key is to balance this confident arrogance with a sweet, vulnerable side. You can actually create a pattern with women where they'll start being nice to you and doing all kinds of favors for you just to see that redeeming side of you peek through. It's an amazing thing to watch when it's done right. Personally I hate the idea of playing the arrogant role because I'm genuinely a nice, humble guy but it really works so I do it anyway. It even annoys me that women react well to this kind of attitude but unfortunately it's a fact of life.
Remember not to be mean for the sake of being mean. I wouldn't go as far as Simon, who actually crossed the line sometimes and became mean. Remember - you don't have months and months on a TV show to redeem yourself like he does so you can't afford to go as far with it as he has. But done properly, arrogance can really work for you.
A simple way you can begin to create the kind of dynamic that Simon does is to start calling girls out on things. Start "breaking her chops" in a playful way. When they are being lazy, call them lazy. If you don't like her outfit, say, "I'm not really feeling that. You should wear something else". Please don't take this as a cue to go out and be MEAN to women. Instead it's a cue to go out and be HONEST with women. Her behavior will actually begin to cater to making you happy and shell start working hard to bring the complimentary side out of you.
