Creative Ways Of Asking Out A Stranger

Creative Ways Of Asking Out A Stranger

Women these days are smart and cautious. With the amount of date rape cases on the rise, going out on a date with a stranger is becoming less popular. However, the good-hearted person you are, that should not stop you from asking out an interesting stranger.

Here are creative ways of asking her out.

Walk Over and Ask

The least complex but usually hardest way to ask out a stranger is walking over and asking straight away. The very simplicity of walking over and blurting out a simple, direct question makes the whole strategy challenging. The execution is so simple that the success or failure of the move lies entirely on the individual executing it. The proven technique? Have the looks of a Brad Pitt, the wit of a George Clooney and the Cruiser charm, and you’ll sure to get a, “yes.”

However, for the balance of the population who is not so fortunate to be like them, there are other options to take, to avoid getting rejected.

Start with a Complement

A complement is always a good way to start. But complementing her looks is so passé and doubtful because it borders on being a pick-up line. Try to complement her action or things that she uses instead of her looks. If you saw her park perfectly, then complement that and ask if she has time to describe her experience with her car. Ask her about the notebook she’s using, its value and performance, as you are also interested in getting one for yourself. Ask about her mobile and if she’s satisfied with her provider. Those should be good starting points of a conversation and hopefully you are able to extend it until you get her number, or a real date.

Be Familiar to the Stranger

Sometimes, asking out strangers are easy if they are not a total stranger to you. You may have seen her weekly at the fruits section of the grocery or she may have caught your eye as she was loading her laundry. You may not know her name, but you certainly can know a lot about her, just by observing her.

If you find a potential date with any of the strangers that you regularly see as you head to the office, then create interest by observing her more closely. Try to know her schedule or where you see her often. Wait for the right moment to happen, so you have a higher chance of getting positive results.

When you see her every morning at your favorite café, don’t ask her out while she’s picking up an espresso-to-go at 7:30 am. Wait till Friday, when she usually spends the afternoon with her notebook and a tall latte. That should be a good opportunity to make conversation. She’s in a relaxed state, not in a hurry, and maybe open for new acquaintances.

Laundromats are a good place to ask out a stranger. Why? Because you have the time. There is nothing more boring than waiting for your cycle to finish. And people usually have at least 2: whites and coloreds. So that’s enough time and opportunity for you to gather up the courage and ask. But before doing so, make sure that you’ve made your background check. Maybe she reads while she waits for the laundry to finish. Ask about the book but keep the conversation light so she will not be put off by your presence. Offer to help when you can, without imposing, so she will not be threatened. Smile genuinely, from the heart and she will see your pure intentions and may become interested to go out.

A Common Acquaintance

In this small American country, people are connected to each other, in one way or another. The key is to find your connection to the stranger that you are interested in going out with.

Spend a week or two observing your stranger. If you are lucky enough to find a common friend, then that is a sure ticket to ask her out. Arrange for a chance meeting, or a group date to have an opportunity to have a conversation with her. Soon as you are able to get past the “hi” and, “hello,” then you should be able to take it through spending some time together alone.

There’s much excitement and adventure in asking out strangers. Overcoming the challenge is quite fulfilling. However, make sure that your intentions are genuine and good, for only the pure at heart deserve to go out with the interesting stranger.

BONUS : Date At Work, But Work At Dating: Office Romance Rules For Dating Co-workers

If you’re like every other workingwoman (or man) who is dedicated and hard working, your commitment to work makes it nearly impossible to meet anyone outside of work. You're probably not just a nine to five worker - you're that successful someone who works extra hours and weekends, and is trying to get ahead to be successful. And you know what that makes you? Sexy!

Both men and women are attracted to people who are confident, passionate and focused, with interests and areas of expertise. Who wouldn't be? Think about it-and there isn't an easier, simpler or more convenient place to meet them than at work.

Date at Work - But Work at Dating

Even though it's often advised against, dating people you work with makes practical sense - after all, we spend so much of our lives in the office, there's often no other way or time to meet anyone else. But you have to be extra smart about your choices, and take special precautions if you're going to venture into an office romance.

Water Cooler Gossip

The one overriding warning worth heeding--the one that should dictate all of your actions and words--is this: People talk. No matter how friendly your co-workers are, or how tight-lipped the object of your affection seems, secrets are almost always spilled, one way or another, whether accidentally or intentionally. Translation? Say nothing and do nothing that you do not want everyone else to know about. This means no chit-chat with the girls at the water cooler about his size or performance, and no pillow talk with him about how much you loathe your boss, and can’t wait to take over his or her job. There’s too much at stake, like your livelihood to take risks, and there’s too much to lose, like a potentially great love, not to give it a shot.

The Rules About Dating Co-Workers

1. Don’t mix business and pleasure on company time. Agree to date out of work hours, but don’t turn a business lunch into a romantic lunch.

2. If you’re a supervisor or employer you must stay fair. Don’t give someone you’re dating better work or pay, and don’t punish someone you’re breaking up with by giving him or her worse work or pay. Otherwise, you may find yourself on the receiving end of a lawsuit.

3. Make sure he or she is actually single. If they’re not -- then keep personal remarks at work limited to sports, the weather and the kids. Don’t gripe or listen to gripes about a spouse. "I’m sorry, I’m not comfortable talking about your wife. I want to keep our relationship all business because I value us as co-workers," is all you need to say and do.

4. Don't Boast. Your co-worker boyfriend or girlfriend may look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, and you may be so pumped up that you've got a hot date with the hottie -- but keep your feelings to yourself -- and your friends outside of work. Work gossip is inevitable, but you must practice good behavior by keeping the water cooler talk to work and the weather.

5. Don't Make Out At Work. Keep all affection outside of office parameters. It's okay to meet at the office, but don't smooch at the office.

6. Don't Have Love Spats At Work. If things weren't great the night before, don't bring your disappointment to your staff meetings -- no pun intended. You will have to practice wearing two hats -- even if you're mad, don't put the kabosh on their comments at the Monday morning meeting and act out your frustrations at work.

7. Do Put Rumors To Rest. If you hear gossip, don't fuel the fire by denying the truth. Everyone finds out that you're dating eventually. While you should not announce your relationship, you can say, "Yes, we're dating. We're both single adults and we’re working very hard to keep our social life separate from our work life." And smile.

Both dating and working are natural parts of life, and it's natural to become attracted to people you work with. If you're both single and available, go for it! But be impeccable with your behavior and your work. You're going to be under more scrutiny in this relationship than you would be if you were dating someone you didn't work with.