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Relax. It S Not The End Of The World
People are always rushed and seemed not to have enough time during the day to perform all their tasks. This causes enormous stress in their lives. They resemble a F1 Formula car red lining and getting ready to blow its engine. We see evidence of this with road rage and people being testy in general. I will provide some guidelines on how people can relax more and enjoy life.
Relaxation is not a Guilty Pleasure
People should try to find some personal time during the week. They should participate in activities that they enjoy and brings a smile. It could be anything like going to see a movie, taking a walk or playing with their children. Whatever it is, you must take some time to do it. Schedule it in your calendar if you have to.
Another benefit by doing something that relaxes you is that you will be more productive. I do not know how many times that I was agonizing over a problem for a couple of hours and could not find a solution. I would leave and spend some time alone to refresh myself. Upon my return, I am usually able to find a solution quickly. Your mind has to recuperate or else you will not be able to function properly.
Exercise is the Food for the Soul
Exercising is another great way to combat stress. Everybody has heard that a person should perform 3 to 4 times a week 30 minutes of exercise. By doing this, you are able to cope with the unwanted distractions better and can recuperate faster after a hectic day. Also, a secondary effect is that you will probably lose weight and feel better.
Mistakes will happen
It amazes me how people always dwell on mistakes and spend a lot of time and energy on them. I know that mistakes will happen and plan for them. People should take responsibility for their mistakes, fix them and learn from them. My theory is that if a person is making mistakes, it means that they are working and taking risk. You just have to supervise that you are not always making the same mistakes. If you are making the same mistakes, you are not learning and being unproductive.
When dealing with a customer, I have always found that most people are reasonable. Following my script of taking responsibility and fixing the issue, people will understand the situation and be impressed with your attitude. There will be less conflict in your interaction with customers.
Time and Scope Factor
Another way that I look at mistakes is I figure out how long people will remember the mistake or how many people does the mistake affect? If people will forget the mistake quickly or it only affects one or two people and they do not dwell on it, I will not spend an enormous amount of time on the issue. For example, the Enron scandal created a large scope of damage with people losing their pension and employment. A person should definitely be concerned with this situation and find a solution so that it does occur again. Compare to somebody cutting you off on the freeway, this is not a big thing and should not send you it a fit of rage.
Get out there and enjoy yourself with your family and friends because time goes by very fast. I still not have heard a person state that they should have spent more time at the office on their death bed; so remember to relax as it is not the end of the world.
Copyright 2006 Greg Doucet. All rights reserved.
Any suggestions or comments, please write to Greg Doucet at caromat@nbnet.nb.ca.
BONUS : Relaxation Exercises And Ridiculous Mental Conditioning
When Oprah Winfrey was interviewed by the legendary US television reporter Barbara Walters she was asked "what's the reason you put yourself on the line week after week, year after year, on the cutting edge of human emotion?" Oprah replied "Teaching people to take responsibly. I believe the secret to life is to take responsibility, once people grasp that I believe everything in their life changes. Once people understand it and live it, they are at cause for their life rather than living in effect and in reaction."
Public issues aside most people agree Bill Clinton was a very charismatic leader. Yet by his own admission in his autobiography he talks about painful acts in his childhood, anger and emotion that drove him to a better life. He hit a level of threshold where he was finally dissatisfied enough with his life to make changes. He was literally propelled forward to improve his life, and dream, and apply and learn the tools and strategies to assist himself and those around him. It's up to us to make a decision, to release all our negative emotions, to live in the present and to move into the future with improvement. The best thing about the past is that it's over.
Make a decision right now to release any old emotion you had with other people and move forward empowered. Put your shoulders back. Now stop and do something a little ridiculous. Float way up in the air in your mind, imagine youÂre near a big ravine, put 100 singers down each side and hear them singing now. Hear the lightning coming down the side of the cliff. Feel the static electricity in the air. Now imagine a big puma in front of you, licking its lips. Now step inside the puma, feel the muscles and the strength and look way down the bottom, way off into the distance, so small itÂs barely a speck, way down the bottom of the cliff is a person or situation you were facing. Hear the singers sing "Your Butt is Mine". Most of us don't feel good because we donÂt do what could be described as "ridiculous mental conditioning".
Stop now and imagine a room in your mind, walk down the stairs, as you walk down with each stair releasing negativity and building up strength. At the bottom is a door. Open it. Inside is a beautiful garden. Imagine the sight, the sound, the feel and the smell. And in this garden are some people you need to meet. You need to have a conversation with them that goes something along the lines of "I forgive you". You may not be aware yet of the cords that still connect you to these people.
Now, stop and take two giant blades and drop them down and cut those cords and see the people fly off into the distance to go about their own growing. Now feel a pleasant feeling in your body. Lock this feeling in.
Consciously feel the release. Now visualize in front of you how you want to be, a more advanced version of you. Filled with whatever positive emotions you desire. Stop and imagine the qualities you need. Notice how does this new you look? Notice how his new you is feeling? Notice how this new you sounds? If you havenÂt yet noticed then feel the strength from being around this new you. Notice how this new you stands and breathes. Now step into this taking on all the qualities of this new you. Make a commitment with this deepest part of yourself to take this new you around with you wherever you go.
What would this new you do? What would this new you stand for? What would this new you contribute? What would this new you be interested in? How will this you respond when you get off track? How will it feel when you live you life at this new standard? Step into this new you and feel the feelings in your body.
Decide to take your relationships to the next level. People love to talk about their own interests, learn to cultivate the art of being a good listener and people will like you - even if you have to sacrifice some of the conversational enjoyment for yourself to give to others. Watch the difference in your own life. People build up rapport with others by speaking at about the same speed and the same volume as the other person.
Consciously dwell on something that makes you feel strong. Clear your head. Adapt some positive characteristics of a role model. One of the best ways to gain confidence is to decide right now to have it, and embrace it.
When Oprah Winfrey was interviewed by the legendary US television reporter Barbara Walters she was asked "what's the reason you put yourself on the line week after week, year after year, on the cutting edge of human emotion?" Oprah replied "Teaching people to take responsibly. I believe the secret to life is to take responsibility, once people grasp that I believe everything in their life changes. Once people understand it and live it, they are at cause for their life rather than living in effect and in reaction."
Public issues aside most people agree Bill Clinton was a very charismatic leader. Yet by his own admission in his autobiography he talks about painful acts in his childhood, anger and emotion that drove him to a better life. He hit a level of threshold where he was finally dissatisfied enough with his life to make changes. He was literally propelled forward to improve his life, and dream, and apply and learn the tools and strategies to assist himself and those around him. It's up to us to make a decision, to release all our negative emotions, to live in the present and to move into the future with improvement. The best thing about the past is that it's over.
Make a decision right now to release any old emotion you had with other people and move forward empowered. Put your shoulders back. Now stop and do something a little ridiculous. Float way up in the air in your mind, imagine youÂre near a big ravine, put 100 singers down each side and hear them singing now. Hear the lightning coming down the side of the cliff. Feel the static electricity in the air. Now imagine a big puma in front of you, licking its lips. Now step inside the puma, feel the muscles and the strength and look way down the bottom, way off into the distance, so small itÂs barely a speck, way down the bottom of the cliff is a person or situation you were facing. Hear the singers sing "Your Butt is Mine". Most of us don't feel good because we donÂt do what could be described as "ridiculous mental conditioning".
Stop now and imagine a room in your mind, walk down the stairs, as you walk down with each stair releasing negativity and building up strength. At the bottom is a door. Open it. Inside is a beautiful garden. Imagine the sight, the sound, the feel and the smell. And in this garden are some people you need to meet. You need to have a conversation with them that goes something along the lines of "I forgive you". You may not be aware yet of the cords that still connect you to these people.
Now, stop and take two giant blades and drop them down and cut those cords and see the people fly off into the distance to go about their own growing. Now feel a pleasant feeling in your body. Lock this feeling in.
Consciously feel the release. Now visualize in front of you how you want to be, a more advanced version of you. Filled with whatever positive emotions you desire. Stop and imagine the qualities you need. Notice how does this new you look? Notice how his new you is feeling? Notice how this new you sounds? If you havenÂt yet noticed then feel the strength from being around this new you. Notice how this new you stands and breathes. Now step into this taking on all the qualities of this new you. Make a commitment with this deepest part of yourself to take this new you around with you wherever you go.
What would this new you do? What would this new you stand for? What would this new you contribute? What would this new you be interested in? How will this you respond when you get off track? How will it feel when you live you life at this new standard? Step into this new you and feel the feelings in your body.
Decide to take your relationships to the next level. People love to talk about their own interests, learn to cultivate the art of being a good listener and people will like you - even if you have to sacrifice some of the conversational enjoyment for yourself to give to others. Watch the difference in your own life. People build up rapport with others by speaking at about the same speed and the same volume as the other person.
Consciously dwell on something that makes you feel strong. Clear your head. Adapt some positive characteristics of a role model. One of the best ways to gain confidence is to decide right now to have it, and embrace it.
