Eight Steps To Taking Control Of Every Situation In Your Life

Title:
Eight Steps to Taking Control of Every Situation in Your Life

Word Count:
1031

Summary:
Like it or not, we are all gladiators. We go to sleep and wake up in a social arena from which there is no escape. Challenge upon challenge confronts us...


Keywords:
goal setting, success


Article Body:
Like it or not, we are all gladiators. We go to sleep and wake up in a social arena from which there is no escape. Challenge upon challenge confronts us, walls restrain us, and a mob of spectators mocks, sneers, or cheers us. Each and every day brings new battles whether we want them or not and whether we're up to them or not. Life forces us to face one skirmish after another - no choice in the matter.

What we can choose, though, is which kind of gladiator to be, victor or victim.

Being a victim in this social arena translates into having bad relationships.

Most people are victims - victims of their own perceptions.

That's because people don't develop and listen to their own unique, authentic self. Rather they allow their mental spectators - those little tyrants rattling around in their heads - to tell them second by second how to fight their battles, what they can and cannot do. These tyrants applaud and they hiss, they encourage and they discourage.

These mental spectators are the memories of the judgments of real-life people. For example, it's the memory of your aunt saying, "I hope you marry someone rich, because you're not going far on brains." It's the echo of your father growling, "You've got a back problem - no spine."

And their influence over your relationships can't be overestimated.

Millions of people accept the judgments of their mental spectators as the truth and, therefore, the mediocre results that come from believing those judgments.

With so many people living this way, the question becomes, is this the way I have to live? Fortunately, the answer is not unless you want to.

Once you identify your mental spectators - and your interactions with them - you can move beyond victim and assume the role of victor.

What it takes are eight steps for getting command, eight steps you can apply to most any situation you want altered. You can positively influence your relationships, your employment options, any aspect of your life.

Let's look at the steps.

1. Define What Ails You.
Ask, what's my problem? Am I a jealous weasel, troubled that others have what I want? Am I ticked off most of the time? Am I sad and whiney? Anxiety ridden? Moody? All of the above? Without this step, you're doomed. It will take personal courage, but you won't get results without identifying what ails you.

2. Discover the Effects.
Ask, how are my problems affecting my life? Am I a lousy parent, a friendless dork, a backstabber, a slut, a drunk, a junkie? Am I none of the above, but someone who is less than I could be? This step requires absolute self-honesty, but the truth will help set you free.

3. Seek the Source.
Ask, from where are my problems coming? Who are my real and my mental spectators? What do my mental spectators look like, say, and do? Exactly who or what is keeping me from taking command of my life? This could be one of the most incredible experiences of your life. You will look into the abyss and see who is looking back.

4. Identify Your Role.
Ask, how am I contributing to my problems? What is my responsibility in all this? Did I decide to be a garbage disposal? Do I beat myself to death trying to please others? Do I expect things of myself that are unfair? Do I treat myself as a friend or an enemy? Do I allow my mental spectators to drive me to distraction, depression, anger, anxiety? Recognizing your role in your own problems is a positive - but scary - step toward knowing yourself and gaining personal command.

5. State Your Desires.
Ask, what do I specifically want to do about my problems? Do I want to be a doormat, a slut, a drunk, a friendless geek? Or do I want to rule my mental spectators? Do I want to stand up to a spectator, real or imagined, who puts me down? Do I want to take command of my education, my bank account, my relationships? Until you can actually list your desires in the order of their importance, you will be a victim. However, once you do this, you are on your way to being a victor.

6. Seek Options.
Ask, what are my options, and in what order should I place them? What is the first option I should concentrate on? The second one? The third? If you have a soul-sucking hangover most mornings, you might opt to give up your booze buddies for some real friends. Secondly, take the money you normally spend at bars and deposit it in a college fund for yourself or your kids. If, instead, you're a workaholic and you want to spend more time with your kids, then DO IT. Very few people on their deathbed have said, "If I could live life all over again, I'd spend more of it at work and less with people I love." Choices are involved here, but by weighing options and alternatives, and then making personal choices, you are taking command. Do this and you'll begin to gain real power.

7. Learn Winning Techniques.
Ask, how do I rule my real and my mental spectators? Must I collapse in a heap when they point thumbs down? How can I learn to take charge on every level and get a grip on my life? There is no "magic" involved, but you might feel as if there is. Unlike a vanquished gladiator falling at the whim of spectators, you decide your own course.

8. Master Your Relationships.
Ask, what more can I do to master my relationships by strengthening myself and my perceptions? How do I take command right now in developing my own identification and self-worth? Congratulations! You're working on the one person in the entire world you can work on - YOU! And any improvements in yourself can't help but enrich your relationships with other people and the world around you.

Although this is only a brief overview of each of the eight steps for jump-starting your relationships and taking control of your life, you'd be amazed at how significant the effects of a few minor adjustments in perception can be.

BONUS : Title:
Emotional Freedom Technique: A Success Story!

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418

Summary:
After training in Emotional Freedom Technique some years ago I was asked to be a guest on a radio station on the south coast of England. The show was about weight loss, however when I arrived I found out that they had more in store for me. The show presenter wanted to do something on air to demonstrate the effectiveness of the therapies that I practiced, so that his listens could understand the process which I used.

What he had in mind was to help someone with a phobia of...


Keywords:
eft. emotional freedom techique, hypnosis, hypnotherapy, hypnotherapist, self hypnosis


Article Body:
After training in Emotional Freedom Technique some years ago I was asked to be a guest on a radio station on the south coast of England. The show was about weight loss, however when I arrived I found out that they had more in store for me. The show presenter wanted to do something on air to demonstrate the effectiveness of the therapies that I practiced, so that his listens could understand the process which I used.

What he had in mind was to help someone with a phobia of heights to feel comfortable on the top of a high building.

In fact he had roped in his fellow presenter who co-hosted the breakfast show on the same station. This guy really was petrified when in came to heights. From what I can remember this guy even had an issue with being on level three of the building that we where using for the experiment.

This was certainly going to be a challenge and failure was definitely not an option. There was too much riding on this for that to be the case. I was getting coverage on two different shows so I wanted this to be a success.

When the time come to help this guy, I started with Hypnosis which we done off air and in the offices of the station. This really helped him to relax and feel ready to take the next step. Luckily the presenter that had invited me had found the largest building in the city and had gained permission to use it for the experiment. While stood at the base of the building the guy that I was working with was already getting nervous as he know what was coming.

This is when I decided to try out EFT. We done one round of treatment and then ascended to the first floor. When we got there he felt happy, however still felt nervous due to the task that laid ahead. We then done a further three rounds of EFT and we saw a definite change in him. At this point he started walking to the top of the building – he seemed so eager that it was actually hard to keep up with him at this point.

When we got to the top he was fine – in fact he was more that fine he was ecstatic! Really excited that something that had held him back for so long was now gone and he was feeling 100% comfortable about it.

Another success for EFT!