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Help Your Teen Build Self Esteem
Every parent wants the son or daughter to have a self esteem in order to be successful in life. This begins the moment the infant is born into the world and will this continue, as the person grows older.
Studies show that adults define self esteem in two different ways. For adults, this is the way one perceives oneself to others. For teens, it is the other way around and the only way to fit in will be to be cool just like the rest.
Why the difference? This is perhaps because of the age gap. Adults have spent enough time already in the world to know the difference between things that are important to those that are trivial. Teenagers are just learning the ropes.
So, what changes to adults do to continually build up self esteem in a teen? Since these people are in the age of discovery, the best thing parents can do is be open in answering questions about certain issues and being supportive in the decisions that the individual makes.
If the teenager wants to work or tryout for the football team, parents will hope for the best that things will turn out just fine. Others will even help the kid practice to avoid choking during the tryouts.
Parents also build self esteem by disciplining the teenager should something wrong be done. Explaining why is it wrong is much better than yelling because this will enable the individual to understand and hopefully avoid from making the same mistake again.
Another part of building self esteem on the part of the parents is being able to give comfort when things dont work out. Teenagers will feel heartbroken if the couple breaks up given that it is the first love and the only thing the parents can do is say everything will turn out fine and someone better will come along in the future.
Self esteem doesnt only come from the parents. This also comes from those who work in school and those that are considered to be one's friends. This is because parents have other things to do and it is the job of faculty to mould the students
Friends on the other hand are like parents who may offer words of comfort if the son or daughter is too ashamed or shy to talk about things happening in life.
Building self esteem helps the teenager evolve. This allows the person to either change or remain where one is. If life has not turned out the way that was expected, this is the opportunity to start anew which is similar to living the whole new life all over again.
Eventually, the individual will learn that self esteem is innate. This happens after the person realizes one's strengths and weaknesses so the teenager will focus on things that are easy while at the same time learning a few tricks to improve on those deficiencies.
It is true when people say that the family is the only place that the teen can turn to when the weight of the world is one's shoulders. This is the biggest responsibility of being a parent and the only times the guardians can rest is maybe when the son or daughter grows up and decides to start a family.
BONUS : How to Build Self Esteem in Children
Every parent wants their children to succeed in life and the only way to do that is build their self-esteem.
But what is self-esteem? Simply put this is how an individual sees themselves. It is something we inherit and not born with. Children dont know what that is and this is the reason why parents have to help them find it.
To do that, we have to make our children feel good by expressing them to positive statements. A classic example is to say good job for something they did. If you say that frequently, this will be stored in their minds and will surely want to hear more of that in the future.
Since self-esteem is not only about making them feel good about themselves, you will also have to teach them how to express positive statements as well. If they are having difficulty in a task, they should be taught now to give up and say to themselves, I can do it if I continue trying.
Another way they can learn to do that is to buy audio tapes that talk about positive self statements which are designed to help develop their self-esteem.
Our kids are not perfect. As they grow up, they will make a few mistakes and we have to reprimand them for their actions. Instead of saying something negative like why did you do such a lousy job?, you can rephrase it in a way that is more appealing to their senses. A good example will be to say dont you think there is a better way to do it? Such a statement will make them think and then let them try to do it again.
In order for our kids to know right from wrong, we also have to impart to them decision making. Your child must be taught first to analyze the problem and then think for a bit before making a decision.
The best way to do that is to ask the child certain questions so they can learn how to look at a problem. It will also be helpful if you brainstorm with them for possible solutions especially if they have no idea what to do.
You should only allow your child to use the solution of their choice after becoming fully aware of the consequences. Naturally, the right solution will solve the problem and make the child feel good about themselves.
Part of building your childs self esteem is allowing them to make choices. Let them choose what hobbies or interests they want to pursue and not something you want because instead of doing it for themselves, they are just doing it to make you happy.
Lastly, let your children realize their strengths and weaknesses. If they are good in certain things, let them excel in it. As for things that are not their forte, let them try to improve on it because it is possible that this can change with some time and practice.
Building the self esteem of your child is not easy and this is one of the duties that every parent must fulfill while they are growing up. If you did a good job, they will be successful in life and you can tell them how proud you are of what they have accomplished.
Every parent wants their children to succeed in life and the only way to do that is build their self-esteem.
But what is self-esteem? Simply put this is how an individual sees themselves. It is something we inherit and not born with. Children dont know what that is and this is the reason why parents have to help them find it.
To do that, we have to make our children feel good by expressing them to positive statements. A classic example is to say good job for something they did. If you say that frequently, this will be stored in their minds and will surely want to hear more of that in the future.
Since self-esteem is not only about making them feel good about themselves, you will also have to teach them how to express positive statements as well. If they are having difficulty in a task, they should be taught now to give up and say to themselves, I can do it if I continue trying.
Another way they can learn to do that is to buy audio tapes that talk about positive self statements which are designed to help develop their self-esteem.
Our kids are not perfect. As they grow up, they will make a few mistakes and we have to reprimand them for their actions. Instead of saying something negative like why did you do such a lousy job?, you can rephrase it in a way that is more appealing to their senses. A good example will be to say dont you think there is a better way to do it? Such a statement will make them think and then let them try to do it again.
In order for our kids to know right from wrong, we also have to impart to them decision making. Your child must be taught first to analyze the problem and then think for a bit before making a decision.
The best way to do that is to ask the child certain questions so they can learn how to look at a problem. It will also be helpful if you brainstorm with them for possible solutions especially if they have no idea what to do.
You should only allow your child to use the solution of their choice after becoming fully aware of the consequences. Naturally, the right solution will solve the problem and make the child feel good about themselves.
Part of building your childs self esteem is allowing them to make choices. Let them choose what hobbies or interests they want to pursue and not something you want because instead of doing it for themselves, they are just doing it to make you happy.
Lastly, let your children realize their strengths and weaknesses. If they are good in certain things, let them excel in it. As for things that are not their forte, let them try to improve on it because it is possible that this can change with some time and practice.
Building the self esteem of your child is not easy and this is one of the duties that every parent must fulfill while they are growing up. If you did a good job, they will be successful in life and you can tell them how proud you are of what they have accomplished.
