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What Is Self Esteem
What is self esteem? It is merely an opinion of how you see yourself. There are two types namely high self esteem and low self esteem and between the two, it is better to have the first. This is because high self-esteem enables you to love yourself for who you are while low self esteem doesnÂt make you grow as a person and make you successful.
But where do you get self-esteem? Well as a child, you get it from your parents. If they raised you right and praised you for your achievements, chances are you will have a positive outlook of yourself and life. If you happen to be raised by parents who are not very caring, well you wonÂt see the positive qualities you have and will have an angry outlook at the world.
You can also get this from your friends and your peers because sometimes, how we feel about ourselves is based on the perception of others. If you are able to ignore the negative sentiment, you are fine because you donÂt let such words affect you.
In the end though, your self esteem comes from inside you. To figure that out, you can ask yourself some simple questions. Do you like who you are? Are you happy? Do you think you are a good person? Most of the time, the answer is yes even if sometimes you have doubts about yourself.
To get rid of those doubts, well you should first accept your faults and realize that you are not the only one that has this problem. Everyone has a few flaws that they want to get rid of so you must have the willingness to change in order to improve yourself.
Another thing you should accept is that you are different from the rest. This is not only in terms of your physical attributes but also who you are personally just like each person has their own set of fingerprints that can never be duplicated by anyone else.
For those that need help, well they can get counseling to improve their self-esteem or listen to self-help tapes that are designed to do the same thing as well.
Another technique which wonÂt cost you a thing will be to write down on a piece of paper 50 things you like about yourself and then cherishing it. Since we all grow and change every single day, try to write down one good thing you did about yourself daily so you can look up and realize that you are not a bad person.
When you have high self esteem, you are less likely to do anything destructive to yourself or to others. This is because you have a positive outlook about life and are always optimistic about the future. With that, you can probably say you can get anything you want out of life when you have this quality but remember not to confuse it with being too overconfident because there are two different things.
Another benefit of high self esteem is being able to have an easier time handling problems and resisting negative pressures. But we should not forget that is something that we inherit and not something we are born with. This can change in the years to come only if we allow it and if this happens, hopefully we can be better than who we were before rather than going the opposite direction.
BONUS : What To Do When You Need to Boost Your Self Confidence
Small differences make great changes.
It all boils down in a singe idea that would recreate your self image. Remember when you were so confident of having done something then someone commented on how bad things went? Remember when you were struggling to finish your work satisfactorily when someone said you would never make it to promotion? Remember when you set out to run a mile and people scrutinized you for having such goal? Remember all those times. They all rooted from pessimistic commentaries that were of no use but to destroy the positive spirit in you that says " you can".
Self confidence lies near to positive thinking. If you think positively of yourself and take stock of all positive attributes you have while considering the worth of those you lack then you can atleast make yourself believe that you can actually do and can make things happen.
Positive thinking is not being overly hopeful of something that is unachievable. Central to boosting self confidence and positive thinking is the setting of realistic goals that you can reach for while not delimiting your capacities.
Normally when we set out to do something we tend to over calculate things and plan to achieve things beyond our present reach. This, we say, would encourage us to work double time. But the point we are missing is that once we fail our expectations and the expectations of the crowd that is watching us, we will be discouraged to try things again.
You see, on our initial tries it is not bad if we would set achievable goals rather than confidence boosting-unrealistic goals that would leave us dismayed.
When you really need to feel good about yourself, remember that self confidence is largely controlled by the hormonal balance in our body. Thus, you can alter your mood by stimulating yourself to do so. Say, if you have this vivid memory of having been able to achieve something or you once had "cheerleaders" who pushed you to achieving greater things, you can surely use them to manipulate your emotions. If not, then remember the moments when you really felt happy about yourself. Controlling the reins of your moods and emotions can contribute to your over all confidence.
At one point of our lives, we all have been our own critics. Undue criticisms don't only make us vulnerable to negative thoughts, they also affect our over all personal perspectives.
Have you noticed how we criticize ourselves without even realizing that we cant utter those very things to other people? We are harsher to ourselves than we can imagine. Thus, with every negative input we receive from this critic, we are left upset and unconfident. It is like tearing the walls that we have built for long in exchange for a few unjust remarks that we rarely need.
Avoid using sweeping statements about yourself because these are the very things that would eventually strip you off your good self image. Recreating the comments you give to yourself will have a huge impact on your self confidence.
In the end, destruction comes from within us. Other people may argue that we are affected by external pessimism. True, yet this would only affect us once we allow entry towards ourselves. Thus, you only have to create barriers from negative inputs while strengthening your underlying foundations.
Small differences make great changes.
It all boils down in a singe idea that would recreate your self image. Remember when you were so confident of having done something then someone commented on how bad things went? Remember when you were struggling to finish your work satisfactorily when someone said you would never make it to promotion? Remember when you set out to run a mile and people scrutinized you for having such goal? Remember all those times. They all rooted from pessimistic commentaries that were of no use but to destroy the positive spirit in you that says " you can".
Self confidence lies near to positive thinking. If you think positively of yourself and take stock of all positive attributes you have while considering the worth of those you lack then you can atleast make yourself believe that you can actually do and can make things happen.
Positive thinking is not being overly hopeful of something that is unachievable. Central to boosting self confidence and positive thinking is the setting of realistic goals that you can reach for while not delimiting your capacities.
Normally when we set out to do something we tend to over calculate things and plan to achieve things beyond our present reach. This, we say, would encourage us to work double time. But the point we are missing is that once we fail our expectations and the expectations of the crowd that is watching us, we will be discouraged to try things again.
You see, on our initial tries it is not bad if we would set achievable goals rather than confidence boosting-unrealistic goals that would leave us dismayed.
When you really need to feel good about yourself, remember that self confidence is largely controlled by the hormonal balance in our body. Thus, you can alter your mood by stimulating yourself to do so. Say, if you have this vivid memory of having been able to achieve something or you once had "cheerleaders" who pushed you to achieving greater things, you can surely use them to manipulate your emotions. If not, then remember the moments when you really felt happy about yourself. Controlling the reins of your moods and emotions can contribute to your over all confidence.
At one point of our lives, we all have been our own critics. Undue criticisms don't only make us vulnerable to negative thoughts, they also affect our over all personal perspectives.
Have you noticed how we criticize ourselves without even realizing that we cant utter those very things to other people? We are harsher to ourselves than we can imagine. Thus, with every negative input we receive from this critic, we are left upset and unconfident. It is like tearing the walls that we have built for long in exchange for a few unjust remarks that we rarely need.
Avoid using sweeping statements about yourself because these are the very things that would eventually strip you off your good self image. Recreating the comments you give to yourself will have a huge impact on your self confidence.
In the end, destruction comes from within us. Other people may argue that we are affected by external pessimism. True, yet this would only affect us once we allow entry towards ourselves. Thus, you only have to create barriers from negative inputs while strengthening your underlying foundations.
